Considering the fact that he went to GA on a little semi-vacation before deploying to Cuba. He went there to visit family considering we live in KS and his family are in GA. And the reason he went to GA for vacation is because he was getting ready to leave for Cuba-his a Army Soldier-but when I go to visit him, there are a few girls phone numbers in his phone and of course I ask him about the ones I do not recognize and he says that its nothing....and I just let it go. So he gets to CUba and I need a cell phone and he sends me his and then I get calls and text mess. from this girl and I get some info out of her and basically they went out on two dates and they talked on the phone quite a bit ( I have cell phone bills to prove it) and I asked him about it and he denies the dates but he does not deny getting her number and the reason is only so his friend could get with that girls friend! But I am not so sure about this, yes I guess its all written out for me...but my instincts are not
2007-11-04 17:33:12 · 29 answers · asked by Aquisha M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he was doing something with this girl. If you have never seen her number and she says they only went on a few dates, then she really has no reason to lie. A lot of guys won't admit something like this unless you catch them red handed (some won't even admit it then). You can't really work this out with him if he doesn't admit it. Just keep your eyes open.
2007-11-04 17:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kima 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya he may not of physically cheated but he deffinitly did why would some strange girl make something like that up. I'm not really sure but I think it might be time for you to move on. If it's for a friend maybe you should find out the friends number and ask im about it. (it might on the phone bill) and then you'll know.
2007-11-04 17:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by MelC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your question is but by his own words he did get her phone number and talk to her quite a few times (you do have the bills).
Yes, maybe is was just a family friend however, if it was he would have told you because it did not mean that much to him. The fact that he is hiding it mean that he didn't want you to know. Didn't want you to know what?
The choice is yours if you want to give him a second chance but he has to come completely clean with you. Good luck!
2007-11-04 17:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by J C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
would u feel better if those numbers were not on his phone but found out he was having secret affairs? its so easy to delete numbers and messages on a phone but he did not do it. so he is either telling the truth or he is clearly sending u the message that its over.
u seem a bit obsessed going thru phone bills so ask urself whether u are going to spend time being suspicious, u are getting out of the relationship or that u are going to trust the man. u know him best.
2007-11-04 17:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by kiki68 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you love him dearly by giving him the benefit of the doubt in this situation. He is clearly lying to you and seems to have other extracurricular things going on in his personal life that you don't know about. Sounds like he is not committed to you. I go out all the time with girlfriends and I NEVER put myself in a situation that would be questionable to my husband. I just don't do it! And neither should anyone else who is supposed to be in a committed relationship. I think your boyfriend had no disregard for you or respect for you by jeopardizing your relationship this way. Relationships are built on not only love, but trust as well. You have to ask yourself, do you trust him? If you have to question your boyfriends actions, I think you know what you have to do. Good luck.
2007-11-04 17:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by SoCalGal75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that the you already know the answer to your question. Sometimes we just need to hear it from someone else. The question you should be asking yourself is what am I going to do? Your heart will say one thing and your mind another. A lie can only be told once. How many times will you believe the same lie?
2007-11-04 17:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by HDizaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read Dr. Laura Schlessinger - 10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives so you can get some insight into handling your situation and to see if you need to get out of this relationship before there are children.
2007-11-04 17:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by TheProfessor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do trust ur relationship
but also keep ur eyes open
do not trust any1 blindly
find out the truth in a sensable way
n then blame any1
do not take any step wthout proof
n if necessary or possible go n talk to ur husband
afterall u both r 2 bodies but 1 soul
2007-11-04 17:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget it anytime another girls number is there and they talk and dated. That confirms the truth right there, even if a part of you does not want to see it. But you seem wise. No girls number should exist in his phone.
2007-11-04 17:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by reeree 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl do not believe the bull S---. if your instinct are telling u it not rite dam it it's not rite take the time to follow your instincts and you'll be surprised honey I've been through it for 17yrs with the marriage from hell... believe in those instincts
2007-11-04 17:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by siatajamie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋