I just found out that an ex boyfriend of mine, who put me through hell and stole, lied, etc., got out of prison in GA in June of this year. He'd been in since 2004, when I participated in a sting operation with the US Marshalls to put him there (I wasn't kidding when I said he was a bad dude). His last words to me were that he was going to 'get' me - now he's out, and I am scared. He was in the pen in GA, and I live in OK, so there's that - he doesn't know my address or place of work, and I have changed my car since he knew me. The only information he has is my dad's address - I am afraid he would go there.
What can I do to protect myself?
2007-11-05 02:43:13 · 16 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The fact that you moved so far away is very positive. Lying, stealing, etc. is not the same as a cold blooded attempt to track you, no matter where you have gone. He was obviously furious when he was first imprisoned, and was lashing out. He is probably full of hot air, and will do what the vast majority of people do when getting out of jail - bumble around, commit some crimes, get caught, and go back in. It would be a lot of trouble to find you. Most criminals are not into things that are a lot of trouble; their mentality is opportunism and going after easy marks.
If you are really worried, the single best thing you can do is to change your last name. It is a bit of trouble and will cost a few hundred dollars, but it will buy you a lot of peace of mind. Everything traceable will be in your new last name. If he bothers, he would still be searching for the old one. It's the cheapest way of "vanishing" in plain sight.
As for your father - is he formidable? If he is a big, imposing guy, then again, your ex bf will probably not go to the trouble. Think about it - if anything happens to your dad, he will be the first one the cops look for, and he knows that. Does your dad have a gun, and know how to use it? If you, personally, can't cope with getting involved with guns, at least take some self defense lessons. Do something to empower yourself, so you are not just sitting there quaking and waiting for his voice behind you. The chances are excellent that he will screw up again and end up back inside, so just use some common sense and live your life.
2007-11-05 03:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by lighght30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can take out a restraining order, but they only work once he's violated the restraining order. Cops won't arrest him on suspicion.
It's been 3 years, he probably has better things to do. Prison changes people, and gives them lots of time to think.
You won't even get into Witness Protection, so don't even listen. The feds are tight with their money and won't pay for your new life unless you lock up a lot of really bad men.
2007-11-05 02:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a gun and learn how to use it. Take a class and get a permit to carry a concealed weapon. Here's a couple name brands, Beretta, Glock, Smith & Wesson and many others. Plus there are all kinds of sizes to choose from, a few are 380, .22, .45 and 9mm, depending on what you prefer. I would suggest the smaller ones. They fit in a purse better.
Or... go take a Self Defense class. Either one of these or BOTH will make you feel more safe.
2007-11-05 04:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Maxine PantherFan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the US marshall service and tell them that your ex boyfriend is getting out of jail and ask them to put you in the witness protection program. They can move you to another part of the country with a new identity. You need to quit posting on this board and saying where you are located. Call the US Marshall service today.
2007-11-05 02:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Listen to me. I an a cop and I don't usaully give this type of Info. Fisrt off, you should go to the police and inform them. Then call your boyfriend and try to explain to him that you are scared and that he should leave you alone. If he refuses, then never call him again and inform the police again. And, if you want to move into a friends house temporarily, that could be fine also. Trust me, I was in the same situation like you.
2007-11-05 02:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a scary ex..it sucks. I moved from Cali to NC to get away from him, and then to Colorado. I use a PO box for everything. I'd say get restraining orders, and move as far away as you can. I'm not a gun person, but maybe your dad is. Move away and use a po box for all your bills. Before you end up a 30 second story on your local news.
2007-11-05 03:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always contact victim services in your area and they would contact a parole officer and have restrictions put on him or maybe the local police. There are ways for you to refuse to be a victim. Speak to someone who can and will help
2007-11-05 02:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, is the first thing you need to do...get a protection order on you and your dad...he will come looking for you...find some saftey for your dad first...change your name...do whatever so this guy won't come looking for you...whatever you do don't go looking for him...get to the police a.s.a.p.
2007-11-05 02:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.45 Caliber Colt ACP
2007-11-05 02:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Restraining orders.
2007-11-05 02:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by betrthanurex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋