having sex and moved another (male or female) into the house, letting them wear the clothes of the dead person and telling them you love them when you only been with them since September.
2007-11-05 04:51:02 · 21 answers · asked by honestspeaking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They were high school sweet hearts so it was over 10 years.
2007-11-05 05:06:16 · update #1
yes to everything you said but the wearing of the dead persons cloths that's f***ed up freaky.
2007-11-05 04:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
Depends on the situation. Many people move on quickly after their spouse dies especially if it was a sudden death. The living spouse tends to want to fill the void quickly b/c the pain and loneliness is so great. But to have the new individual wearing the deceased spouses clothing is very unhealthy and a little twisted.
2007-11-05 12:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by misbotta 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That sounds creepy I think if my spouse passed I would get rid of all their clothes just for the purpose of not having more memories around. How can you truly get over and move on if you keep momentos of the person that has passed away. I think if a year has passed the stuff should be packed up and given away or destroyed. If your starting to date again I think this would be a must.
2007-11-05 12:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 1st answerer..... it all depends on the kind of relationship you had with the spouse, how long you were married, how the decease happened. Everyone has their own mourning process and losing your loved one doesn't mean that you can never love anyone else. Maybe 1 yr would be a bit too soon for me, but that's just me. If you do feel like you love this new person, good for you..... if you're not suffering for your loss anymore, great. But yeah, the clothes thing does bother me some..... I wouldn't do that, out of respect for both my deceased spouse and my new partner.
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2007-11-05 13:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I wanted to find another mate a year after my husband died, I would start by getting back into the social scene. NO MAN would move in with me; NO MAN would wear my husband's clothes;NO MAN would hear me say I loved them after two months. Somebody is way too needy and making a lot of poor choices.
2007-11-05 13:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not be able to move on for a long long long time. I don't know if I could ever marry someone again, as he's my soulmate. I'd probably be dating after a year though, as I would be very lonely.
So I could see how someone might want to fill the void of loneliness by quickly finding someone new to love. Wearing their clothes is a little creepy though... I guess why not if no one else is using them.
2007-11-05 13:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My aunt died a year ago in September, and my uncle proposed to his now girl friend this July, and they are living together. Same with my step dad, his idiot ex wife wormed her way back into his life just a couple months after my mom died. Some people just cant be alone.
2007-11-05 13:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone shows grief in a different way and this may just be the way this person deals with things. There are no clear cut guidelines for when it's okay to start dating again.
2007-11-05 12:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it is bad enough to move on so quickly....but to let them wear their clothes??? That is so wrong!!!
2007-11-05 14:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by CENT174 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not sure about all that, but i would never let him wear the clothes...thats just wrong
2007-11-05 12:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋