my male friend is terrible for getting in contact hes always more than happy doing stuff with me but its normally me who has to phone him to do stuff like in work i ask him to the canteen or when he wants me to go over his place he asks me to phone him. I do think he likes me but i get paranoid as he dont initate much. Im not after him and he has a gf i just hate the fact i got to do the contacting. Even when he makes arrangements with other girls in the office he asks them to phone him
2007-11-04 19:36:58 · 17 answers · asked by jesabel1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well if you keep ringing him, why should he ring you....don't ring him...if he is a real friend he will get back in touch, if not then he is not a real friend....just a risk you have to take.
2007-11-04 19:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Knownow't 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't think like women and he probably wouldn't even be aware that he doesn't make the first contact. he has probably become used to you making all the suggestions and all the contact. Don't stress. Women are from mars and men are from venus. Try the old trick of not contacting him for awhile and playing it cool. He will realise!!
2007-11-05 04:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first hint is that he has a girlfriend. This just has shady written all over it...he shouldn't be hanging out with other girls (alone) when he has a girlfriend...that's probably one of the main reasons right there that he never initiates contact.
2007-11-05 03:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Krys D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't very confident. If he wants to do something with someone, he has them make all the arrangmements so he knows they want to hang out with him. It seems like it's easier for him to get shot down this way. you don't have to say "no" to his face, just don't call. He'll take that as a "no." Maybe you should say you want to do something with him and tell him he needs to call you. Help him be more assertive.
2007-11-05 03:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by bonnieja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lazy. If you don't like the arrangement, where you do all the work, then stop. If he wants to get the friendship going again, he will get in touch. If not, then maybe you are better off without him.
2007-11-05 03:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
why don't you not contact him, if he really wants to hang out with you then let him contact you. sounds like he wants girls to chase after him. I would not do it and when he says why didn't you phone me so we can do what ever say " The phone works both ways " Stop putting yourself out there like that if he wants to hang out let him call you.
2007-11-05 03:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by baby grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has other people to talk to.
You need to do the same. Seriously, out more! Internet dating! Everyones a winnner!
Although at this rate you will have got me to level 4 just by answering your same questions again and again and again and again...
2007-11-08 10:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make solid plans in person, when he says "phone me", just say, & will when I'm on my way.. but I will see you at the canteen at 10....
2007-11-05 03:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be exlusively with him then you should let him know. Men need to be told what you want. We don't think about the same things so help him out. If he doesn't want to be with just you than he is Mr Wrong
2007-11-05 03:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jake & Jamie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez...well im quite a lazy person and i tend not to arrange things with people but it doesnt mean im not happy to see them and stuff...im just lazy! but if he's arranging with other girls and stuff...then hes probably not that interested.
2007-11-05 05:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋