I'm not sure if you have 'head girl' and 'head boy' in America or where ever you are from, but basically the staff and students choose a boy and a girl to represent the school. They have to be general all rounded students.
I started a new school in January this year and I knew the already elected head girl from a previous school. I thought she was a nice girl.
Recently we had a rugby game between our year group and the one below us. I heard our head girl say 'I wish all these black people would get the f*** out of the way, there's too many n*ggers at this school, white people are the majority, that's the way it should be'.
I live in New Zealand, a generally harmonious country!
I know there are extremists everywhere. I'm sports prefect so I have to spend a bit of time with her. The year is coming to an end, and I can't stand this girl! We have to be friendly for prize giving and other events.
Any suggestions?
2007-11-04 21:36:33 · 14 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Head Girl/Boy or School Captain or Prefect (many of the titles given to individuals in this postition around the world)
Someone in the position of head girl or boy is meant to be an ambassador for your school. They are meant to not just be leaders but to demonstrate tolerance & understanding. They are meant to be role models. A leader should be unifying as opposed to devisive. Discrimmination regardless of its basis is divisive. Racial intolerance/discrimmination is not acceptable from anyone regardless of their position in their community; it is wrong. Your school is your community. Discrimmination is not necessarily a display of ongoing behaviour or beliefs. It can be one off behaviour. However sometimes even when we know something is discrimmination and that it is wrong; is best to not go in all guns blazing. You need to be smart and strategic. Place the emphasis on her behaviour - that is you dont like her demonstrated behaviour - instead of you dont like her & this is not something you would have expected from a school leader.
Perhaps go to a member of staff with whom you have a good relationship - and seek advice (it should be someone higher up in terms of staff hierarchy) . Ask them about the qualities that a school leader should have and demonstrate. Allow them to respond. Then ask does our school have this same expectation. Allow them to respond. Then state if you heard a school leader (this could be anyone in a number of leadership postions) & (quote what you heard them say) what would you do expect someone to do about this situation or how would you advise someone to act? Be careful not to label or name the head girl as a racist or the one who made such comments during this conversation - she may very well be one - but you are setting the scene. Remember emphasize behaviour as opposed to the individual and emphasize expectations and behaviours that are for the good of the school & the whole school community.
I would be aiming for a firm message to be given at an all school assembly. Where everyone in the school community is reminded of school expectations around the issue of racism and any other form of discrimmination; whether they be in the company of their fellow peers or those from other schools. Then everyone understands the rules. If the Head Girl behaves in this manner again - then go and register a formal complaint.
It is important that you note the day & time of this incident and any future incidents - note them in a diary. Also note any potential witnesses. Realise though that people may not back you up. So be very sure of yourself. At the end of the day - discrimmination whether it be racial, sexual etc is wrong. A head girl should know better.
In the meantime you should conduct yourself with integrity and fulfill your role as a school leader and work with this girl in a positive manner - this does not mean that you have to be her friend. If she says something inappropriate in front of others - without being angry, hostile simply state "you werent being racist then were you." This is a direct but non confrontational manner of showing you dont tolerate racism or discrimmination. Make sure if she says this in the presence of other individuals that you question her motives in front of them. This shows others that you dont tolerate racism - many of these individuals may be thinking the same as you. It is a technique I use with my teen daughter even if she is with friends. When she wants something and is demanding or rude in tone etc - I just say " You weren't being rude then were you." This is quite often enough for her to rephrase what she has to say. Though I have to say dealing with rudeness is alot easier than addressing discrimmination.
I think you are someone of high integrity & very courages for wanting to address this issue. You are an excellent leader. Good luck
2007-11-04 22:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this will help but it is the only thing I can think of.Was the head girl playing on the team when she made these remarks? If so, maybe the coach could suspend her for a few games for unsportsmanlike conduct.If she is not on the team approach the coach and the principal about this girl's comments.I'm not sure what the head girl does but I don't think her conduct is in any way respresentative of anyone who is supposed to be a leader of any sort.Perhaps if someone else heard these comments as well they would support what you heard.If you do nothing and she goes to sports events at other schools she will make your school look racist.Not a good image for a school to have.Take care.
2007-11-05 04:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady, racism is not something your born with. It's taught by environment. It's not her fought that she was raised up in a home where those around her used slang such as the N word and more. It's conditioned into her, you might try talking to her first before you take it to the Headmaster, or teacher. Racism is a behavior that can be broken. When I was a boy, my mother and some other family told me that anyone who is different from us are bad people and during my teen years I believed that. When I became a man, that all changed and as a minister I love all people no matter race. She will outgrow it.
2007-11-05 00:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i really feel that you need to talk to a teacher or someone in charge at your school. This is very wrong, Racism in any form or fashion is not to be tolerated and should be reported immediately. A person who is looked up to in as a Head Girl is not representing the school in a positive manner - and if she were to be influencing others - the by all means she needs to be replaced. Again, Racism has absolutely no place in society....I know that it goes on but if we can do something about it, we need. Again, I think you need to go teacher, a counselor, or the principal and let them know....I know if others did not hear what she said, at this point, it may be your word against but they can be on the look out for other things that she may do or say......and if she does if she is racist, she will get caught.....so good luck to you.....
I feel this is bothering you....so do the right thing...
GOOD LUCK
2007-11-04 23:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Optimistic1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of putting on a 'nice' face as practice for future times in your life that you'll have to do the same.
Although, what's the harm in telling her what you think of her comments? Are the 'prize giving and other events' more important that maybe taking a stand for these people she's putting down? Does EVERYONE know of her racial attitude or could you maybe get her on tape somehow saying these things and take it to you headmaster/dean? I'm sure that might take her down a notch! Goodluck!
2007-11-05 02:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could try talking to her/the head of either your year or your school.
I don't really think there is much you can do,i mean if nobody else has heard her saying these things then,chances are they're gonna believe the head girl over you.
Watch her for a while,if she says anything else racist then,tell somebody.
Its not right,and you must let order be restored.
2007-11-04 21:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kαtydid ★ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you should report her immediatley there is no way that that type of behaivior should be tolerated in a school or anywhere else, especially if its from someone as influencial as a head girl. i suggest you talk to a member of staff that you trust and make sure that something is done about it!
2007-11-04 23:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell someone in your school about what you heard her say. someone like that should not represent all of you, if don't agree with her, she's crazy and i hope that she's never the head girl anymore!
2007-11-04 22:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by outta~this~world 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how about u just ignore her!!! n my old school, there were many many black ppl and i got called cracker all of the time and didnt care so she prob doesnt care if some stupid girl made a stupid comment.
2007-11-05 10:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be friendly to her. Infact be friendly to everyone in the school. It puts a good impression on our schools
2007-11-04 22:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋