We are still legally married.He won't cooperate about me getting my things and my portion of household items. What can I do?
2007-11-04 23:04:43 · 9 answers · asked by mstjohns 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing you can do is try to talk sense to him, otherwise you will have to see a lawyer. You also need to weigh up if your belongings are worth more than the costs of the laywer. Their fees are pretty steep....thats why a lot of people decide not to take their disputes through the courts...its just too damned expensive. Unless you can find a lawyer who will do the work for free, you may have to cut your losses. Maybe have a talk to your local police...maybe there is something they can do.
2007-11-04 23:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some of these answers you're given is worthless. Regardless if YOUR items are replaceable or not is not the point. They are yours and for sentimental reasons or for the sake of " i just want my stuff" is all enough reasons to pursue your items, especially if it means buying more for another apartment or house.
But I do agree with cost. If your separation has not been a legal issue ( meaning no attorneys involved at this point in the game) then you might want to consider is it worth obtaining an attorney to argue equitable distribution (which are those items bought while in the marriage and who is entitled to keep them)? or should I just take the money I would use to obtain one, and just buy more furniture? At this point, that just might be your only option if your soon to be ex is not willingly to give you back your stuff.
In my opinion, I would just take the money I would use to obtain one and just buy new furniture. If there are items that i am sentimentally attached to, and can not be replaced, such as pictures or children's "growing up" videos, then if cost is not an issue, I would hire an attorney.
Again, if you can live without these things, the long term cost, attorney fees, and getting rid of an ex who is being spiteful, is well worth the short term cost, a bill handed to me by a law firm.
By the way, in the majority of the US, living in two seperate dewllings IS considered a LEGAL seperation and anything obtained while seperated can not be pursued by the soon to be ex spouse.
Please seek free legal consultation instead of getting wrong advice from those on yahoo.
Good luck in your decision :)
2007-11-05 00:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by ready4love 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never mentioned in what country this took place or IF the two of you are LEGALLY separated.
The simple answer based SOLELY on the facts you present is to send the ex a certified (RRR) letter demanding that he return the listed items (and include a list) or you will immediately file for divorce and list his new home as a marital asset purchased before the action for divorce was filed.
This is the reason (in the U.S.) why LEGAL separation is necessary. Simply living apart does NOT break the financial bonds of a marriage.
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Living apart is NOT establishment of a legal separation. If you are an attorney, you are a piss poor one. Or, cite here the specific statute you base this conjecture upon.
2007-11-04 23:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 07:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to get a lawyer to help you with this. You have a right to retrieve your belongings from him, but maybe you need a court order to get your things. Talking to an attorney is the only answer. He will give you the right answers.
2007-11-05 08:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and make a list of your things you want. After you talk to your lawyer ask if it's a idea to get a police officer to his house and get the things on your list..
2007-11-04 23:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it really worth it. if the items can be replaced than do so. stop allowing him to make you hold on to him. if they are that important to you petition the court, but you should really just get over it. this gives you reason to start over from scratch and leave him and the items in the past. GodBless
2007-11-04 23:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
after separation are you able to support yourself financially without his support . secondly can you emotionally support yourself. if yes, be not afraid and tell him that you have an option of taking the matter to court. and if not negotiating the matter is the only way out.
2007-11-04 23:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
the only thing u can do is get an attorney.
2007-11-04 23:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋