A friend of mine just found out she is pregnant again, and has decided on an abortion. Just 4 months ago, she was in the same predicament. She had her first abortion, and hated herself for it. It seemed like she was literally going insane from it. She had also vowed to get on BC, and never have another abortion.
She can't seem to learn her lesson. She is pregnant again, (4th time!..shes 21) And announced that she is getting another abortion. In a case like this, I think its horribly wrong. She's using it as a form of birth control, which is absolutely disgusting to me. The first time, I could sort of understand... The second time, 4 mo later? No..
Has anyone ever been, or known someone in this situation? Do you think she will really be able to go through with another abortion, knowing how bad it hurt the first time.
She would call herself a murderer, and all this crazy stuff. I just dont understand.
2007-11-05 04:55:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your friend seems to be missing something very basic here. Sex often leads to a baby being conceived, EVEN IF the mother is on birth control.
Abstinence is what she should consider, not pills or condoms or multiple abortions.
But it sounds like your friend is not serious about anything, whether that is her sexual behavior, becoming a mother, or killing her innocent children.
The tears she shed over her first abortion sure did dry quickly when she started sleeping around again. Looks like she was not TRULY repentent.
I would suggest that you talk to your friend VERY seriously about what happened with that first baby. Remind her that she deliberately chose to kill an innocent child to cover up for her irresponsible sexual behavior. That is so very wrong and your friend has got to see this and meditate on it before she can truly repent. If might be helpful to meet with a minister or priest since the root of this problem is spiritual.
Considering another abortion so soon means she is not truly sorry for the first one.
Pray hard that she will have a true change of heart and see her sin in all of its ugliness.
2007-11-05 07:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you just started your BC, then for the first few months it can make your period go a little wonkey. If you've been onit for a little while though I would just wait a bit, your period may just be off this month, you could have some old blood in there. Just give it a week or so. I would test again on the 16th a week after our supposed to have your period if it hasn't come by then. Try not to stress out too much, as it can delay your period. Try drinking some green tea, and taking a bath, as it can help with moving things along. If it turns out you are preganant, and you decided to keep and raise this bay, remember that your whole life will change. I know that's an obvious thing to say, but you really don't know how much untill you have that screaming child in your arms. It's very hard being a teen parent. I watched my sister do it; it is possible. Remember your faimly is there to help you, even if they may be judgemental about it. If it turns out that this scare was just that, you may want to slow down a little or get some condoms. ^.^ Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck.
2016-05-27 23:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anyone who has ever had an abortion. I had a friend that wanted one, but didn't have the money to get one & I wasn't about to give her money for that. She was 19 at the time with 2 kids & pregnant with the 3rd. She's now 20 with a 3 y/o, 20 month old, & a 5 month old. All girls & all so cute. I think ur friend should definitely keep her legs closed or use BC, along with my friend. One day, she'll be wishing for a baby & won't be able to have one b/c of all of the abortions. Good luck to u!!
2007-11-05 05:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to her! Lots of my friends have been in this situation, where they still continued irresponsible behavior after becoming pregnant unexpectedly once. One of my friends HAD to have an abortion because she is epileptic, and could not carry fullterm with the medication she has to take for that condition. Her sister, 1 year younger, later had an abortion because she did not want to upset their mother,(which I do not understand. If your parents love you, they will still love you & they will love your child. If push comes to shove, Who says you have to keep the baby after you give birth?) but her mother found out ANYWAY through the medical billing. That same girl told another friend to get one about a month later and she did. Another friend had her baby at just 15 who is 2 yrs old now. Her sister, one year older, is expecting right now! Show her some abortion info on websites. Not just the nice sites, show her some really gory pictures. They really open your eyes. Also, tell her that one day, when she finally FEELS she is ready to have a child, she may not be able to if she does this. This is her child that she would be aborting. She needs to care.
2007-11-05 05:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥True love waits♥ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, your friend sounds like she was so scarred from the first abortion that she is having the second abortion to kind of numb herself. Once someone makes a decision that they are really angry at themselves for, they sometimes end up kind of spiraling out of control in an attempt to make themselves not care anymore about their regretted choice. (This may have begun even before the first abortion, too). Please encourage your friend to seek some counselling before she actually follows through with this. Take her to a crisis pregnancy center, where they have trained professionals there to help women in need.
2007-11-05 05:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend go through something similar. She had an abortion and 3 or 4 months later she was pregnant again but she kept it because obviously she was meant to have another baby.
Your friend is going to ruin her body by doing this. I hope she reconsiders.
2007-11-05 05:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ginger S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have met a girl like this. she once even waited till seh was 3 months and showing and took a pic of herself and still carries it around and explains that she had an abortion blah blah blah!
but in ur friends case, she is using it as a form of bc. after a period of time and so many abortions she will not be able to have kids. she is very unresponsible and i feel bad for her. she has no respect for human life. you should tell her to grow up and stop being such a hoe!
2007-11-05 05:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by kittenthemagician 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since she obviously knows what causes pregnancy, I can only conclude that she is doing this to either:
1. Get a man to commit to her, and when it backfires, she gets scared and aborts
2. Attention. She may have some mental disorder like Munchhousen's or Munchhousen's by proxy.
Either way, she needs to see a counselor so this doesn't become a terrible pattern. I have no idea how multiple abortions could harm her future ability to get pregnant.
AZ
2007-11-05 05:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by stargate_fruitloops 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your friend needs to do some real soul searching. Using abortion as a means of birth control is wrong in my eyes. There are other ways to prevent pregancy.
2007-11-05 05:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well, all i can say is she f*cks a lot indeed XD no ofence.. besides she should be taking contraceptive pills. if she did and still got pregnant so i think abortion isn't a crazy thought since she protected herself from getting pregnant and i don't think she is a murderer.
2007-11-05 05:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Dude 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋