im so desparate he doesnt understand?

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Im so desprate but he doesnt understand?
for over a year i have been broody for a 3rd child, but hubby isnt so sure, i only brought it up to my hubby how i feel about wanting another child just after his sis fell pregnant and thinks i want a baby just cos she is pregnant but i felt like this before she even met her partner, at the moment we work seperate hours to save on child care, he wants to wait for a couple of years but by then the child will have to go into child care which i dont want to happen, ive heard stories from friends bout child care which puts me off but having the child now i wouldnt have to put it in to child care, i dont know how to pursade him that ttc next summer will be better thatn 4years time, anyone been in this situation before? what did you do? i want to have my 3rd child natuarally not adopt,
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Answer 1

Try one more time to talk to him.... tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel that way.... and make sure you speak quite and reasonably ... I am pretty sure your hubby will understand if you put in a table good enough reasons. Good luck!

Answer 2

Bad timing, the way you chose to bring up another child. You need to find a way to tell him so he'll understand. Most guys think of money when having another child is mentioned: what it will cost for food, to keep a roof over your head, how many more hours he'll have to work... and then there's the emotional side of staying up with a crying child, or it getting in the way of your time together.... basically, [but not always] his entire financial life will flash before his eyes.

On the other hand, if you want more kids, you'll want to consider your age. Women are in their peak fertility years between 18 - late 20's. After that, you're chances go down. For now, forget about child care... your priority is to make a baby. Just keep in mind when you talk to him, that he's weighing everything you say against the financial aspects of it. He can't help it, either -- he's a guy, and all guys are like that. Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm gathering that his hesitation is based solely on money, correct?

And you do not want to place your child in child care?

I know the feeling. I used to work outside the home, but felt once my children were born that they were better off with me at home. After calculating how much I was really making after expenses: http://www.stay-a-stay-at-home-mom.com/cost-of-working.html I realized I could do much better for them as a stay at home mom, both emotionally and financially.

You say you want to have your 3rd child naturally, is there some fertility concerns? Are you starting this part of your family later in life and feel that another 4 years will put a strain on your ability to conceive? Have you discussed this with your husband?

Answer 4

It does sound cheaper/better to have a baby for you but, do you think your husband might be afraid to have another one now ? I think what you typed is your perfect arguement..... and, I understand how you feel about HAVING to have another. It's like your ovaries run the show once you get in that state ...... I have 4 kids now and I've had a few times that I have been driven purely by some insane "gotta have a baby right now" hormone, lol.