which i stated in my last question. i pulled no punches. i told her how i felt. i told her i feel very unhappy & that changes need to be made. she said she would try & make those changes. she never gave me a reason why she blew all that money. about the kids she told me that the kids ( they are nt my kids they are 4 & 7. i have no kids) shouldn't have a bedtime on the weekends that i am just overeacting. about the discipline, she said that she would try but says the kids won't listen to her & she's the parent!!! i wac told i can't discipline the kids. one day later her mom calls her up & tells her that her co worker is married to a guy that works w/ my gf. she says her husband told her that my gf was flirting w/ him. my gf denies this & told me she would talk to him the next day about this & her supervisor. she never did & gave me some bs excuse. i'm just tired of this crap!!! i'm starting to think that i was a wallet & i'm pissed. i may nt date another girl that has kids. help me??
2007-11-05 02:00:11 · 11 answers · asked by petey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like too much baggage. I would move on.
2007-11-05 02:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a simple equation .
I stay = You change the texting+ the spending + the lack of parenting+ the lack of respect.
You do not = I'm freaking out of here.
Set down some rules and make it clear you will be done with her if some serious issues are not addressed NOW.
You are not married and really do not need to put up with her unruly children in your own home. How she deals with that is her problem as you have been told not to discipline.
Seven year old children should be in bed by 9:00 nightly.
Sorry to say, I think that you may need to leave this one.
2007-11-05 10:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her...
I am a parent - a widow, I had 1 kid...and have since remarried.. I am NOT a money pit.. I lived very well on a part time job with minimum wage.. I even saved up to buy a house on it.. NOT all single women are out for your money... when I remarried I had accumulated more wealth than my new hubby...I have rules for my kid and she respects me (well as much as any teenager respects their parent lol)
MOST problems are from women who are "divorced" the divorce messes them up emotionally.. they become needy to prove they can be loved and are desired.. they may be angry and hateful of men. They also frequently DO NOT disapline their kdis - divorced parents often want to be the "good parent" so the kid doesnt "love" the other parent more...
very sad...
I am not suggesting you dont date again... I am only saying you pick your women more carefully...
- also its VERY hard to change somebody ... unless they see their behavior as a problem they wont change...
2007-11-05 10:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless she is willing to work at your problems the situation will just get worse. Mouth service isn't working at the problems. You need to again sit her down and tell her your feelings. Ask her how she is going to support her grandchildren..because if discipline isn't started now(with BOTH of you) they kids will run wild in the teen years and end up with kids of their own. If she continues to just say she will work at things and not do it then you need to move on. Unfortunately a lot of women are like this one. They want someone to support them and their kids and not have to answer or work at the relationship. Thankfully not all of them are like this. Good luck with your quest and I hope that it works out.If not lesson learned
2007-11-05 10:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by KayKay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were used!
She did it to benefit the life of her children!
That's the game!
Not all women are like that but it is a coin toss!
Speak to her about your feelings if that doesn't work. Walk away!
she already has took your money don't let her take your dignity!
she is probally sleeping with a friend of yours too!!!!
2007-11-05 10:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let one horrible woman and mother stand in the way of your dating another woman with kids unless you to find a single woman and have some of your own when I find the right guy in my life he will be apart of my childrens life to and I know we'll work things out together in raising them chin up
2007-11-05 10:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing she is not your wife. You can move on with out court proceedings. Next time date single girls with no baggage.
2007-11-05 10:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women get pissed because they say men think of them as sex objects.
It's about time that men realize that some women think of men as wallet objects.
It goes both ways~!!!
If this upsets you, you need to get out of this.
LD
2007-11-05 10:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
get out now and let the authorities handle her and the kids
2007-11-05 10:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay with her until you can find someone else... Start going out again.. don't give her as much money... keep having sex with her.. but remember that it just might not last much longer....
2007-11-05 10:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋