Late December of 2005, I was living in Maine and I had become engaged to my now husband who was living in South Carolina. My daughter was 2 years old and her father had rarely been invovled in her life. He lived in Massachusetts and for a year that I lived in Maine, only came to see our daughter once, MAYBE twice. He rarely saw her and when he did, never helped out with taking care of her. After a year of living in Maine, I moved back to Mass for 2 months, had my daughter see EI for a leg problem she has, then stopped seeing them knowing that I was moving and would take care of the situation when I got to SC and got her on TriCare. I got an apartment in Maine. I lived there for a few days and then decided to go be with my fiance in SC. So when I decided my daughter and I would move to SC, I figured I would tell her father after we moved to avoid fighting over my decision to get married. I figured he could see her just as often as he already did. I also had sole physical cusotdy.
2007-11-05 03:16:02 · 4 answers · asked by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Law & Legal
Well, my daughter's EI case worker from Massachusetts is actually the sister-in-law of a friend of mine who knew that I was moving. My friend and I had a falling out while I was visiting in Mass before moving to SC to live with my fiance. The EI case worker took my ex's information from my daughter's EI file and went to his house and told him I was leaving with my daughter and that she wanted him to go with her to DSS to file neglect on me because I stopped seeing EI. Since then, my daughter has had 2 opinions. One on base from a USAF doctor and also from a professional... they both say that she will grow out of it. I was taking care of it and feel like this girl stuck her nose in my business before ever knowing my plans with my daughter. Is there anything I can do about this?
2007-11-05 03:19:15 · update #1
Anyway- I am asking this now because I ended up leaving despite a court order my ex said he had gotten to keep me in the state but never had me severed with. He went to court and I, of course, didn't show because I was not served with a summons, and my ex got temp custody. Now, almost 2 years later after winning custody and not trying to contact me at all even while knowing we were live, my ex started seeing someone 8 years older with a 10 year old and now finds it convenient to be a dad so came down here and took her. I will be going back to Mass to file for custody here in a few days once I get everything in order but I'm still wondering if I can do something about the EI case worker.
2007-11-05 03:25:01 · update #2
I understand she may have felt he had a right to know where his daughter is, but for one, I did not tell her as a case worker... she was told by her sister in law and didn't even have proof it was true and I hadn't even left yet by that point. For two, My question is mainly asking about the EI case worker, not about my custody situation.
2007-11-05 03:30:32 · update #3
You need to call the person who supervises her and file a complaint! She did violate the right to privacy law.
2007-11-05 03:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lori M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless his parental rights have been severed, he has the right to info about his daughter, so the EI worker wouldn't likely get in trouble for passing on the info.
You should be able to fight the temporary custody order if you were never served.
The advice several people gave to get a lawyer makes sense.
2007-11-05 12:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He is the father, so legally he gets to know where his child is. When she starts school, he can have copies of all notices and report cards that are also sent to you, mailed to him from the school.
As for him just taking her, how did he do that, if you have full custody? Did he prove you an unfit parent, or did he just pull up and drive off with her? That is crazy and scary. I hope everything works out..
2007-11-05 11:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by kiki72404 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer about all this. It's pretty complicated.
You may have recourse, but since you terminated services without notice, she may have had some authority to contact the father. I sure don't know, and probably nobody else on this board knows.
Please call a lawyer to learn your rights, and for your daughter's sake.
2007-11-05 11:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Debdeb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋