Help I'm confused!! Is he cheating???

Question

I have never had doubts that my husband could be or has been cheating on me, until now. My husband is very nice and romantic and i know he loves me very much. He has never been late from work unless he has to but for this he calls me to ask me if it's ok for him to stay or not. If i say no he just comes home. So the other day he called me to stay, so i said it was fine for him to stay for a few extra hours. So he calls later and he says that he is driving on the street already he just got off the freeway. Twenty minutes pass and he still is not home so i call him and he says "I just got off the freeway", so i thought that was really weird. When he gets home his tie is off and his shirt is untooked, something that was weird because he always comes home looking just like he leaves. Bottom line i notice something that looked like a hickey on this neck i ask him he denies it, i call his job and they say he got off 3 hours early than what he said. What do i believe?

Answer 1

talk to him about it, but untill there is any real proof in your favor you have no choice but to believe him.

Answer 2

Ask and ask and ask- if he says no. You can believe him.

If you just don't-
There are two routes- you can either help him out a situation by letting him know that you love him and that people make mistakes and that you aren't going to leave him. Tell him that you don't deserve to be lied to and that he can talk to you. Say things that you 'd really make him feel the gravity of his deception- people want to be honest. They really do.

Otherwise you can:
- follow him
-check his phone- the person could be hidden under any name. You can reverse check cell phone numbers on the computer.
-hire an investigator
-check ATM withdrawl locations from your statement- he may be going to a different part of town.
-call him all the time
-get really smelly shampoo and make sure he smells like it when he gets home.
-be aware of "freshly showered" look or if he runs in the door and goes to the bathroom.
-watch for increased gum chewing or mouth fresheners.
- show up at work. If he has an office fling- he will try to talk you out of coming there.

I hope that it is all really nothing.

Know that if he was doing something HE would be very aware of the things that you mentioned- with the shirt and tie. He would be very careful NOT to leave it like that.\

I think that is pretty good evidence that he's being good.

Answer 3

I think I'd go with the people telling you to trust your gut. You're instincts are rarely wrong. But, I think I'd watch it for a while before I confront him. There could be some good reasons for why he didn't tell you where he was (I'm not saying they're right, unless he's planning something good for you). I'd get really creative at watching what he's doing because I wouldn't want to be getting intimate with him not knowing if he's getting intimate who someone else.

It's possible you're being controlling or he's just the kind of guy that wants to check things with you. You need to ask yourself which this is. No one wants to be controlled. My significant other always checks with me and lets me know what he's doing. He wouldn't ask my permission to stay at work, but he'd certainly let me know that he was and sometimes, he might ask if it was a problem depending on what we had going on. That's just being considerate and I'd do the same.

However, if he feels like he has to get your permission to do things, he could be feeling controlled and that's never good for any of us. Also, I'm not sure I would have called his work unless it was possible for me to do it without his work knowing you were checking up. That's a little over the edge. None of their business.

Do some research online, there are a lot of suggestions about catching cheating spouses and most of them make sense. You know him like no one else and you should be able to determine if there are any other wierd things going on. If you decide there's more than just this, you should think about following him, watching his phone, his e-mail. You have a right to know what's happening. If you're not fully informed and you confront him, he might be able to explain things away and you might believe him.

You need to know if you can trust him and that will be difficult if you don't really know what's happening. Be careful and good luck....

Answer 4

A hickey can look like no other thing than a hickey. Why would his job lie about him getting off three hours early? It's hard to believe the truth when the truth will hurt you. I'd look at the numbers on his cell phone and his e-mails. You need to start doing a little investigating. Sorry sounds like trouble.

Answer 5

What do you think???
You have the right information now, it's what you decide to do with it.
It won't help you in anyway to ignore it, as the problem won't go away.
You need to sit down with him and tell him that you want the truth from HIM; Because, you have your own, but you'd like to give him A CHANCE to give you his side of the story ONCE MORE.
At this stage, you don't have to know for sure what you'll decide to do in the future.
You NEED him to make a choice, between keep LYING to you, or COME CLEAN.
That only will help you decide what you want or could do next.
He has to understnad that the truth at this stage is what MATTERS.
Only when you know where you stand can you move forward, with or without him.
Don't keep your eyes shut.
It'd be a terrible mistake and you'll live to regret it.
Love is blind, but it means that you know, but just believe in the power of love, even though it's against all odds!
Good luck.

Answer 6

You need to ask him because he might be planning something for you maybe he is not happy and he just seems like it maybe he is seeing a shrink. Some people do this and they need to take of there tie and relax. I think what you need to do is talk to him ask him to please tell you want is going tell him that you were informed by someone that you left work early that day and that you want an explanation tell him what you think and what you feel that is the best thing you can do or go to Best buy put a video in his car and see what happens or you can go to a website called cheaters tell them your situation and see if they can help you find out if your husband cheating on you or not. Do it. It is better for you to know then to not know.

Answer 7

I think you need to talk to your husband. I am going through something tens times worse than your situation and I think if I would have just talked to my husband about my concerns and his feelings we would not be heading for divorce right now. Make sure he is still happy with you and that you two still feel the same way about each other. If it is meant to work out it will.

Answer 8

This sounds really BAD..... evidence doesn't help him at all. No one here can be sure about whether he's cheating or not, and neither can you. I guess you need further proof, but yeah, something doesn't sound right here. I guess you have to do some research...... try to get acccess to his email or cell phone bills as someone else said....... and see if there's more evidence about this. It sounds like there might be.... don't let love blind you and choose not to see what is going on. Hopefully it won't be what you're imagining....... good luck.


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Answer 9

Keep a close eye on him. If his behavior changes, then chances are something is going on. Cheating is a great possibility. But don't jump the gun too quickly. Just be extra observant . If it happens again, then maybe you should do some investigating. Good Luck !!!

Answer 10

You already know the answer to your question. Instinct is rarely wrong.

Pretend that you suspect nothing and then follow him. Find out so you can make an informed decision about your future.

Maybe there is nothing going on...and you don't want to create an atmosphere of distrust if its just a misunderstanding...I pray that is what this is for you.

Good luck...sincerely.

Answer 11

Yes, you know the answer.

Don't take this laying down, be pro-active and do something about it before a really big mess blows up in everyones face. You may have to get sneaky to get info. when your with a man who is dishonest. But you need to do what you need to do, for your own sanity and peace of mind. Because- wondering and wondering... will make you maad!