This one day, I almost missed the bus, right? When I finally get on the bus, I don't really have time to walk to the back where I usually sit. So I sit next to this girl. She introduces herself as Sarah and starts up a conversation. We talk a couple more times in the school Caf., then BAM! We're best friends. I go to my locker after-school, and she's there. I go to sit on the bus after-school, and she's in MY seat, the one I've been sitting on since SIXTH grade, and expects me to sit next to her. She's always bombarding me with e-mails. Calls 5 million times a day. It's creepy, stalk-erish and extremely annoying! Whenever someone says something funny, she punches me on the shoulder. Real hard. It's starting to bruise. She's like this parasite thats sucking the LIFE outta me!
Whenever I see her, I think 'Shoot me now.' So... How do I tell her off? It doesn't have to be nicely done, either. I'm contemplating murder at this point. Or suicide. Anything for some peace.
2007-11-04 17:45:09 · 15 answers · asked by legion! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take her aside and be firm with her (there is no need to be rude or cruel though).
Let her know that you are uncomfortable with her excessive familiarity, that you don't know each other well enough for her to be acting like you are best friends and that her pushy behaviour is making you not want to hang out with her. Tell her that it's not appropriate for her to be punching you as it hurts and that being comfortable with physical contact is something that needs to develop naturally as a friendship grows.
If you're not interested in being friends with her at all then let her know that you don't want to talk to her or hang out with her.
Just be clear and assertive so that there's no confusion. There's no need to go out of your way to make her feel horrible - she probably doesn't even realize that her behaviour is inappropriate and excessive and she's going to feel bad enough as it is.
2007-11-04 17:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anlina S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't have to be done nicely, then just get up the courage to tell her how you feel, or ignore her entirely until she gets the point. Its not very friendly but its better than killing her.
If shes this clingy maybe she has a hard time making friends and now that she thinks she started a friendship she doesn't want to lose it, maybe consider just asking for some space, and tell her it doesn't mean you don't want to be friends (even though you probably don't, its the nice way).
Its much better to approach people in person when you have a problem, but if you think you're gonna have trouble doing it in person just do it through email or i.m.
2007-11-05 02:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan, 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't say your age it's hard to give you good advice. I think you must be junior high, so this is my advice. I think you should tell her to leave you alone that she's crowding you too much. If you're really concerned about her mental health, you can tell your school counsellor to talk with her. She may have some real issues at home since she's latched so strongly onto you. Good Luck.
2007-11-05 01:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kakoii90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't have a lot of friends and needs companionship. Just tell her to back off a little, that she's suffocating you. If she doesn't listen, then that might be the time to get mean, but give her a chance first.
2007-11-05 01:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by thisislizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, this situation really doesn't call for "telling her off". Personally I would just ignore her and treat her real cold. She'll get the hint. Then when she asks, unload on her. My mom always taught me "If you're not ready for the answer then don't ask the question". So if she asks you what's wrong or why you're treating her differently, UNLOAD!
2007-11-05 01:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know what to do. What a waste of points. Just talk to her. What are you afraid of? Talking to her has got to be better than suicide or murder.
2007-11-05 01:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by MelLisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had this problem before i completely get how you feel, but dont tell her off, maybe just sit down with her and be like "i think its really great were friends but i need my breathing space" and next time she punches u tell her not 2 do it. if you talk to her and she doesnt listen to you then tell her off. just blow your thoughts out on her. goodluck
2007-11-05 01:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know in a nice manner that she is smothering you and needs to stop. If she continues with the behavior, then feel free to express yourself in a stronger manner.
2007-11-05 01:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SARAH! WILL YOU STOP BUGGING ME! ITS DRIVING ME NUTS YOU CRAZY BIT CH!
or
sarah i need to talk to you.. u have been on my nerves lately, calling me, hitting my on my shoulder, sending me all those emails. and i want my seat back, i have been sitting there since 6th grade so i'll appreciate you dont sit there.
2007-11-05 02:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by NAI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You murder her you get hung!
There's a saying.If someone talk big .You talk small(downgrade) your self.In a situation.Just hang on to the nuisance.It will go away.She may get fed up someday.
2007-11-05 04:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by adam a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋