Why do you think we have to bullsh!t one another so much in life? I think we are less happier in life, because honesty is not valued anymore. It seems like if we aren't lying to one other, then we almost feel uncomfortable. For example:
If a guy asks a girl for her number: Why cant she just say, "I'm not interested" or "Thanks anyway", instead of lying about a boyfriend that doesn't exist or some other non truth?
How about when guys say that they want women to be more real and honest with them, then when she comes out and says, "You know what, I really want to make love to you tonight" or hits on him, he considers it too forward and loses interest because he doesn't have to chase her like a dog. Maybe it's intimidation. I'm not sure, but we apply all of these "Rules of the game" when we don't need to. Society and men have convinced women that we are tramps if we sleep with a man on the 1st date and we shouldn't call right away etc. Whereas, men can without judgment. Why the games???
2007-11-05 03:26:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's about the deteration of friendship and what it means that is causing this. I know you can't really see what I mean, but understand that we put romance at the center of relationships, not friendship. Friendship is alot about being so close that your pretty BRUTALLY HONEST. Hence why I picked the name (the problem you see, is why I'm on here, wasting my time). All that aside when we base a relationship on the perceived fantasy of romance, (the ideal that love is PERFECT NO MATTER HOW YOU DO IT) that destroys relationships, we expect this, we want this, all the way to the point that we avoid true friendship because thats not romance. THats not what we've perceived to be the perfect relationship. Were both parties see no imperfections in each other, this destroys friendship with is about seeing the imperfections and still caring, PLUS wanting better for them. Its deeper then romance actually. So when you've got a WHOLE society that bases its relationships on something that isn't even as deep as friendship, you've got a problem. A BIG PROBLEM, and this shows its self in some many ways that it would be extremely hard for me to go deeper in depth. I love talking about this so if you'd like to talk more feel free to e-mail.....
Sorry, so the fact is that were at lost for what we need, and istead are hunting for what we want, this causes a fundemental amorality in everyone of us, which can cause ALL kinds of perverse behavior, hence what your seeing....
2007-11-05 04:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Based on your narrative - it sounds to me like the people you were talking about when you wrote this are pretty shallow and hyper-focused on the wrong aspects of what a "relationship" is. Honesty is still valued. I would agree that there does seem to be a growing segment of our society that disregard honesty and truth, but that segment is (for now) still a small minority percentile group. Most people value honesty - and apply it to their daily lives.
The #1 ingredient for any SUCCESSFUL relationship is trust. That should be what you are seeking in the "find-a-suitable-mate" game. If it's just about casual sex and looks - then I guess learn to accept the lies and deceptions.
2007-11-06 02:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by M D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know its not just women that are like that women tend to be more interested in what they can't have which equals the same thing. So if a guy makes himself to available to easily it tends to turn a woman off so it must just be a human thing.
2007-11-05 17:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋