Many people have different reactions to the loss of a child, whether it is "early on" or actually all the way to "term." This is not a condition that is straight up and down. Your particular feeling is "customized" just for you. YOU must know that I sympathize with you. I want to share some scriptures with you. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. On a daily basis, you should read Psalm 35 to (Plead My Cause). You have to ask the Lord in a sincere way for whatever you want. The Lord will hear you and give you the comfort you seek, with anything that you request. Also, when you go into a room or a building, say quietly "Peace Be To This House" - Luke 10:5. Those who are within those premises won't know why they are so peaceful. The credit for this will come from you. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-11-05 04:59:47
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answered by In God We Trust 7
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When it comes to FEELINGS, there are no "shoulds"--should you feel this way or should you not, for example.
However, I can tell you from observing friends who've had miscarriages, it is normal (usual, frequent) to grieve longer than two and a half months. After all, how long were you connecting with the possibility of a baby before the miscarriage?
If you want to reduce the pain your grief causes you, get involved with some activities that help others. You could visit an orphanage or child welfare home, help out with a children's Bible school class, or baby sit. If it's too painful to be around little ones who aren't your own, visit nursing homes to sing to or read to or just sit with people who need human companionship.
Focusing on others always reduces one's own pain.
2007-11-05 05:04:44
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answered by Amazonian 2
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i dont know how far along you were in your pregnancy or if this was to be your first child, but it is normal to feel sad, upest or angry. it is part of the greiving process. Contact your obgyn or family dr and let them know what is going on with you and how you are feeling. they may suggest a mild antidepressent. If you are are unable to move on from the mc there is something wrong, by doing nothing can only cause more mental problems down the road. I waited and became borderline bipolar when i lost my son and mc the next pregnancy. 2 years later w/ medication i am better, life is enjoyable, and have a new beautiful baby girl (3 total).
2007-11-05 05:08:09
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answered by Heather P 2
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You know hte last girl that just posted no is so wrong for putting that. No one can answer this for you, but what I do know is that time heals all. I had 4 babys that I lost my 1st m/c was 6 years ago and from time to time I still think about the babygirl I lost. Your heart will always ache because of this because a part of you was lost. With time you will move on but you will never forget the baby you lost. You'll move on and have a family and life will be better. But you will always remember your lost angel.
2007-11-05 05:03:25
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answered by ysmith 2
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Sweetie everything takes time. I had a m/c 3 years ago and it still hearts time to time when I think about it. Don't rush yourself but try not to think about the past too much and concentrate on the future once I did that I got pregnant again and had twins. So I look at it as if God gave me my child back plus another. I understand you pain but believe me you will have kids and you'll feel a lot better. Please if you have any questions email me and I'll be glad to chat with you. I've been through all of that and I'll love to help. God Bless
2007-11-05 05:02:06
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answered by ? 1
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I still haven't really got over mine. I got pregnant 3 months after mine and that was way too soon, i'm paranoid that something is going to happen to this one and I can't stop thinking that I would have a 2 and a half month old baby right now if they didn't die. Take whatever time you need, if it is a huge part of your life still you may want to try counsling. Good luck!
2007-11-05 05:01:26
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answered by Anonymous
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i had a miscarriage over 3 years ago and i still think about my baby. loosing a baby hurts and most people think about it the rest of your life. you have every right to feel heart broken, and if you didn't then i would be concerned. i cried almost every day for a long time about it and talked about it a lot. having another baby helped me move on from the miscarriage, but you still have to deal with the grief of loosing a child. most people don't understand that its your child that died, just because it wasn't born alive it doesn't make it any more difficult to deal with it.
be sure to cry and talk about it and know when to stop crying and to think about it. if you can't manage, talk to a grief councilor.
sending you a big hug, it will get better.
2007-11-05 05:05:51
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answered by carol anne 5
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Not necessarily. Give yourself all the time you need. This was a great disappointment. You would not be over losing a parent, or a spouse, or a pet in this short time. This was your child which most of us have the strongest attachment to of all relationships. If you feel you need help, perhaps a visit to a grief counselor would help you. I am sorry for your loss. Good luck to you!!
2007-11-05 05:05:10
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answered by oldknowitall 7
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It takes time sweetie. I know I had 5 losses and eachone was very hard and it got hareder and harder. So feel bad you have that right! But you will wnt to try again and this time everything might work out. GOD does stuff for a reason for everyone. But it will be ok.
Wish you the best!
2007-11-05 05:02:28
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answered by Anonymous
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You are morning the loss of a child, it makes no difference that it had not yet been born. I was sad for a long, long time. Every year, at what would have been his b-day, I thought about what he would look like now, how was he growing, what would his personality be. It will hurt, grieving will take its course.
2007-11-05 05:08:05
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answered by bronte heights 6
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