We have been best friends for twenty years and he is a talented young man, also a minister. We met and worked together in church as musicians and became like big-sister and brother, We are both Christians and live for the Lord. My fiance is 65 and says it will be diisrespectful. I am 63 and would like an honest opinion since I feel that I will be ashamed to put a best friend in a hote. Help, give me some feedback please., don't want this to cause a problem when I get married. My fiance and I don''t live together, planning to get married in the future, just want some clarification.
2007-11-04 20:22:15 · 3 answers · asked by Kadeezha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if it is a man friend and he is your friend not you hubby's than maybe your hubby is insecure about something or just old fashioned in his ways woman did not invite men friends to stay over niter in there homes in the old days and some oldies cant deal with the change when they have lived with that belief for this many years I'm sure your friend can get a room near by and respect your hubby's wishes but in my case i would let him stay a friend is a friend and you help when you can and if it has been awhile sense you've seen each other well the late hours the 3 of you at a kitchen table playing cards or just catching up would be the right thing to do with out making the friend feel bad by saying no that they cant stay either this is your decision and if you cant come up with a resolution i suggest you and you hubby get a room at the same hotel and all have a good night out and enjoy the time together and leave the family home issues out of the equation all together
2007-11-04 20:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Angela H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if you're engaged and your fiance doesn't live with you, and this young man will be staying with you (not you and your husband, as you stated in the question) then I do see why you fiance wouldn't be happy with this arrangement. It would make quite a few people uncomfortable.
If you were a married couple putting a friend up for the night, then there wouldn't be a problem, but that's not the case is it? You will be alone with this man in your home.
Or are you only asking about a possible future event, when you're married and this friend comes into town? Then it would be up to the two of you (your husband and yourself) to decide what is and isn't appropriate for the two of you.
2007-11-04 20:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance doesn't like it don't do it.
2007-11-04 20:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋