I broke up with my wife and now I want her back?

Question

My wife took my 1 yr daughter back to North CA about 4 mons ago. She told me that she wanted to get her college degree to make more money so we can move out from my parents's place. SHe got no privacy, I understand but I want to live with my parents to help them because my younger sister will get married and who's going to take care of my parents? She's a great wife, never ask for anything but to have our own family is her only wish. My parents and sisters are working. I gave them money to buy this mobile home, bought my dad's car, bought my sister lots of expensive gifts but i still don't think it's enough. My mom told me "It's your turn to take care of us, I've brought you to this world, if you follow her we'll disown u. I hate her for took my grandaughter away, break up with her." I broke up wit my wife and now she's 6 mons pregnant. She's all depressed but I don't know what to do. I even told her I don't care and I flirted with other girls.

Now I want to tell her to go back and live with us here (South CA). What can I do?
thank u

I know she went through alot with my family, They didn't give her privacy and my mom kept telling me not to put her on top. I didn't help her with my daughter, she;s the one who wake up during the night. After we broke up, I've told her lots of painful words and now she's still forgive me but I can't go to her because my family will disowne me.

Answer 1

First of all ur an a$$ for telling her you didn't care and ur flirting with other women...

My thoughts; all I have ever wanted was my own family... it's not a selfish thing... it's what I want and I intend on finding someone who wants the same things. She didn't sign up for living with ur parents... u need to find a way to honor ur wife. Stop thinking of what u r wanting bc it's no longer about you.

Figure out a way to fix this bc I promise the next step to her will be ending this marriage!!

Answer 2

Man you need to grow up!! What are you thinking. Look at what all you said you done for your family and then said it wasn't enough. What did you do for your wife? Why would you let your mother talk about her like that. Your Mother is WRONG!! The bible says you will leave your mother and father and cling to your spouse!! Your wife should be #1. Poor thing is pregnant and with a yr old baby and alone because you aren't man enough to be a husband to her. YOU NEED TO GET YOUR PRIORITY'S STRAIGHT. Why did you even marry her to start with. You married her and then basically kicked her to the curb when she wanted a normal life. Funny you would say she is all depressed and you don't know what to do. Maybe if you started listening to her and hear what she is saying, (seems like you don't have a problem listening to your Mom I think you hear her loud and clear) then you might have a clue. I really don't think you love her like she should be loved as a wife you sure haven't demonstrated it here. If you leave your parents home she may have enough love, faith, and trust in you to give you another chance, and if she does you need to finally treat her as your wife and give her all the love and respect she deserves. If i were her I dont think you deserve a chance. Just the way i see it. and by the way... you flirting with other girls!!! What!! you really are a jerk. You think that makes you more of a man or is that what your Mommy told you was the right thing to do. Really the only thing i can say to you is it's a darn good thing you aren't married to my daughter!!

Answer 3

I really hope this question is a joke. But, if you're serious, then you desperately need to get professional counseling because your priorities are very screwed up.

Your main priority should be your wife and children. No one should come before your wife and children, not even your parents.

It is unthinkable that you have provided your parents with a home and car, and purchased expensive gifts for your sister, when you have not even provided your wife and children with a home of your own.

Your wife deserves a real man, and to be honest, you sound extremely immature - like a little mama's boy. Your wife would probably be much better off without you. Then she would have a chance of meeting a man who will treat her right.

I love my parents with all my heart, but they would never behave the way your parents have behaved. And I would never treat my children or their spouses the way your parents have treated you and your wife. My children owe me nothing for bringing them into this world. That was my choice, not theirs. Your parents are totally out of line, as are you. Stop trying to buy your parents love.

Do your wife a huge favor and don't try to get back with her until you have had extensive counseling.

Answer 4

A man's place is with his wife and children. Quit supporting your parents - they're working and they are wrong. They are using and manipulating you. And quit flirting with other women. That certainly has no place in a mature man's life.

You need to get on the phone to her and apologize immediately. You should have bought your own mobile home instead of your parents one. Are you rich that you can afford to support 2 or 3 families?

Your family is unreasonable to disown you for being with your family.

Good luck and joy to you.

Answer 5

Your wife comes first. When you marry you cleave unto your spouse not your parents. You cannot continue to put you wife and children below your parents. That is wrong and it doesn't not show love. Tell your parents you love them but your wife and children are your first priority.
Be a man and a husband and go to her. Don't ask her to come back, go to her.
You have two helpless children, that mommy should not have to tell them, Daddy didn't love us enough.
I don't talk about people's parents, but there is something seriously wrong with a parent thinking the child owes them something. A mother's love is not selfish, its suppose to be self-LESS and nor does it seek to break up families.
I understand loving your parents, Dude but I have to say again.
GO TO YOUR WIFE AND BE A MAN, A HUSBAND, AND A FATHER.
and in turn in the long run you will be a better son.

Answer 6

You are do great a son and a brother, I should see. But do you think you did too much for them. And also, your mother is somehow not very considerate for she asked you to do lots of things for them only because she brought you to this painful world?? It sounds ridiculous to me. I saw an article on interracialmatch.com, it told a similar story as yours. I think you should ask your wife back since she is now 6 months pregnant.

Answer 7

You chose your wife (and didn't your family) and you have a responsibility to your child.

That's where I'd be -- with them. Even if things don't work out with the wife, the child requires and deserves either your care or your financial support.

If your parents care at all about their grandchild, they'd come to the same realization.

It's nice that you have splurged on your parents and sibs, but that really, really is not where your primary interests lie right now.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say but u made a commitment to your wife when you married her and also your children.You dont do that if you love her and not to speak badly but parents should never put that pressure on a child to take care of them.To be put a spot where you have to chose.Family is family but you have a pregnant wife and another child,that's wrong to abandon her.It may have been hard on her to live with our parents.Its hard to do that because as a couple u need privacy.If you want her back you should she how she feels and respect that.Its nice to take care of your parents but take care of your wife and children too..

Answer 9

I just hate it when ...

- parents control their son's marriage life

- when the son listens to his parents !!!

U should seperate ur parents from ur marriage life and dont allow them to interfer .. i'm sure i'll be as angry as ur wife is and would leave to avoid more trouble with ur family

Look i know u love ur family and no matter what they love u too .. but ur place is wrong .. ur place should be with ur wife (i'm sorry but that's how it is)
ur mom was 100% wrong when she threatened u !! no mom threatens her son like that !!!

I'd say .. go to ur wife .. beg for her forgiveness cuz i'm sure she's going through alot and keep in touch with ur parents even if they dont wanna talk to u keep trying and send them money .. trust me .. they wont send the money back to u

yes it's ur turn to take care of ur family and u will be ! you'll send them the money they need and call or visit them from time to time .. but u really need to be there with ur wife

NEVER LET UR FAMILY INTERFER IN UR MARRIAGE LIFE AGAIN !!!

One more thing .. new born babies are miracles .. once the baby is born and u send ur mom a picture of him/her , it might soften her heart .. Now go to ur wife and help her give birth to a healthy baby !

Answer 10

i understand how you feel about your parents. buying your sister expensive gifts and dads cars, maybe a little much, and you said your sister is gonna move out and not help when she gets married. when you get married and have children of your own, that becomes the family you are responsible for. it is up to you, not your mother, to make the decisions in your marriage. i am sure you have heard "momma's boy" well, thats what im hearing. that doesnt mean give up your family or not to help them, but when you got married, that became your first priority. you wife's family gave her away to you, as well, you family gave you to her, symbolically.