Why do people only answer stupid questions?... Try this one.?

Question

I have a father that never like me but he doesn't show like to anyone, however I have and older brother whom is very much a dork, with poor judgment and nothing going for him but the handout he gets from our father, He know owns a home and also a cabin on my dads ranch. Most of this came to him after he was married. I the only son who actually tried to be someone by starting my own business at a young age doing every thing I could to succeed was laughed at, pushed aside, and they my father and brother would try anything to prevent me from doing well in life and business... I've tried to avoid them for the last seven years; I've even stopped seeing all my family as a result... This is a mental mind **** for me, does anyone have good advice. I think I'm having a hard time doing anything with my life because of this trauma I went threw... mainly between the ages of 18 and 21 ... although this was an issue since I can remember...

Answer 1

I can understand why you would want to sever relationships with your father and brother. Judging from what you said about your brother, who seems happy to live on handouts close to daddy, he jeers at you because he resents your desire to strike out alone and wishes to belittle you to make himself seem bigger and more important. It's a case of building yourself up by dragging other people down, and it's done by insecure people. Ignore him when he does it.

I see no problem with keeping contact to your family at a minimum until you find your feet and are confident and secure enough to tackle the issues you're having. There's nothing wrong with focusing on yourself.

You don't need to go it alone. Have you considered receiving counselling to figure out what to do? A lot of schools and work places offer services, or you can find them through your religious institution or local social services agency. It may be a good idea to try.

Answer 2

So your question is, "Why do people only answer stupid questions?"...If that is your question, why the need to post that big paragraph underneath it? After all, it is quite irrelevant. There are no such things as stupid questions. If you're looking for some help/advice regarding the paragraph posted underneath the question, then you should probably clarify by creating an interrogative sentence with a question mark at the end. Not trying to be rude, but your post is just not very clear, so I'm making some suggestions.

Answer 3

I gave you the only answer you need the other time you asked this question. My husband has your same problem and that is the same thing I told him. It worked. But if you are simply going to keep asking the same question over and over until somebody gives you whatever answer you're looking for, then it's pointless to try and help you. You don't want help; you just want somebody to agree with something you haven't said. What is it you want to hear? Pity? Murder? Are you trying to be validated and affirmed by total strangers? You ask for advice but it seems like you aren't even reading it. I read the other question and the one you posted in the Mental Health category. People are GIVING you good advice but you either can't see that or it isn't the thing you want to hear. Maybe all you want is pity. If that's so, I'm sorry I wasted a damn good speech on a damn sad case.

Answer 4

You broke out of the mold and still want their acceptance, sounds like your bro is a brown nosing follower type<--- no offense. Man you succeeded in life you broke through thresh holds and made your stake in the world. I guess you didn't want your fathers empire and he doesn't like the competition in his kingdom. Show them only love, turn the other cheek and be the bigger man, embrace what you have become. We reflect on our past to clear the path ahead.
Make your own empire, continue forward and remind your father in some way that you are the way you are becase he brought you up to be the successful man you are today. Let him feel great in your accomplishments and thank him in some way for being you, and that you love being you.
Just thank him some how and avoid "sucking off the power teet" which your brother can't seem to avoid.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

wow thats a pretty serious issue. since you know what your problem is the best thing you can do is figure out your own answer. you have to decide that you either want to get on with your own life and not worry about your family or figure out how to deal with an abusive family. lots of people believe blood is thicker than water and family is most important, but your own blood and sense of self should come first.

Answer 7

You better avoid them and find some friends or family to have close activities. If your own family coming against you, they are not going to change in this life and don't even try to change them. because you will endup in broke or disaster. So better to start building your own world and be successful in everything what you do ...If they need help they will ask you down the road.
God bless you.
Beleive in God too.

Answer 8

dont let it get to you tooo much...my mum hasnt spoken to her family in 21years becuase her father was a ****ed up mental idiot who raped her and tried to kill her so many times and her mother tried to steal my dad from my mum! SICKO
she doesnt talk to her siblings becuase they are weird and still talk to these people!

Anyway, what i am saying is my mum has lived her life since then and has enjoyed it! You can do it too, honestly if you think you are better off without them, then you probably are..who needs that ****? Forget about them, live your life the way you want to, as long as you are proud of yourself and confident....what everyone else says, means jack!

Answer 9

It is your life they can not make you to be like them! Your father thinks he is sucessful and wants you and your brother to be like him! He could do it with your brother but not with you that is why he is angry with you!

However ,dont forget he is your father after all! you owe your family and specially your parents...being away from them is not a good idea!
Show him that you care about your family but still want to be on your own!

Good Luck

Answer 10

Parents and siblings are weird. You can't change them you can only change yourself. Live your life the best you can, you might not even want them to know where you live.
I would probably send Christmas and birthday cards to leave the door open but not call or visit. If you have other family you want to keep in touch with meet them for dinner for their birthday or yours.