I am 20 and I dont want to be single anymore. But with the success rate of 50/50 with divorces and marriages, and with my parents breakup.... Ever since I was little I wanted to be married by the age of 22, is that silly in this day n' age??
Thanks,
~laurie
2007-11-05 03:49:14 · 28 answers · asked by laurie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She was 25 and I was 32 when we married. That was 3 years ago.
The important thing is a marriage is something you have to work at, once you take your spouse for granted, then things have the potential to go downhill.
2007-11-05 03:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 30 and have never been married and am GLAD I haven't. I also had an age in mind, thought I'd have kids by now and all but..life happens. It's okay that you don't want to be single anymore...you CAN date! Forget your time limit...it's not just up to you, someone has to ask :) All you have to do is be honest about guys you date and whether THEY are marriage material and go from there. I think marriages do better if people wait until they are financially okay, college is done, jobs are secure, and they are mature.
2007-11-05 04:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is no award for being married young but there is a significant penalty...divorce.
You have to understand that people change quite a bit as the get older. Their dislikes and likes, what they want in a person and the things they learn about themselves in relationships make a big difference in the probability of making a marriage work. You have to understand that when you are young, you havent experienced many of the things in life that will significantly shape you. The person you were at 21 will not be the person at 31 and so on.
I was like you in the feeling that I wanted to be married for years in my youth. I made the mistake of getting married young without knowing myself or what I really wanted. Or in fact that I really wanted to be married. As a result, it didnt last very long.
Is it possible to make it work young? Of course. Is it probable? Definately not.
My suggestion to my unborn daughter would be not to consider marriage until a minimum of age 28. I truely think you need that time to learn about yourself, how to deal constructively with problems that come along in a relationship as well as life, and to really find out what you want in a lifelong mate.
Good luck!
2007-11-05 04:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by catfish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 19 and still married 11 years later. But my advise to you is if you are not ready for a relationship or a family think about it. Finish your career and don't depend on anybody to take care of you. Marriage is a big responsibility and you must be certain that that is what you want. Good luck.
2007-11-05 03:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Me, Myself & I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a womyn (whether it counts to some or not), regardless, this happened in 2002. I was 27yrs old. We split in 2004. We have no contact today. I am 33 now, soon to be 34, and I have since found my soul mate. Her and i go back many lifetimes....I never felt that about my ex-wife, and have accepted that people/situations of this type of nature are extremely rare....I would weigh heavily what it is you truly believe in your heart/mind you want....will you both grow together??? face it, no one ever really knows anyone completely.....we change a little bit everyday....so someone is always one step ahead of their personal progress/ our understanding and vice versa.....Best of wishes! Think long and hard. It's not bad being single either!
2007-11-05 06:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Loh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 29.
Don't worry about your "22" number. Everyone thinks of arbitrary numbers for big life events, but life doesn't work on schedules we set years in advance. Marriage isn't about a number, it's about you and the right person ready to settle into a life together. It's a risk, but so is everything.
2007-11-05 03:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by steve_dorings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 29
2007-11-05 03:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by scoop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married at age 26.
Knew that he was the "one" that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with since I was 19.
2007-11-05 04:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 30...don't put a time limit on yourself because if you do you put yourself in a dangerous position to "take what you can get" just for the sake of meeting your deadline...I can tell you that waiting until I met the man I was meant to marry was worth EVERY single lonely night...you do not want to settle...waiting for the love of your life will be worth it...TRUST ME!!!
2007-11-05 04:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19, she was 20. that was almost 23 yrs ago and were still married.
Good luck, its only a matter of how much work you and he wish to put into it.
Long marriages are possible. Her folks are celebrating their 50th anniversary in December and mine are celebrating their 49th. In january we will be celebrating our 23rd.
It Can Be done if you choose the right one from the beginning!!1
2007-11-05 03:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by okiemuskvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋