i can't stop thinkin about it?

Question

last weekend i kissed a fella i shouldn't have and now i can't stop thinking about him. i've seen him three times since and every opportunity he gets he grabs me and flirts or else rubs my back making sure peoople can't see. both of us are in a relationship for the past few years.
i love my fiance but can't hardly sleep thinking bout this other man.
he has also text me things like "how are u today babe".
he also hinted about bringing me away ect and telling me how wonderful and gorgeous i am.
he also says that he'll neber be the same after what happened
what do ye think is going through his mind

Answer 1

he wants he cake and he wants to eat it, he is a sleaze and is only after one thing, If he had any feelings for you at all he would not be doing what he is doing as it isnt fair on you. The reason you keep thinking about him is because to you he is a forbidden fruit something you know isnt right for you but cant help but feeling tempted, I really would put a stop to it now before you hurt yourself and your fiancee.

Good luck

Answer 2

I don't know what is going through his mind(except he wants to bone you). You should be very ashamed of yourself. How would you like it if your fiance did this to you.

I am not surprised that you are still thinking about this other guy, I mean it is a different guy than the one you have been uhh "kissing" for the last few years.

The relationship you are having with this guy is completely inappropriate and is a fantasy and fantasies always looksbetter than reality. If you are not ready to marry the person you are engaged to, you should let him know.

The messages and phone conversations, rub downs, etc are wrong and you know it. Quit being disrespectful and either end it or tell him. That will bring an end to you little fantasy fast.

Answer 3

I have been in a situation like this. from experience I will say end it. Yes it might be exciting now, but it will end in heartache of someone. Something is obviously not right in your current relationship as you feel the need to find something somewhere else. I understand this, but speak to your fiance about those problems, don't look elsewhere. You have a choice to make: This can either be a blip in your relationship and you can take a step back and learn from it and make your realtionship better, or you can keep on doing what your doing, and possibly end up breaking both of your hearts in the end.

Good luck. I know these things can be hard, but think with your head right now, and not your heart.

Answer 4

More important, what is going through yours?

Is this just a "one last fling before I lose my independence phase" or are you having more than pre-wedding jitters and doubts?

Don't know how far along you are on wedding plans, but it may be time to get some space and clear your head before you make a mistake one way or the other. Don't rush into anything you will later regret---either a meaningless relationship with "Sugar Lips" or a marriage you aren't ready for!

Better do some heart and soul-searching quick before this escalates into some drama you can't escape from--you could go from having 2 guys to pick from to having no one in a heartbeat if this doesn't turn out well!

Answer 5

Can't stop thinking about it because you want it to happen again or because you feel guilty?

If it's because you want it to happen again, then you have a problem. You need to sit down and give some serious thought to your life and what you want out of it. Your engaged to another man. I'm assuming you love your fiance.

If it's because you feel guilty than you have two choices. Either come clean to your fiance (I don't recomend, it would only hurt him) or eliminate the new guy totally. As in make sure you never talk to him again. I know it's hard to not see some people in our lives, but it's not hard to avoid communicating with those people.

Either way, if it was me, I would talk to the new guy, tell him that it was a mistake and that it will never happen again. That I now feel uncomfortable around him, and will from now on do everything in my power to stay away fom him. But of course thats assuming I want to save my current relationship.

Answer 6

What's going through his mind? Getting into your panties!
I predict he's a male whore who will say whatever to get it on with you, but after he gets what he wants he will go onto the next girl. Respect your fiance; tell this guy to F off and whack him round the face if he touches you. I think you are feeling lust for him (unlike the love you are feeling for your fiance) and you like the sense of danger he brings into your life. Best of luck, Princess Lola x

Answer 7

I think you probably know the answer to this yourself.
He is interested in the chase its always more exciting, then if you give in he will have sex and then drop you and go onto the next chase.
Ask yourself this, how would you feel if your fiance acted this way.
Be strong and put him out of your mind. If you love your fiance take care, things have away of coming back to haunt us.

Answer 8

He probable likes u but u cant fall for him just leave him alone and say u cant be around him for a while and maybe he will get the hint and leave u alone before u and him messes up your relationship.

Answer 9

"She's easy"

He is in a relationship and so are you, so why are you allowing yourself to behave this way? Don't you want someone committed to you and only you,like your fiancee... or do you want some guy who is cheating on his girlfriend to be with you.

Think about it, you dump your fiancee to be with this guy and guess what..... he'll be cheating on you as well.

Use your brain here, feelings are nice, but they don't always make sense or lead us to do the right thing.

Answer 10

Well its clear he wants you! but for what sex or a relationship?? That's what u have to ask itself is this person worth throwing Ur relationship away! To be honest u need to ask him directly and see what he says and then its up to you!