Who else dislikes their mum????

Question

I really dislike my mum and the reason why is because she is turning me into what she is a BIG bag of nerves! She also puts all her life problems on me which further makes me extremely sad. Who else doesnt like their mum?

On record I'm really upset, she has really cut the cake this time!

Thanks for you comments. I apologised for getting angry at her. I love her a lot, its just sometimes I dislike who she is, I miss who she was. Oh god now I'm crying lol well thanks again. I’m going to promise myself never to say things to her that I will regret later.

Answer 1

Me, I hate my Mum.

She blames everything on me. She tells me how her life has been wasted because she's had children. I have told her that I was never asked to be born and if she felt that way then I wish she'd keep her pants on.

She chose my step father over me and my brother. She'll put her every need before mine, she's put my life in danger many times.

Nothing I do is ever good enough. I've got top grades in all my classes except one, but it's not good enough. I'm sports prefect at school, it's not good enough. Yet my brother can sit on his backside and do nothing, and still he's the most perfect child in the world.

My boyfriend has the best Mum ever, she's so lovely and caring and he isn't grateful.

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Answer 2

I've never gotten on with my mum - we've never been close. My mum isn't really a maternal person and I think if my dad hadn't have wanted kids, she shouldn't have. My mum has a favorite out of my brother and I (whether she admits it or not) and it's my brother. I used to be a daddy's girl but now I'm nearly 17 and an adult so I'm not any more. I can't even stand to hear my mum say the word 'period' or anything, I just get grossed out by it. I haven't ever felt like there was a connection with my mum - maybe it's because she was so nasty to me when I was younger. My mum has always had a nasty temper and I used to get the sharp end of it. My brother, at my Murder Mystery Evening, my brother came in crying because he'd fallen off the wheelie bin. When he cried, my mum shouted at him and said, "Stop crying for God's sake, people will wonder what the Hell's wrong with you." My mum and I haven't ever (I'm not lying) actually had a proper conversation without it feel awkward. I think it has something to do with her upbringing because my grandparents didn't show her much affection and shouted at her and therefore it's made her a worse parent. However, it will make me a better parent because I don't want my children going through the same as what I have.

Answer 3

At times, both! She will do anything to get into an arguement, and she always thinks that she's right, which is not true. She can practically turn anything into a competition or anything, and then she expects US to go an apologize to her for starting the arguement. She takes things waaaaaaay too seriously. I don't blame her. According to the oh so lovely Chinese Zodiac (we're Chinese... duh...) she was born in the Year of the Dragon. And, obviously, the Dragon is known for having a large pride and ability to think that it is always right. :P

She's also one of the worst shopping moms ever. I swear. xD And a bad spender. She buys tons of stuff, then never uses it! She has a curling iron, the entire world's supply of Neutrogena products, these GIANT tubes of lipstick (which is SO not her!), more mirrors and combs you can count, a Neutrogena face brush, another face brush, curlers, general amounts of makeup, and mountains of general facial stuff. Most of them have only been used once. They're about 10 years old so I doubt they still work. :P

One day, she could be like, "Ok, that's the cheapest... We'll go with that!" Another day, she could say, "It's worth to get something expensive!"

But underneath all that, she's my mom, and I love her. xD

Answer 4

Whatever the reason you dislike her, I'm sure you don't really hate her.

That hurts me, you know.

I'm sixteen. My mom passed away last year, and until now I haven't been able to fully grasp its meaning.

I miss my mom a lot so much, i can't tell you just how sad I am...

It's painful not to have your mom around.

As for your mom, she might be tired, and I'm sure she doesn't really mean to "turn you into a BIG bag of nerves"...


I know your mom really wouldn't be happy if she found out you dislike her.

I know she loves you very much, because if she didn't, you wouldn't be with her right now. you'd be off to some orphanage or something.


maybe she's just having a hard time trying to reach you, and she's having a really hard time trying to express her feelings.


You know, parents have a lot of responsibilities on their shoulders, and we have NO idea how much they go through and how much they sacrifice just to make sure we're okay...


So go...


the next time you feel upset about her..., just go on and hug her.

Real tight.

Answer 5

I guess I can relate. I grew up mostly without a mother though. She was far more interested in men, bars, and living the high life of fancy things and selfishness.

My best advice to you is, don't let her rent space in your head. She's not paying for it. It's hard to do, but you need to say to yourself, this is my mom's baggage, not mine and I need to accept her, forgive her, and be my own person. Don't allow it to affect you in a negative way, instead make a choice to grow beyond it. It is sad sometimes, but sometimes in some situations the younger one has to rise above their parents mentality about life. This doesn't mean be rebellious, but make a concious choice to remain positive and filter her out. And maybe try to talk to her. In a nice way. Like "Mom, when people dump their problems on me it's hard for me to deal with, it's too heavy for my shoulders to carry, maybe you could find a coucellor or close friend to talk to because i'm just your daughter and this is affecting our relationship" I think your mom may need some coucelling, but I wouldn't suggest pushing that on her, a subtle suggestion perhaps. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

This is the greatest dilemma of any person in this world - is not to be in a harmonious relationship with your family member
Its parents like yours and mine that create the villains/criminals in these world. You sometimes wonder why they were even "blessed" with a child if they don't know how to love it and take care of it.
I hate my mom too because she is the nastiest person in this world, she always say bad things about me to her friends,co-workers,partners, suppliers. she always puts me down, she always tries to sabotage what I'm doing to make sure I don't succeed etc. Even if they are the person who gave life to us that does not mean they can just push us around, if they don't love you and you shouldn't either.
Basically there is not much you can do here, if you are already in the right age and financially capable then leave your hell-house and be on your own so you can work on improving your own life and self-esteem.

Answer 7

i don't dislike or hate my mom, but i can't say that i like her, she has dissapointed me!

She left me and my brother when we were both 6 and 5 years old. I've always lived with my grandparents from my dad but not for my bro, so one day, after my parents divorced, She went to my grandparents' house and left my brother in front of the gate, she told my grandma that she wouldn't take care of my bro ( and me) then she left just like that.

I don't see her very often, once i didnt see her for five years with no greetings on my birthdays. when i wanted to study abroad, as a daugther i told her so, she came but stayed for only 1 1/2 hours then she went away again!

At first, i thought she was just too young but once i read her letter, she didn't want to go for a mother day when i was in kindergarten because she wanted to spend the day with her-then boyfriend which was my dad's employee! ....sh*t , it's like in a soap right?

I'm just sad because i can't have a mother just like most of my friends. sometime i wonder if i could go shopping or just self grooming in the salon with my mother..but i know i won't ever experience it ! *sigh*

Now, i don't want to think so much about my mom, let her be as i've always said to my self, i'm still happy that i have a pair loving grandparents and a cool dad! i'm 21 now, so it's time to think further about the future rather than stuck in the past!

Answer 8

I'd love my mom no matter what
why dislike our moms???
they could of given us ABORTION
and you say you dislike them
the thing is
I know a lot of people with dead parents
like my friend Kiah's mom died really tragicly and she was mad at her mom that day
now she regrets EVERYTHING shes done from birth
appreciate your parents
you never know what can happen and how much they love you!

Answer 9

I'd love my MOM if she was ever with me. See.. my parents are separated coz of something my mom did and ever since I found out about it ... I've hated her. I used to love her... she was the most beautiful woman on earth. Now I don't see her anymore. So hun... consider yourself one of the lucky ones.... you'll get over it..........AFTER ALL.. SHE IS YOUR MOTHER..!! GOOD LUCK IN LIFE...Adios

P.S. I've never told anyone that my family is in pieces before. Not even my best friend. So keep it quite..lols...lols

Answer 10

i no longer talk to my mum, shes a bitter twisted old cow, i havent talked to her in 5 years now and never regret a day past, a lot of people think im disrespectful but they dont know her, she now tries to blacken my name with everyone i know and get everyone to feel sorry for her and people have me judged without hearing my side "who cares she's a fat ho'".
im now married with 2 kids and im better now without any contact and i know im a lot happier than i would be if she was about.
so in conclusion, depending on the circumstances its ok to hate bitter twisted old cows (aka-mum) because people shouldnt treat you what ever way they want to just because theyre family.
hope this helps good luck.