Expectations of women?

Question

Have noticed a few comments about how if women wish to be treated right, they should act like(or be) ladies.
Men, what's your definition of a lady or lady-like behavior and with your expectations, do you think it's fair that you act like a gentleman in return? Or are you free still act any way you choose?

Answer 1

I have no expectations for women, as long as were are mutual. Although i have a problem with the stereotypical expectations of women and men. It's stupid because women and men try to live by those standards which it is impossible to me. Some examples of this, for women: being anorexic is the new skinny, you have to be perfect, you have to have strict femininity and if you walk down the street expect to get wolf whistled at. For men, i don't like these expectations out of us: boys will be boys, this gives them the right to act stupid and out of control. We can be dirty in public meaning we can look like dog s#it and still walk down the street as if nothing is wrong.. It goes both ways although i have no expectations of women or men as long as they're respectful, funny and just connect with me.

Answer 2

women persons a million. consistently act demure 2. To be self sustaining yet to act based adequate to assist our boyfriend's ego 3. visual charm as much as par with significant others expectancies mean a million. Be extra beneficial than a girl 2. would desire to brag approximately issues i in my opinion do no longer do all that nicely 3. have not got any manners

Answer 3

I believe that my fellow human beings should be treated with dignity, whatever their sex and regardless of their etiquette (ethics is another story, e.g. lying, stealing, and violence, as opposed to vulgarity, crassness, or idiocy.)

I do have my own ideas about what constitutes "ladylike" behavior and they are rather traditional, but they're nothing I'd try to push on others, save perhaps a young woman who sought my advice. the same applies to "gentlemanly" behavior.

I'll offer just one example of an area where my attitudes might perhaps be deemed prehistoric. In the company of people you don't know well, the subjects of sex, politics, and religion should be approached cautiously and respectfully or avoided altogether - unless of course, it is a forum specific to such discussions.

People's plans vis-a-vis their relationships, marriage, and procreation, should not be inquired into. Nor should their sexual preferences. If they want to volunteer, that's fine, but otherwise, respect their privacy in such matters.

Both of these apply to ladies as well as to gentlemen.

The vulgar, the obscene, the profane, and the blasphemous (which most people cannot even distinguish these days) are not appropriate in mixed company, if they are EVER appropriate. Likewise, bodily functions connected with digestion, excretion, and reproduction. And there is a gender-specific thing here, because a man who engages in such talk with other men is rude, but one who does so in front of women deserves a thrashing. (Not that I would presume to give it.)

EDIT

I happen to have a great many friends and acquaintances who are not 'ladies" and "gentlemen" according to these standards (I often fail to live up to them myself!), but are still wonderful, caring, decent, worthwhile people. I know my views sound antiquated to most, so I keep them to myself.

And keeping such opinions to oneself is also part of being a lady or a gentleman ;-)

Answer 4

FORGET about "Expectations..." What BETTER guarantee of ending up disappointed- if you "expect" someone ELSE to be a "certain way..." ? Far BETTER that we ALL act & be who we really ARE- than put on a "face" we're ONLY going to have to take off- sooner or later, & "come clean". If you can't BE Yourself, then you're NOT being honest with the other person... :(

Answer 5

I have always, since as long back as I can remember, tried to treat others as they treat me.

Therefore, some people know me as an arrogant bumhole while others known me as damn good bloke who will do what I can to help out.

As long as a woman treats me well, she'll be my lady and most certainly, I shall be her gentleman in return.

My ex wife would probably laugh loudly if she read this, but I have other ex's who can verify my words. Difference being, having enquired with professional services - I am considered an abused spouse (of course, there's eff-all services available though cos I'm male)... between my ex wife & her mother, they tore me down in many respects (no pun intended). However, I could up ex's who I remain firm friends with to this day who know I am not the person my ex-wife has portrayed.

Some examples:
1)- ex wife's brother chased me repeatedly online (messenger) harassing me and making a vieled threat of malice to my daughter. I threatened legal action upon which he said he wouldn't look after her anymore, citing my threat of legal action as his reason.
She knew the full history of events behind it, but told her friends I had 'forced' her brother to quit babysitting. When asked 'how did he do that?' she only said I had been arguing with him, purposely 'forgetting' to mention the harassment he did, that I repeatedly blocked multiple identities of his, that he made the veiled threat, etc. So they 'naturally' assumed all fault to be mine.

Thus, I have no respect for her due to her fabrications of reality to defend her so-called family of abusers.

On the other hand, the only reason one of my other ex's and I split was because her friend made a claim I was seeing someone else. That aside, we had been engaged and due to marry. Years later, it turned out the 'friend' admitted her lies and explained them away under the claim of jealousy.

They are no longer friends (as I too distance myself from this individual), my ex has married and her husband and I are practically best buddies... we're both programmers, we're both on the same college course, we've both been to the same schools - we have a lot more than this in common, but most odd of all ... his wife looks 'similar' to my ex-wife, and my ex's husband looks 'similar' to me. LoL.

Weird world we live in, eh? :o)


Anyway, short version:

I treat people as I am treated - If they poop on me, I won't necessarily poop on them, but I stay the hell away from them. If they shower me with love, I shower them with love in return.


ETA: Shingosh bloke above me, I fully agree with your answer. Not sure it actually answers the question, but I still agree with your statement - thumbs up!

Answer 6

It would be nice if women didn't dress in a manner that the first thing getting my attention wasn't how much cleavage she went out of her way to show me. It just seems rather hypocritical. Because it seems as though the common thinking is, I can show you as much as I want to, as long as my nipples remain covered. If men were to apply that same thinking and walked around with their pants unzipped, saying I can show you as much of my penis as I want to, as long as my foreskin is covered, the fact is, he would be arrested.

So if there is anything that feminism has accomplished, it is lowering the standard of decency for all women. Does that make them more ladylike?

Shingoshi Dao

Answer 7

i have no expectations in a women besides the fact that i want them to be there selves because if you don't act as yourself then you'll never work out with anybody so as long as they act as they normally would i'm completely fine with anything they do and or want to do... i love you Alyssa... =))

Answer 8

Hey, what the f#ck is ladylike
If ladies like to do what the f#ck they like
Just like you, yeah. Just like you.
Look out man here comes another one
-- Storm Large
Chorus from Ladylike

e.g.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujF_O6pBuHY