I have needed braces ( for teeth :D ) since i was about 10 and im 17. I have a big overbite and my bottom teeth are a bit un-aligned. I was supposed to get them when i was 11 but I dont know what happened about that. Whenever I ask if im ever going to get braces their excuse is they dont have any money (which i know they do, i accadentaly saw their bank statement), yet theyre prepared to pay to get some natural light in the kitchen.
My parents are seriously looking at getting a skylight or solar tube put in the kitchen so they can have some sunlight in there. I have no idea how much it would cost, im thinking atleast $2000. Am i being selfish if i say that fixing my teeth are more important that kitchen light? Or should I get over it and save for the whole of next year and the year after (im not going to be working full time cos of polytech). Im extremely self concious of my teeth, i find it embarrasing just to ask my parents if they will pay for braces.
2007-11-04 18:37:16 · 10 answers · asked by blueblue 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would tell them a little white lie and say that you feel like your overbite is making it harder for you to relax your jaw without biting down, which is giving you headaches. And tell them that you are grinding your teeth at night, and you don't want to wear off the enamel, and that it is further giving you headaches.
If they really care about you maybe they will start to look at this as a medical issue, rather than a cosmetic one.
This is not completely untruthful either. I had a very slight overbite, but perfect teeth when I was a teenager. I did not want to get braces, but over the years the overbite has become worse. Now I am going to have to get braces, early next year, to correct some of the above problems that I mentioned.
The other thing you can do is act all gloomy and down in the dumps. When they ask you what is wrong, tell them that your feelings have been hurt. Say that someone at school told you that you would look so much if you had your teeth fixed. And tell them that you can't stop thinking about it and that you are self-concious. I don't think you are being selfish.
They are your parents and they have payment plans to help finance this type of work.
2007-11-04 18:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Boudreaux 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww, that’s a hard one. I don’t think you’re being selfish because how you feel is more important then the kitchen light. But you are getting older. Maybe asking them to split the cost will help. If not, you’re almost 18 so you can pay yourself.
Its probably not just about the money – its feeling down because they don’t want to help.
By the way, I think it’s a lot more than $2000. It might be 2000 with insurance. But I’m not sure…
good luck
2007-11-04 18:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by mary n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish at all. Tell your folks how you feel extremely self conscious about your teeth. You could tell them that you would pay them back in small installments, so that you will be ready and not feel embarrassed when you are working full time. Tell them you would even sign a contract that you would make payments to them until your debt was payed off.
All you can do is try.
2007-11-04 19:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should explain to them, i now how self concious ur teeth make you fell (i had a major overbite) getting braces is the best thing i've ever done, i dont think ur being selfish if it will improve ur self esteem try talking to them and explain, if not then save like mad, braces can be paid in instalments, at least here in australia!
2007-11-04 18:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by trish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its your parents responsiblility to look after your dental care. to be denied braces for better looking teeth is selfish on their part coz they think a kitchen is more important.
because my mum was on the pension i had my braces fitted when i was 17 yrs and it cost about $380.
if you have concession its cheaper or just get consulted by a dentist and try to see how much it would cost and then try to save that money up then pay for your own.
then at least you know you look after yourself and you can see them for who they really are.
2007-11-04 18:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by dot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think your being selfish, I have a son who is 13 and he is getting his braces in a couple of weeks. As parents it is our responsibility to make sure are kids are taken care of. I think you need to tell them how you feel.
2007-11-04 18:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by mawee6590807 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 19:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by soria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish. Your needs should come first. I am a mother.
2007-11-04 18:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no... their kid should be more important than any material things... i understand how you feel... it can affect your self esteem... ask them to pay for your braces... it's their responsibility
2007-11-04 19:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♀ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish, you are right.
Actually I wonder why your welfare is not a priority for your parents.
2007-11-04 18:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by Superfly sister 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋