what to do with a friend who backstabs you?!?

Question

She is saying things that are untrue about me. Yet she considers me as her friend! When people are not around us she always say something bad about them even if that person is also our friend. I really can't take that kind of attitude. Also, she's so superficial when it comes to making friends.

I tried as much as possible to stay away from her. But she's always the one approaching me, texting me, going to my dorm and stuffs. Need help. Thanks.

Answer 1

don't be around her. she is not a true friend if she is doing this to you.

True friends will be respectful and accept you as you are.
A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WE TURN TO WHEN OUR SPIRITS NEED A LIFT
A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WE TREASURE FOR OUR FRIENDSHIP IS A GIFT.
A FRIEND IS SOMEONE WHO FILLS OUR LIVES WITH BEAUFY, JOY AND GRACE.
AND MAKES THE WHOLE WORLD WE LIVE IN A BETTER AND HAPPY PLACE.



......\\\///..........Hi My Friend
......(o)(o)....Slivering by to wish you
......(°_°).....A wonderful Day.........…..
........(_).......Hugggggs, ~.......
.......(_)..............
.........(_)................(_)(_)..... ......
...........(_)......(_)(_).......(_)(_).........
.............(_)(_)......................(_)(_)(_)(_

Good Luck to you.

Answer 2

Honestly, I have been this girl, as well as the girl who has been backstabbed. Either way, you need to stop being the 'victim'. I don't want to sound harsh, but this is reality. There is SOMETHING somewhere that you are not coming clean about, or you don't want this friend to find out about you. I just feel this is the truth.
You need to BE a friend, instead of always trying to HAVE friends, ya know? maybe this girl needs some help, or just has problems at home or something. I'm not justifying her behavior. Obviously if she's spreading rumors about you, then that's not cool. But I have been understanding more about being hurt, etc, when friends do 'something to me'. And I am finding out more of why I 'felt I was victimized.' It was because I was not in a great place or not being completely honest and was withholding things from others. Usually we 'pull in' what we are. So, you, my dear, in the nicest way I can say, are not an angel either. Those with clean hearts cannot be hurt! Instead of looking at what your friend has 'done to you', maybe start looking at what YOU have done, or not done yourself!
Maybe you are just using your friends, or maybe not really BEING a friend... Okay, you get the idea,... but when I have been a victim, I realize this is the truth.

Answer 3

I've known people like her. You are better off without her. Yeah you've been avoiding her but tell her straight up. "I liked you. But I'm starting to NOT like you. You talk about everyone behind their back and I am sure you are talking about me to other people too. So either lose the negativity or find a new friend." Tell you the truth though...people like that rarely change. They live off of that! Oh and if you find she is poisoning your other friends to you then you might want to have a talk with them about how you feel about her negativity and why you aren't her friend anymore. It will ring true to their ears too!

Answer 4

Your friend isn't a friend. You'll learn with time how to differenciate friends from parasites. For the moment, just tell this one to take a long walk and never come back. For the bad mouthing, it will all come back to her like a cream pie. Just ignore her.

Answer 5

Ignore the texts and do not face her in the dorm. You are always busy. if she confronts you tell her that her backbiting and negativity turns you off. nuff said

Answer 6

confront her about it, see what she has to say. but she is NOT your friend is she doing all of this. shes probably a really insecure, jealous, and unhappy person inside. so talk to to her about and eventually stop being her friend. show her you wont allow her to do this to you anymore. maybe then she'll apologize and realize what a good friend she lost in you. either way, dont be bitter about this. dont let her unhappiness dictate your happiness.

Answer 7

gosh,well if she was your friend she wouldn't talk about you behind your back.I think she does this for attention!Really i think you should stay away from her!she sounds like a total freak(no offence).If you wan't to be friends with her then maybe don't talk to her for a few days...just to let the poison die out..and then have a talk with her about how you feel and ask her why she is talking behind your back,and hopefully she'll understand and stop doing it =)

Answer 8

i just leave it alone really... i don't have anything to explain to anyone and i know myself better than anyone else.. but if someone will asks me about it then that's time for me to answer...
if people around me finds me a trash,who cares i don't work for them,i don't do things for them.. for as long as i have my family and my boyfriend who believes in me then it's fine.. i can deal with it really...
i just ignore that kind of a person coz they're just insecure for some reason we don't know why...

Answer 9

shes an insecure bully. Who puts u down to elevate herself. Move on and away from her and show her your dont need her or warrant that kind of behaviour in your life.

Answer 10

Say you made a list with all the positive people in your life that you want to be friends with and that she wasn't on it.

Answer 11

let her know what you think about what she's doing. and tell her you don't like it. if you open up to her, she'd have a reality check, she might not be aware of what he or she's doing. at least if you tell her, theres a good chance she wont do it again or at least by being frank, you might achieve to be away from her.