Why do People think this?

Question

I am 19 years old and am going to college. I live at home and commute a total of around 3 hrs each day just to get to school. I am doing a double major in Political Science and History with a minor in Legal Studies. I hope to finish school in a total of 2 yrs (I'm almost done) and then go to law school

My problem is that I get a lot of BS from people because I am 19 and don't have a job. I spend over 50 hours at school, and spend most of my weekends volunteering. I get straight A's and take about twice as many classes as my friends who get C's and work....is it wrong for me to spend my time doing volunteer work and trying to finish college in half the time?

My parents don't want me to work because they are from a different country and they were raised that only kids whose parents cannot afford to help out their kids have jobs you shouldn't work, period. I don't have all that much time to myself and most.of my spare time is spent studying. Why do so many hate that i don't have a job

I would really like any input...Should I spend my time "being a value to society" by getting a job (as my bf puts it)? I was always taught that volunteering was WAY more important than a paycheck. Am I the only one who thinks this?

And also, if I wait to get a real job (instead of something with minemum wage like most of my friends) isn't that better for my GPA? I mean after I get my law degree I will have (hopefully) a good career that pays well...

I just don't see why so many people (even strangers) have an issue with me not working if I am helping others and getting good grades and working really hard at school!!!

Sorry for being so winded...I am just so frustrated!!! Please help me understand!!!!

oh, for those of you that have sent me emails asking what i do to volunteer, I teach English to people that have just moved to the US and don't know the language (not as easy as I thought it would be, but still rewarding) and also I volunteer at homeless shelters in the city

Answer 1

Good grief. Forget people. Who are you? Ask yourself that. What do you think?

People are people. Try doing what they say & you will end up going crazy.

Forget them it is your life and your future.

Are you ok, with just doing volunteer work?

Go through your post and write out EVERY question that you have. Only with it being addressed to you & no one else.

The answer you give, stick to & if people have a problem with it. Then that is THERE problem.

Let me ask you something. Who are they? Where are they at in life? What do they have to show for their lives? Where are they, with what they are sowing in the present. Where are they headed in 20 yrs?

Now, where are you headed in 20 yrs?

Next right down their accomplishments vs. yours. Also their accomplishment vs. your goals.

Which out wieghs the other?

Look at what you have done so far at such a young age.

Now, do you really care what they think?

Ask yourself who you are and what you are about and walk in that. With out a care for what anyone thinks of it.

Because when all is said and done YOU are the only one that has to live with YOUR decisions and choices. They sure don't have to.

Keep up the good work. You sound like you are doing a fine job. Focus on your goals.

Kate.

Ps. They are either ignorant or jealous, or both!

Answer 2

I didn't get much bs from people when I didn't work during

Don't forget that lots of them would rather NOT be working and they could very well be jealous. They wouldn't work if there was another way. I taught in an inner city school for 7 years and hated almost every minute of it, but I needed the money. Nine months after I was married, my husband and I decided that it was not a good place for me to be and that I should leave. I went out on sick days that I'd accumulated until it was either go back or quit. Most of those with whom I worked, and considered friends, gave me a hard time of it then. They also fully expected me to come back to work when the district forced me to and had the tone that they were going to make me pay for it. They were shocked and not happy when I quit. Most of them have to stay there; I had a choice and got out. They're jealous of the choice I was able to make because they don't have that choice. Most of the people giving you a hard time don't have your choice, either. Never underestimate the power of jealousy.

college--or any schooling. My job was school according to my mom. My father felt that I should have had a job, but gave into my mom. In retrospect, I think I should have had one. It would have been good for me. I think I was afraid for some reason. I didn't spend nearly as much time at school as you do--and wouldn't have.

Really, you just have to say to them respectfully but sternly, that school IS your job and you need all the time that you have outside of school to get the "As" that you get. If they persist, tell them that it's your choice, which you discussed with your family and they agree, and any more than that is, frankly, none of their business.

One last thing.....If it's your boyfriend who's participating in this, then he IS a jerk and you need to find another. Boyfriends should be supportive NOT jealous.

Answer 3

OK I'll answer respectfully first, the big bang, cells colliding to form life etc. those theories are not a part of evolution, and to get into all of it is too much so we'lll stick with evolution evolution explains the diversity of life, NOT the origin of life. Now evolution is something that can and has been observed, documented and can be witnessed right now(simply type "observed instances of speciation" into Google and you can find it.). there are many transitional fossils and by looking at DNA you can actually trace the connection of where mutations occurred. all of which you can find by spending 3 seconds on Google. now i don't think Christianity is ridiculous, (though i disagree with it) but creationism i do find ignorant because everything science has found to this date disagrees with the idea of creationism. i could go on about, the flood, the age of the earth, transitional fossils or how if god created all the animals at the same time you should see dinosaur bones and human bones found together, but you don't. plus newer species are not found back then either... there has NEVER been a fossil of a 10 million year old poodle now on to genetics, if everything was created in the same form they are in today animals wouldnt have genes for things they dont use. chickens shouldn't have the genes for making teeth (which they do, but they are inactive) and humans should not have the genes for making tails (which they do and has occurred) EDIT: i would like to see your references for proof of noahs ark and the DNA evidence for creationism. it seems very interesting

Answer 4

Most people who would complain about you not working are either jealous because they do have to work (maybe to afford school or to help out at home) or they don't realize that you are doing valuable things with your time and aren't just being lazy.

It's true that there are great experiences and life lessons to be gained by having even a crappy job, and some may see you as "sheltered" because you don't have to go through what they are going through. But, that doesn't mean that they are right and you are in the wrong.

Since you are volunteering, you are contributing to society. And, you're doing it without receiving anything in return.

As long as you don't look down upon others who need to work so that they can continue their schooling, there should be no reason for them to begrudge you for the path you've chosen. There will be plenty of time for you to slog it out at a job or in a career. Even desirable careers like law or medicine are no guarantee that you don't have to deal with crap at work! :)

Best wishes with everything,

Answer 5

I always been told "That if you are a student, your classes ARE your job"

Being a student is hard work, and with the load you have, I'm surprised you still can keep up wonderful grades, and volunteer work, without getting burnt out.

I like what people have said before... that in a matter of a few years, you'll land a job with a LOT higher pay than most of your collegue's.

Honestly, you're friends are jealous that YOU have your future set, and they are just foundering around... And your boyfriend is a jerk.... if he really loved you, he'd support you in ALL the decisions you make.

Answer 6

You are not wrong, since if you get into law school right after college you aren't going to be in a hurry to get a job. However, you should know that many employers these days shy away from people with no work experience, so for most of your friends, getting a job is essential to their ability to find a job after college. Most people also can't afford not to work, so it probably seems a little spoiled to them that you don't need to.

Answer 7

Working is a step towards adulthood. Volunteering could be constrewed as a step towards adolescence and done when you were in the Girl Scouts (sorry). With not as much of the "obligation" that's required to hold down a job. Sounds like your Friends think it's weird that you don't WANT to even learn to be independent. Don't you want to learn how to manage the money you earned? Learn to manage your time better? I'm not saying you don't want these things, but do you ever grumble to your friends you wish you [insert minor complaint here]... all teens complain to their friends a least a little about the relationship with their parents, maybe if you hinted at it just a little, they would give you a break.
Remember independence is a big deal in American culture. It doesn't matter where your parents came from. It could also be viewed as a matter of gumption, that there is something wrong with you if you have no problem living at home "sponging" off the parents.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

ok people only hate on you because they are jelous, so i say let them hate!!!!!!!! you are very smart and young and going to finnish school in half the time and have a great career years before any of your peers. they are just jelous, your parents are right I do not want my kid to work while she is in college, this will take away from her studies, and voulenteer work is work and so is 50 some odd hours of school a week not including the time you are studing, I wish i had the oppertunity that you have and could go to school and get my degree and finish in no time and not have to worry about working while i do it that takes alot of stress off of you in this situation, you work too hard with grades like this and think of it this way when school is all over and they are sitting on 200,000.00 in student loans you will be out of debt!!!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

School is your work. You are working.

I don't have a problem with anyone at any level of education. I've had some great friends that dropped out of high school, and great friends with PhDs. I do have a problem with losers who want to drag you down to their losing level.

I was out in industry for 20+ years, then went back to school for six years. I lost a lot of income during that time, but it was worth it. I'm happier, and I'm making bigger contributions to society than I could without the extra school time. (My first research project had to do with computational analysis of genetic data from breast cancer research, using real clinical data from real women.)

Hang with high achievers. The good ones, I mean, not the posers. The good ones find your strength pull you up to their level. Posers find their own weakness and pull you down to that level.

Answer 10

I don't see any problem with you not working. As long as you are getting by alright and your parents support you, no need for you to. Your priority should be school! I'm jealous. I'm saving up for college because I know I won't be able to work much, but when I'm in college, I will still have to work. My dad for some reason doesn't believe in helping me out. He never has, not even before I turned 18.