My husband has an anxiety disorder and he can't handle watching our infant son for a few hours without getting totally overwhelmed and feeling that it's a waste of his time. He says he doesn't have instincts like I do. (so the problem's not ALL physiological)
Besides a smack in the head, what can help him? Or should I just write him off as an invalid?
2007-11-05 03:12:24 · 5 answers · asked by suerteDperro 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
(I'm not serious about the smack in the head, but I feel a bit betrayed by his inability to cope while he expects me to do what he can't for hours and hours while he plays video games or studies.)
2007-11-05 03:16:14 · update #1
Call your hospital. Ours offered "Daddy Bootcamp" for dads. It is usually free or pretty inexpensive. Other places that might offer this type of class is the Red Cross, or even a local Parks and Rec. It is a good class and teaches all the basics. At least this way, he won't be able to say he doesn't know what to do.
2007-11-05 03:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wasn't QUITE as bad, but still wanted minimal to do with baby when she first got here... so I forced him to practice daily with her. I'd leave for an hour or so at a time and make him change her, feed...etc. He needs to know that it took 2 to make a baby, now takes 2 to raise one. Don't waste your money on books, cause he'll never read them.
Sometimes hospitals have daddy to be classes, but mine wouldn't do it. I just had to get mean and force him to be with her. It'll come in time. She's 3 months old now and he's wonderful with her...except when it comes to bath time. He's scared she'll slip out of his hands. Lol.
2007-11-05 03:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
LOL! I love the quesion!
Don't write him off! you're letting him off too easy. talk to whatever doctor prescribed him with his anxiety disorder and ask what to do. as long as he poses no harm to your child, he needs to learn to DEAL!
good luck
my husband tried this sh!t with my daughter, claiming he was uncomfortable changing a girl! this is BS! as a parent he has a responsability to his children and to you! He needs to step up and be a MAN!
2007-11-05 03:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Holy shiot. He needs a kick in the crotch. He made a kid and its a waste of his time to spend time with it?
What an asshole- it has nothing to do with anxiety, its about not caring about his child and wanting to better himself to provide what that child and his family need.
I'd take that load of bull and cram it up his asss. Thats the sort of shiot I dont put up with in men. My husband tried that sort of thing ONCE- you can bet I ripped him a new one. Our son is the most perfect thing to ever happen to our lives, and I'll be damned if he thinks he can EVER so much as HINT to anything else.
Dont put up with it. You want your kid to feel like dad doesnt want him? You want him to use that excuse anytime parenting gets hard? You want to explain to your child why daddy just cant deal with him? huh-uh.
Dont put up with it.
2007-11-05 03:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL!
2007-11-05 03:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋