My boyfriend and I really do love each other but I don't think he knows that I want children in the near future. We've talked about having children and we both want them. However I'm not ready yet and I want to tell him that I don't want to wait till I'm over 30 to start. How do I bring up the topic of children without him freaking out and thinking I want one now?!
2007-11-04 16:10:11 · 10 answers · asked by Super-Pop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The next time yu go for a walk and see a baby in tow, then you bring it up
2007-11-04 16:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is a sensitive topic. You have to approach it with some caution. Believe it or not the hard parts already over you both WANT children so now talk to him and make a plan. Be specific about what you want out of it, find out how he feels and if your plans match up. Chances are he's thought about this alot too and he's waiting on you. Think of things like do we have enough room for a baby, are we financially stable, is life going smooth enough to bring a child in. You don't want to just throw a baby into a chaotic situation and babies are supposed to bring joy and love to a home not stress of worrying. Or course worrying is a given. Bring it up when he gets some good news, maybe at work or when your both just feeling good.
2007-11-04 16:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bxbabifinest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you are not ready yet. Problem solved. Don't bring it up and if you are still together when you are ready then talk about it then. Do you two have plans to marry??? Are you financially secure. If you were in your late 20's it is fair enough to discuss your hopes for children with him but if you are more early 20's or late teens!! well leave it alone for now. I am wondering if you are living together and if you are I would think anything you have in your mind to just ask him straight out. Why do you worry about him freaking out??? Is he a volatile type of personality??? Is he a selfish type?? Best to be straight out re your worries I think.
2007-11-04 17:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by veraswanee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already talked about what you both want when it comes to babies. It should not be hard to bring it back up. Just ask him if he remembers when you were talking about it and that you don't want one now but you have changed your mind and do not want to wait until you are 30. I don't know how old you are so it is hard to guess his reaction. If you are 25 he probably won't care. If you are 29 it is hard to say what he will say. I think he will not freak out since you have already talked about it.
2007-11-04 16:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by macfarland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a baby while you're out together say things like "awww, I want to have a baby w/ you" or "you would be such a great dad". Warm him up to the idea.
2007-11-04 16:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married - if he doesn't want to comit he won't make a good father. You should not try to have a child till you are married and stable.
2007-11-04 17:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when you do want children.
2007-11-04 16:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you just told us. you want to make sure your both on the same page as this subject is one that both should agree on. good luck
2007-11-04 16:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married first, or else you'll be a single mom.
2007-11-04 16:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋