QUESTION FOR OTHER WOMEN/ADULTERESses: What did you do that made him choose you?

Question

They all say that their wives were horrible, nags, sluts, etc. That is not interesting and it is the same story over and over again that all fallen husbands tell.

I want to know what is it that you think that you did that made him choose YOU? Please try to be honest.

Was it kinky sex that his wife wouldn't have?
Was it listening to his stories over and over again?
Was it giving him a hug every morning?
Was it your cooking?
What?

Thanks.

What is BP?

I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN!!

Answer 1

According to a friend of mine, the "other woman" that he would RATHER be with than his current lady is.. and I quote:
"The best thing that's ever happened to me. She will bend over backwards to help me and she's been there for me through some of the toughest times of my life. I consider her a best friend because I can tell her anything and she doesn't judge me. When we are together I feel like I've never felt before. Even though she's married and I'm with someone else, I can't help but think about her even when I'm with my girlfriend. She loves my kids like they are her own and treats me like no other woman ever has."
These are the exact things a friend of mine told me were the reasons he would drop his current girlfriend in a heartbeat if this other girl ever became available. Point is: The "other girl" is his FRIEND. Period. Sometimes guys just want what they can't have..

Answer 2

The other woman fills a void- nothing more. What these women refuse to recognize is that they are just this one piece of many pieces. The wife is the 95% package and the mistress is the 5% package. The mistress cannot stand on her own. The man would never want the mistress under any other circumstances. She is not the whole package. That is why he has picked her- because he wants to be married and the mistress is not enough to tempt him away from what he really wants. She is a roll in the sack- nothing more. He says what he needs to, to keep her coming back. That is the game. It's time consuming to put in the work to have a one-night stand every week and it is far more dangerous in terms of secrecy. The mistress is the whore. That is why he stays married. And you think it's because of the kids! C'mon, now. Get real!

Answer 3

You've got it all wrong. Everything that you mentioned are the reasons that men give for being with the "other woman". The other woman adopts these behaviors thinking that if she is the opposite, she will win him over from the wife. The man has no interest in leaving his wife, but lets say the other woman gets lucky and he does leave his wife and marries her. One of two things couls happen. He starts cheating on her because the reasons he gave were a lie in the first place or she changes the behaviors she used to win him over and loses him.

Answer 4

Ugh, unfortunately I was once the other woman. Fortunately, I did not want a real relationship with this man. I understood clearly that if he would cheat on his wife then he would cheat on anyone. The other woman makes the man feel like a MAN. This does not alway mean that the wife does not. Sometimes the man is just a jerk.

The other woman will not demand anything. She will not take him for granted. She will be eager to give him what he asks within reason, even if it would be inconvenient to her. She looks for the good in him and not the bad. She compliments him to his face and to his friends. She does not tell other people bad things about him, even if they are true. She is eager to fulfill his sexual wishes even if she is tired. She praises him (again) when he does something sexual she particularly likes. She tries to look her best for him. (Note: She does not look like Pamela Anderson. She just does what it takes to look HER best.) Her legs are always shaved.

In short, she does all the things the wife used to do when they were dating. (Again, sometimes the wife still does these things and the guy is just a jerk. Matter of fact they're always jerks if they cheat on their wives)

This is why, as a wife, I try to always do the above things for MY HUSBAND. He is a treasure and if I always treat him as such, he always treats me as his queen.

Answer 5

Sounds like: 'What the hell, man? Why did you do it?' kind of question, but it's valid. We all want to know why we got forgotten about, passed over, traded in, etc.

There is nothing special that the 'other' woman does. She is there, she is willing, she is able. That's all that a man needs.

He does not have to find reason, rational, excuses for his desires. He will have them. The difference is, wether or not he chooses to act on them. And, in theory- it's love for you and respect for your relationship that should be the preventive factor in drawing the line between his actions and desires.

She's not 'better' than you, she's just 'another woman'.
Perfectly happy men, who love their wives, will engage in affairs- when they have not intent or desire to leave their wives. Some may say through excuses that they were trying to fill some kind of void in their life, but really- it's just being selfish and greedy because their actions are hurting everyone, and ironicly; that includeds themselves in the end as well.

Don't beat yourself up over what's wrong with you, what your lacking that someone else could provide. That's not what it's about. Any good sex counsler will tell you that.
And those things that men say the to 'other' women about us, is just to gain their sympathy. What woman does not want to cheer up who they believe to a nice, decent, handsom, sexy man? We all want that kind of attention. Men know this, and use it to their advantage. It also gives them a sense of power as well, another thing they thrive on.

So please, forget about your question because it's a lost one. Sure, you may get some people who say because "I'm so awesome at (whatever)" but that's just exactly what those men want them to think- and they do. Sad, really. They are high on themselves and don't see that they are a warm body- and with some men, it's that simple.

Answer 6

Here's an answer from the other point of view. I have never been unfaithful, but if I were to be, it would be with someone who makes me feel wanted. Someone from whom I feel desire and affection. It wouldn't take anything "special" or "extreme" or even out of the ordinary, just someone who actually wants to be with me. Obviously this means it would have to be someone with whom I was close and had some sort of relationship already because the emotions that would make me want to be with them can't come from a stranger.

Answer 7

I take it your the other women, well, I am the wife, and they may think the grass is greener on the other side, but are you going to trust a guy that screwed around on his wife to be with you. Yeah, I am sure all of us wives are so bad, for putting up with, taking care of the kids, doing the laundry, putting our lives on hold for them, yeah we are the awful ones for being faithful, why don't you try getting a SINGLE guy, and then you won't have to deal with wondering.

Answer 8

She wouldn't let him spank her. lol. just kidding. Why are you asking? Are you planning on being the other woman?

I do not commit adultery. I have no man married or single.

P.S. What is BP?

Answer 9

i think that being available and open to anything would make a married man who strays come around... most of them have no intention of getting divorced, either.

i am not seeing a married man... have no interest in dishonest people or cheaters.

Answer 10

actually,in relationship is aboutt love life ,sharing you life with somebody which you adore, is abou chemistry, comprehend, believe Prologue,Compromise,loyalty dedication. For me as women human beings ,my darling isn't getting with no need the tee with me and my god day kiss, cooking ,i like it,is project for me ,like pastime, intercourse is approximately tuning on .