We have just started trying, and she is very nervous that it will take a long time, or that there will be complications with the pregnancy. What can I do or say to help her stay calm and patient as we try to concieve our first child?
2007-11-05 04:26:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Just have sex, like you always did.
Do it often. And do it for fun, not because you want a kid. The kid part will happen if you're putting in the sex time.
2007-11-05 04:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very supportive and understanding. Being pregnant is very scary- you have no control over what is happening inside of you. As a women, you get attached and fall in love with the baby inside of you so quickly. It is devastating to lose a pregnancy. Only the naive do not have fears.
To help with maximizing your chances of getting pregnant, read the book: Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. The book fully explains cycles, charting and how to get pregnant. It is a wealth of information and a must read. If your wife starts charting her waking temperature with a basal thermometer, she will know exactly when she is ovulating and when you should have sex.
Do your best to stay active as a couple. Keep your wife entertained. The worst thing that people do is make getting pregnant their life. Do not give up your life while you are trying. People wind up getting very depressed when they are only focused on the one thing that isn't happening as quickly as they would like. Do not let your wife lose herself and what she enjoys.
Be very supportive and involved in the process. Be the strong one. Even though you are doing it together, it is so much harder on the women- physically and mentally.
2007-11-05 07:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rene A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you both are in this together so whatever fears or complications she is fearing, she should give 50% of that worry to you.
Addressing the situation like this will help to eliminate her worries/fears because she wouldnt want to give that burden to you.
The other thing is do just what you are doing now. Talk to her, reassure her, seek outside medical information and always let her know no matter what happens, you will always be there for her and you hope she will feels the same.
Good luck and much success
2007-11-05 04:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to listen and take her concerns seriously, even if the repetition gets boring. You can educate yourself about pregnancy and conception, but no matter how knowledgeable you are and how off-the-wall her worries get, let her finish speaking before you spout knowledge or wisdom.
Hugs. Hugs are always good.
Thirdly, find someone you can talk to and offload your own worries and concerns through the pregnancy so that you aren't trying to do this all alone. Other fathers might have good advice on how they got through the whole thing and what helped their partners.
2007-11-05 04:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by smtrodent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a woman and mom myself.
I know it helped me was to have to have attention given to me, like comforting. With maybe a back or foot massage. Flowers or suprises. A nice quiet evening out. As soothing the nerves help women calm down and forget that they're trying so hard to conceive, as putting to much efforts or emphesis on it can backfire. on you . Sometimes just a simple hug or positive feedback , or flowers etc to let her know that you arent wooried about the conceiving , just about her.
As the body works in wierd ways, And one of them is stress levels
if you're over stressed if wont do what you want it to.
Good luck and my prayers are with you both.
2007-11-05 05:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by poetbjc64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her hot tea-give her foot messages.
Let her know that no matter how long it takes you will be there for her. Tell her "imagine the fun we are gonna have trying"
The more she stresses about it the harder it will be to conceive. Just relax and enjoy the experience and talk about how great it will be when you do get pregnant.
I went through years or infertility treatment. Artificial insemenations, injections etc. The month I finally relaxed and "forgot" about getting pregnant we conceived! my son is 9 now-
Just RELAX! Good luck to you--you will soon be blessed!
2007-11-05 04:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Aero-Smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she not like sex or something? if she focuses on getting pregnant out of sex and none of the other benefits that comes with sex then she may be putting herself under a lot of pressure and thus yourself also, this added stress can mean that the sex becomes mechanical and unloving and sure she may get pregnant but in the process you are killing off any of the passion etc associated with sex. I'd say just have sex when the mood is right and make sure it is from one week after she finishes her period up till she starts her next, this is the ovulation time, also make sure she orgasms once you have come as the orgasm serves a purpose as it makes her cervix dip into you semen and makes the chances of pregnancy a lot higher.
2007-11-05 04:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Liquor.... and it might take a long time, or could happen the first time.. yes there could be complications, but maybe do some research on your own, so she can see how very very low the odds are, and lots of prenatal care will make a HUGE difference.. take good care of herself, stay healthy, etc..
2007-11-05 04:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Rafael P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a hobby that you both can enjoy to keep your mind off of it when you are not in the process of trying to conceive. Enjoy life and show her that you are there no matter what. Good luck!
2007-11-05 04:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by onenappsoul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to take her mind off of it. Plan a romantic evening for just you and her. Make her feel like a queen. And try to make the sex as fun as you can. And I'm not just talking about orgasms. I'm saying tickle her during foreplay. Say something silly to make her laugh.
2007-11-05 04:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lacye F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋