I spoke to my husband cuz i,ve always fanced a threesum with my husband and another woman so of cause he was delighted about this and we have arranged one for this weekend coming 10th Nov, although i,m really excited there is a part of me thats thinks is this wrong. We have a great relationship and sex is great to but it,s something that i have always fantansied about. i,m not the jealous type so i know that should not be a problem and its better then going behind each other backs, so should i wait to see if we enjoy it and then say no more or should i put a stop to it now?
2007-11-05 02:53:23 · 50 answers · asked by caz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good luck
2007-11-05 03:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
The people on Yahoo Answers CAN NOT make this decision for you!
Therefore ... You have GOT to make this decision ALL by
yourself ... Remember .... in the END .... YOU are the one
that will have to live with the consequences.
Let's (for a moment) ... Put aside ALL that God says it is WRONG ... and you and your Husband took VOWS ... Let's
not DEAL with THAT just yet.
There are other consequences ... First of all .... Have you
ever WENT AHEAD and did something (in the past) ... when
a "part of you thought it was wrong" ... And then AFTER you
did it .... You said .... "Man .... I knew that I shouldn't have
done THAT!"
Whether you believe in God, Budda, an Inner Voice, or
a personal conscience .... There is DEFINITELY something
within US ALL .... (that steers us FROM wrong and TOWARDS right!!!) .... DO NOT IGNORE THAT!
Even if you and your husband ONLY do it this ONE time.
Won't you (always) wonder if your husband is fantasizing
about the other woman???
And ... EVEN though you say that YOU have fantasized about
a 3-some .... that is VERY different than ACTUALLY doing it!
(I love chocolate .... and I often fantasize about eating a WHOLE KEG of chocolate ... ALL at one time ..... I doubt
if the REALITY of doing that would be as NICE as MY fantasy
version of DOING IT!)
Suppose YOU or this OTHER WOMAN get pregnant???
(Birth Control devices CAN fail!!!) .... Have the THREE of
YOU each had a RECENT test for Veneral Disease???
Whether you decide to go ahead and listen to THOSE that
say "Go Ahead .... Do it .... Have a BALL!" OR you choose
to listen to THOSE OF US that say "Don't do it .... you "might"
regret it" We will EACH go on with OUR LIVES ... You will
be LEFT .... with WHATEVER is LEFT. Make sure that YOU
can live with it.
If you "go for it" and it turns out to be the BEST thing that EVER happen to YOU .... OR if you "go for it" .... and your
marriage and YOUR life are destroyed .... Let it be that YOU
made a careful and thoughtful decision!
Set personal values for yourself! I (personally) believe in God.
I am NOT going to force YOU to believe .... But, I am going to
urge YOU to CHOOSE ... Don't let ANYONE else do that but YOU!
2007-11-05 04:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't kid yourself and use excuses as: At least we are not going behind each other's back.
That's a poor excuse to justify an orgy!
If the two of you are on the same page, and you don't think that you are corrupting him, or don't feel drag into this, then, it's really not up to us to tell you how to live your sex life.
Although, one would have thought that getting in marriage, taking vows, and all that, that you had found the ONE and ONLY for you!
2007-11-05 06:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some things r better left as a fantasy, and as u r having doubts im sure u should not do this. i dont think there should ever be another woman or man so intimatly involved in ur marraige.
this one thing could open a doorway to others, and those u might not been so keen on. ur not a jealous person, but what if ur husband enjoys having sex with someone other than his wife?u r giving him permission this first time - but will he ask ur permission if he decides he wants to do it again?
2007-11-05 09:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it now. Fantasies are one thing, but reality and raw human emotion after the fact is something totally different. You may not think you'll be jealous or hurt afterward, but how can you possibly project how you'll feel once your husband has entered another woman's body right in front of you? How can you stand the thought of seeing the look of pleasure and passion on his face as someone else gets him off? And what exactly is in this for you, besides perhaps a little tongue action from a female? Sorry to be blunt, but getting off to the idea of your hubby sexing someone else is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT than actually being there to see it happen. It could destroy your relationship. I would stick to fantasies you can act out without a third party, especially since there is already a seed of doubt in your head. Why would you go behind each other's backs in the first place if you've got such a great relationship and the sex is terrific as well? Seems the two of you can't appreciate what you've got. Be careful.
2007-11-05 02:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 11⤊ 3⤋
Fantasise is good but when brought to real world is different. I bet we all think about the unknown and what it might be like but i would not do it! This is most mens fantasied and that is how it should stay. Why don't you try DVDs watching 3 sums? good luck anyhow, and i would say be strong and say no, if he loves you he will understand.
2007-11-05 04:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good swingers group and do it correctly. yo will have fewer problems that can come back and bite you in the butt later. And relationships were polygamous for thousands or even millions of years until that upstart religion made it punishable by being boiled in oil about 1000 years ago. Good luck.
2007-11-05 04:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your problems start when your husband wants your friend more than you!! Keep your fantasies just that, fantascies. Thats why they are so nice cos in ya head nothing goes wrong.Real life is a little bit different. You've been warned !!
2007-11-05 06:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
threesomes are not what they are cracked up to be.adding another person in your marrage bed can lead to a good relationship going bad. its hard for anyone to watch somebody they love with another person. you may think you can handle it but the green eyed monster surfaces every time. men sometimes encourage there wifes to be with another womam in a theesome but get there hearts broken when she discovers another side of her sex life. the same hold true for a woman when her husband hooks up with the other woman. good luck in what you decide
2007-11-05 06:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by ray y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't even go there. If you truly loved your husband you would not jeopardise your marriage.
Fantasy's are not suppose to be acted out for real. If you have any respect for your marriage you'll call it off now
2007-11-05 07:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ya'll chose to do is your own decision...however, you may wish to lay some ground rules...
For example...what happens with this x-tra girl when all the action is over...does she spend the night...or does she leave...
Will ya'll be in your private residence...or at a rented hotel room.....
You and your spouse will need to agree on a few "ground rules" prior to the action starting...
Once agreements are made..have fun
2007-11-05 03:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋