How many women out there would prefer to wear the pants in a relationship?

Question

Seems my girlfriend wears them in mine. I don 't know if its an inferiority complex or what? She is just a very take charge type of person. Calls the shots. I get stuff done but she wants to control everything I do and where I spend money. She's always leaving me lists of stuff to do and I do probably most the housework already. Then she asks me if I like playing housewife? Is this normal?

I guess I don't really mind doing the chores for her. Just her calling me a housewife bothers me

Answer 1

Take control back.....That's not good. It should be a 50/50 relationship....

Answer 2

We both wear the pants in my relationship, of course, ours is a partnership. Some couples prefer otherways, such as the working man/housewife type couples. Your girlfriend seems to prefer that sort of relationship, but with the roles reversed. Nothing wrong with that if you're both happy. It's not more an inferiority complex than it is for the working man whose wife stays at home, then again, sometimes especially when a man insists his wife stay at home it is about control and insecurity for men.

Answer 3

It's normal.. they do it in India all the time. The man goes to work and gives the wife the paycheck. The woman controls all of the finances.

The woman should list what chores the man should do (generally half of them) because otherwise, the man will not do any!! But, if the woman is a stay at home housewife,she should do most of the chores IMO.

Answer 4

I think that I wear the pants in my relationship. My husband doesn't like to make a lot of decisions. So I have to take charge which isn't that bad. But sometimes I don't want to be the one making the decision so I try to involve him in the decision making. I handle the finaces because they wouldn't get done if I didn't do them. He likes that I do more. I think it works for us because he was the baby in the family and I was the second oldest out of six kids. So I'm use to being in charge and he is use to following.

Answer 5

it might be normal for her..i dunno!

Personally, i dont want to wear the pants. My husband works, i stay at home and the housework. He pays the bills and works out spending money and stuff like that. He pretty much makes all the decisions..exzcept for really big ones, we usually do that together.But like if we were to get take out, he would decide! (otherwise i would wanna go to them all..LOL)
Im not really a good decision maker anyway.
It doesnt bother a bit that he "wears the pants" it less stressful for me if he does!

Answer 6

No, we share the pants. i've got offered them in utilitarian hues so we are in a position to the two positioned on them. In all seriousness although, a relationship is a partnership. i do no longer opt for an effective or a slave, purely an equivalent.

Answer 7

you both need to share all the chores that need done.. i have to say i am a very lucky girl my hubby takes care of me and does for me. and i let him know how much i thank him and love him. i have breathing problems and hes great.. so you can do the stuff and not say anything or tell her she needs to take some of the load off you.. good luck

Answer 8

I try and pull that stuff with my husband sometimes, and he puts me in my place. Not that I don't have say, but one person should not completely dominate the relatinoship. Plus, I like it when a man acts like a man and puts his foot down.

But she has no business making you to-do lists and telling you where you can spend $$. I would never do that with my husband.

Answer 9

For us, we have different strengths, so we go according to that. e.g. I usually budget because I'm better at it. My hubby drives because he's better at it. It's not like one of us controls every aspect. Major life decisions e.g. moving, are discussed and agreed on by both of us before we actually do it.

Answer 10

No it is not normal. She bullies you and then makes fun of you for it. Get your dignity back.