I got uber close to someone last year when their life was a disaster; now things are getting better by the day in her life and I'm feeling increasingly insecure and redundent. Am I right to feel this way, or just being paranoid?
2007-11-05 01:30:35 · 15 answers · asked by SITSC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
friends need you different ways in good times versus bad times
2007-11-05 01:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to feel insecure and redundant with someone you are close to. Everyone feels like that at some point in their lives and you’re not paranoid. You're afraid to be left behind and be forgotten about what you done for this person.
I'm sure you made wonderful memories with this person and that you two are good friends still. Even though her life gotten better doesn't mean she wants you to leave just like that for what you done. I, for one, am like that too and I always feel that once I get someone life better, my time was up and that I leave but when you think about it...your friend needs you more than you think.
Just remember that what memories you made with this person will always be the best memories to remember within your heart.
2007-11-05 01:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knw what you mean, liek when they needed u, u were their best friend but now things are better...u are no longer in their life or not much of it anymore an dthey have put u on the side and it hurts and u hate it and u feel like you have been used and its not fair and it feels bad and u hate them now and blah blah...in life, we have all sorts of situations. if they need u again, say you're busy until they reaslise what and how much u mean to them. the appriciation and respect isnt there if u feel like that. would tat person be there for you if u were in that position? think liek that. if the answer is yes, then worth keeping. if not, then erm...they prob not worth it although i know the feeling. my mums been there done it and its not fair.
2007-11-05 01:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by allgiggles1984 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some Friends only call you when things are going difficult in their lives. I know it's very difficult and you wind up feeling used because they don't seem to need to share the happy times with you. Only the bad...
Real friends are there through thick and thin...
2007-11-05 01:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is a real friend, they'll want you around for the good times too...if they just associated with you because they needed help, then they may appear to lose interest when their life turns around. If that's the case, they were never your friend to begin with.
2007-11-05 01:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes a friend still needs you but after crisis , the need is not so desperate or often and more pleasant things re-unite you , such as Christmas, Birthdays etc .
2007-11-05 01:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by TN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly. Real friends are there through good and bad and stick around no matter what!!!! If you have found a friend like that, do everything in your power to keep them as a friend.
2007-11-05 01:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a real friend will always cherish your presence in his life both in good times and in bad times.
it is not the season that determines your value in the friendship but your availability.
2007-11-05 01:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by vibe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are paranoid as a friend worth name stays through thick and thin!
2007-11-05 01:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hari O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if they are a true friend they will stick by you and want you in their life for good especially after being their for them through the difficult time in their life.
a true friend is there for you through good times and bad!!
2007-11-05 01:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by littil_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋