Well my husand and I have being married almost 3yrs and we both have good jobs, we both work for the government. However, his ex wife who has a daughter with doesn't even have H.S diploma, is very hard to reason with her she is too much drama alwasy asking for money. After a while we agreed is best not to talk to her unless is about the child. She calls my husband today telling us that she is getting her GED and will be getting her RN in less than a year we my husband told her that please don't call us unless is about the kid. Why is she calling us when is not about the kid are all baby's mom crazy or what why can she leave us a lone for a change and get a life.
2007-11-05 04:23:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I wasn't the reason why they got divorce, my husband divorced her *** 3yrs before i met him i'm 22 she is 28 my husband 28.
2007-11-05 04:39:58 · update #1
Some people have a hard time moving on. Stop answering her calls. Have him tell her that she is to leave a message and you will get back to her. That way, if it is about the child, he can call her back and if she is just calling about her own business, she can bugger off on her own with no return call.
2007-11-05 04:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, talk about someone feeling like they are better than someone else. She is trying to improve in her life, and it could've been something brought up by him during their relationship, that she decided she would let him know that she is finally doing it. I think it's awful of him and of you not to be supportive. What if a perfect stranger was talking to you and told you the same thing, you would reply, Good for you. You guys couldn't give that to her? She may have been drama, but this time she was letting you guys know she is trying and she didn't ask for money. A good person would've given praise, to someone who is trying to change for the good.
2007-11-05 04:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She IS trying to get a life. He should just say, "That's great! Good to hear that you have a goal and that we both hope that you succeed", and then ask if the child needs anything. And then end the conversation. Like it or not, they will always have a connection until that child is a legal adult. And no, not all babies' mommas are crazy.
2007-11-05 04:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's probably calling because she has no one else to share that with. Maybe she's calling because she feels that you are both successful and wants to let you guys know that she is trying to do something with her life. But she shouldn't be calling unless it's in regards to the kids.
2007-11-05 04:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting yourself in a tizzy about her calling to share good news? Maybe she wants encouragement and some support, and your husband is one of the people she looks up to?
Just because people are divorced doesnt mean they can't share things once in a while.
Maybe you are jealous? I don't know? Letting others control your emotions is not a good idea.
2007-11-05 04:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she will always be attached to yourr husband because of that common bond they have -- his child. She also sounds unrealistic. You can't get a GED and get to be an RN in a year's time. It takes 3 years. She sounds inmature to me.
2007-11-05 04:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's still clinging on to the feelings she had or still has for your hub. Of course it's evident she doesn't have a life, and she wants to bug the 2 of you....... the only thing you can do is ignore her ...... because you have no control on what other people do or say, so you can't really "make her stop". I think that if your husband shows himself really UNINTERESTED in whatever she has to say that doesn't have to do with the girl, then she will eventually stop trying to get his attention...... it depends on your husband to draw the line and make evident that he couldn't care less about what she does / doesn't do.
Would you answer my question?
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2007-11-05 04:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has the option of not answering her calls...If the ex really needs to talk about their daughter she will leave a message....and if the message has nothing to do with their daughter then he can ignore her.....Who knows why she is calling....maybe she just wants to share some good news with someone...anyone.....so I wouldn't worry about it....just let it go....
2007-11-05 04:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, she feels close to her ex husband, because they have a child together. She doesnt feel like its a big deal to 'clue' in her ex about whats going on in her life. But obviously he has moved on, so there is no reason for her to do this. Just tell her to stop.
2007-11-05 04:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by MayMay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she just called to tell him because it is possible that she may need him to take their daughter when she needs to study or take exams. She is probably going to need his assistance. My ex calls and asks me to change visitation when he has an exam. It should not be a big deal.
2007-11-05 04:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋