I enjoy sex, but would like for it to be more than just straight to it, if you know what I mean. Seems he only kisses me when I kiss him. My Aunt use to like the song about liking a man with a slow hand. I didn't understand the song at the time, but now I do. I just would like some real lovemaking instead of just sex. Am I asking for too much?
2007-11-04 16:26:05 · 14 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not asking too much. When it comes to sex the easiest thing to do is just be direct and to the point. Initiate foreplay with him and he does not do it on his own put his hands where you want them. He will get the point. If he tries to rush tell him that you are enjoying that and not ready yet. After wards ask him if he liked it and tell him that you would like that more often. Guys do not take hints they need to be given direct instructions. He might ask for you to tell him or to show him exactly what you want and if he does, tell him and show him. Good luck.
2007-11-04 16:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and tell him what you want. If this doesn't work, then try giving him some good foreplay. When you are finished having sex or the next time you start to go there, tell him that you will pleasure him again, but first you want him to do ____(fill in the blank). That is what worked on my husband and we are both please with the out come.
2007-11-05 00:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you're not asking too much. That's how it should be. A man needs to warm up his woman, since it takes us longer to turn on. Just talk to him about it... communication is key. Tell him you want foreplay before sex, and talk about specifically what you want. Or if you are brave enough, just show him. Take charge and you be in control!
2007-11-05 09:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shelber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him. He does it the way he does it. Some people are all about the get to it and do it, and some want to build it up and do it that way. If you don't say anything, he wont know. You need to talk to him because he is not a mind reader and I'm sure he wants to make you happy. He will appreciate that you are honest and open, in the end you and your husband will be closer.
2007-11-05 00:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No mot at all. Id ask him for more foreplay before getting down to business. Talk about what each of you like and continue to do it longer or experiment on other techniques in different positions.
By talking to him and telling him what you like will want him to do it even more. Enjoy it hopefuly longer...
2007-11-05 00:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for the love of God, don't say anything to him about it. There are ways you can force the foreplay. Prevent penetration and promote foreplay. You know? Say, "Uh uh. Not yet. You have to earn it." Say all of this teasingly of course. Trust me. If you get him all worked up, then he will do whatever it takes to achieve his goal up to and including getting you worked up.
2007-11-05 00:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him penetrate you until you're good in ready. Tease him a lot. Of course, it's good to just straight out ask for what you want or direct him with your hands.
2007-11-05 01:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're asking too much. Tell him you like to be touched and teased for a while... ask for a slow massage first with oils or whatever. Get creative!
2007-11-05 00:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not asking for too much. You need to talk to your husband. He's not a mind-reader. Let him know, in a gentle, non-accusatory way what it is you want and need from him. You have to be able to communicate in a marriage.
Good luck!
2007-11-05 00:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Its real simple. You say to him " I want more foreplay". Just tah teasy people.
2007-11-05 00:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋