between two girls. One is my ex, and the reason we didnt last before is because she had just lost her baby and she asked for space, which i understood so we seperated. I liked her alot, but its not as much anymore. Then, there is this other girl who is sooo cute, but shes really young and has a history of going out with people and breaking up with them within a week. They have both expressed their interest in me, but I have them waiting becasue I am unsure what to do...help? advice?
2007-11-05 01:15:44 · 26 answers · asked by butterbuttergood4u 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Follow your heart on this one.. Your ex may still be very vulnerable after losing her child so if you are not ready to commit to her 100% then maybe it would be better if you did not go back to her unless you are sure this is who you wnat to be with as she has probably suffered enough loss.
As for the other girl, just because she has a history of going out with people and not lasting too long with them, maybe it's because she hasn't found the right person yet!! Start off slowly and see where it goes from there. If you are looking for a long term commitment you should tell her, then if she's only looking for a casual thing she can be up fromt with you and you can walk away... No hearts broken!!
Good luck!!
2007-11-05 01:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stick on to my old flame. Let alone Lesbiabn love even in normal heterosexual love husband and wife remain away from each other after some emotional shock .In this case the loss of the child. The new contact,despite her cuteness, seems to be a normal girl. While she may like to have a fling with you for a novel experience it is not unlikely she would also throw you out as she had done her male concorts after a week or ten days. I can see from your question that you are eager to have experience with a fresher. While it may not be objectional to occasionally have a change steainess is advisable and desiravble in such relations. I would vote for your old flame.
2007-11-05 01:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reflect on things. Weigh the pros and cons. There are always risks. We can't avoid that.
If you're not looking for a relationship and just wants to experience some other things, maybe you can try going out with Girl #2.
But if you want to rekindle what you have previously shared with Girl #1, go on about it. Second chances are sometimes worth it. You may never know.
If you wait for too long, you'll lose them both...
Good luck to you! Take care! ;)
2007-11-05 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by J. McCoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am just completely naive and this doesn't work for people, but what is wrong with dating both of them. Understand I do not mean sleeping with both of them, but dating. Get to know both of them and see where it leads. If the young one is only interested in one thing then you can weed her out early and it will give you the opportunity to reconnect with your ex and build a relationship that starts with friendship and romance.
2007-11-05 01:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart say? You love your ex, but are not 'in love' with them anymore. You have this new young thing, but she will break your heart. Perhapse you should choose neither as a love interest and remain a friend with them. There are more fish in the sea, so throw your line back in the water. You'll get a hit before long.
2007-11-05 01:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Deathscythe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating means getting to know someone over a period of time, not like you just pick one and that's it...no more options. Do what you want to do and follow your heart. Date one or both and get to know them. Find out how you feel about them after a month...3 months, 6 months, a year.
2007-11-05 01:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are not as attracted to your ex because you have been separated. I would give your ex another try. If you know this other girl has a record of breaking up with people in a week, why put yourself in that position???
2007-11-05 01:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your heart go but remember that pain is a part of life . If the young one wants just a fling and your ok with it fine try it if not go with your ex . Just stay true to yourself and your heart . No one will take care of you better than you .
2007-11-05 01:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see if either of them have an actual interest. Flings (#2 scenario) are pointless if you're going into them with any hopes at all, and scenario #1 seems like she may just need you for support, or be attached to you because she knows that you'd be there for her.
Tread carefully.
2007-11-05 01:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix_Slasher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to get hurt then avoid the young thing. Maybe your ex is the one. You presumably know one another quite well and now that she has had time to get over her loss you could help her on the next step of the journey.
2007-11-05 01:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Hencor72 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋