i was in a 7 year relationship. we broke up. =(..it's been 5 months without any contact! i even changed my cell number. because i wasnt ready to speak to him.
they say time heals a broken heart. but, i feel at times i miss him dearly, at times i hate him. at times i love him. but, i try not to cry. i can honestly say that, i can feel myself heal but i still love him. its strange! i cant help but think if he thinks of me or what. i was with him forever and we had a bond. a bond of friendship. . i cant explain it . i dont even know what my question is.
2007-11-04 22:37:22 · 35 answers · asked by 1212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life will get better.You have to make it get better,and moping about this boy will only drag you down.Get your life back and start new.Sitting around moping will only prolong you moving on.Go out and have a life.you are intitle to .
2007-11-04 22:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are away from a person, it's easy to forget all of the reasons that the relationship didn't work. Try to spend some time thinking about the bad times in the relationship, then get out and do things and have fun, and see if it helps.
You could also read some self-help books to see if it seems like you are just obsessing over something that wasn't good enough. At times you may think about the good things that you had with him, but if it was really so perfect, you would be more certain about trying to get him back.
He may have moved on anyway (which is painful to think about, I know), but maybe it's the best thing for both of you. It is possible to form a new, wonderful connection with someone who is more right for you, but it may help to work on yourself first and just enjoying who you are and the things you like to do. It can make you a more whole person, who has better relationships.
2007-11-04 23:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you had a bond, after 7 yrs probably a strong one. You didnt say what caused the breakup but it must have been that something really went wrong. I think you need to let go. Im sure you do miss him, hate him, and love him, thats all part of it. I think what your missing is "what used to be" and that is a difficult thing to get over. But it is GONE. . So what you have to do is think for yourself, it's not about him anymore. Time for you to do things that make you happy things you enjoy. TIme with friends, family, or dating again. Let the past go and him go with it. Time will and can heal a broken heart but only if you allow it!!
2007-11-04 23:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel as I have had a bust up with 2 dearly loved friends of many years standing. I presume something very hurtfull happened to make you break up, and you still love your friend, but cant get back together unless your partner comes to you and apologises from the heart. If that happens then your relationship would heal. If it doesnt happen....no. Wouldnt it be terrible if your partner was feeling the same way. Could you get a mutual friend to explain to your partner of your feelings, and of the need for your partner to approach you with a genuine apology and invitation back into each others life? Then if it doesnt happen you will have your answer. I think with me there will always be a deep scar in my heart for my friends, and I think you will be the same - but even so, in the end, things will move on.
2007-11-04 22:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time doesn't really heal a broken heart, it just kinda numbs it a little at a time. Well, speaking from personal experience, I was with this guy for 5 years, broke up.
5 years down the road now, he's married, I'm getting married next year. Memories are still there when I think of him. Hope you recover and stand strong.
2007-11-04 22:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by silverdash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot say that time will heal all wounds because like you i also miss my ex.
The only thing that I can remommend is that you stay busy try to date other men and give the ex a call when you are ready.
Do U have any mutual friends to ask how he is doing or is he dating someone else. Maybe he is feeling the same way.
I wish you the best of luck and hope it works out for you. Please remember not all men immediately moe on when a relationship breaks up, and I doudt that another man will help reight away.
2007-11-04 22:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships just stop working sometimes, and the addiction to that person remains. i was deeply in love with a girl for about a year, and the break up was devastating to my personal life. i could not get myself away from her, and i still have these thoughts about her 4 years later.
the closest thing i can relate it too is quitting cigarettes. i had to completely remove every connection i had with the person, or else I wouldn't have survived. if you are serious about getting over this person, you have to be ready to dismiss whatever bond you had with him. and sweety I know how hard that is.
time is the great healer of all things, but there will always be scar tissue to contend with. good luck, kiddo, and stay away! no more contact
2007-11-04 22:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals a broken heart-it depends on YOUR heart.
At this time, your mind is telling you to get a move on but your heart says that you STILL love him. Don't follow your mind without following your heart with it. Don't force your heart if it doesn't want to fit in the situation. So do these steps:
*Try to call him up or send a letter and a small key chain that is related to a heart (key chain of a heart, ring, says I LUV U, etc)
If its a card:
=in it, say sorry (even if you didn't do anything bad to him) and that you still love him...God bless :)
2007-11-04 22:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by rica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a real and strong love it will very hard for you forget but yes it is right time can heal a broken heart
you know how they say - the eyes that you do not see them anymore your forget them
try to find an occupation do something do not spend time in home remembering about him tings will be easier
and if you feel to cry just cry let everything go out do not keep it inside you it will better for you - feel released
2007-11-04 22:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Helena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Time can heal any wound". Even I have experienced this, only with a friend. There are some ways that this can be healed:
1. You might find someone better than him.
2. As you age, your memories starts to fade, there might be a time you will forget him.
But the best solution, is to talk to him. Even though you got no contact with him, if you truly want to be fully healed, you will search. God has his plans.
2007-11-04 22:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Keybearer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes time will heal the heart, I was married for 31 years, he messed up and could care less about what he did my heart was broken, but I went to classes to learn to cope with this mess and the classes help a lot.
2007-11-05 00:03:25 · answer #11 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋