What advise can u give me? He doesnt have a job..I work..We need to find an apartment in 6 weeks because we are getting evicted because he didnt pay the rent..His credit is shot and mine is ok..what is a girl to do???
2007-11-04 15:15:11 · 10 answers · asked by needhelp10940 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How about work on your financial stability before diving into marriage and a ring?
Marriage isn't going to solve any problems. He needs to get a job, and you need to get your money in order. Don't just jump into marriage. Work on your relationship and your fianances and THEN consider marriage.
2007-11-04 15:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he the "house husband"? If he is taking care of baby and the household while you work and provide for the family, than you have a working arrangement. Who cares who buys the rings? If you have resentments, or if he is not pulling his weight in the relationship, then hold off on the marriage idea until you see some effort on his part.
Honestly, if he has credit issues already and is not working, had a baby out of wedlock.... then he is not the best bet as a successful marriage partner. Love is grand, sex is great, but you need a roof over your head and food in your stomachs to survive!
2007-11-04 15:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband made our wedding bands. Here's the deal...being married isn't about "the ring." You can still get married...and then in a few years when you have had some time to pay off some debt and save some money, maybe he can get you a nice ring as an anniversary present or just because. You have your whole life together...so there is plenty of time to "upgrade" on the ring...but you don't have to have an expensive ring to get married now. Best of luck!
2007-11-05 02:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by mpk33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do! Weigh your options of the pros and cons of your realationship.... Ok you did the power move if you ask me by asking him to marry you while you were pregnant but don't push and don't pull! Now it's time to focus your life on you and your baby needless to say he/she was planned or not! Make your life about you now because maybe searching for the right answer if you should leave him or not your not going to find it! Because his heart isn't in it if he marry you let him figure out what he wants in life without you! Be the bigger person and still allow him to be apart of the childs life but start planning your future that doesn't include him! He bought and paid for this one making the statement that he made! Ok when I say set your life up sit down and make a game plan on where does my life go from here and follow through and once he see your life transitioning in on you then he'll either grow up and get it together or your going to fall apart! But why continue to waste your time and your life trying to wait on when he's ready! Make this time about you and your baby! It's called have all the confidence in the world that you are a nurturing mother and strong woman and can uphold and make it with/or without him!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes giving the man the run of the relationship with all the decisions upon what they want we can loose sight of ourselves.... I say to you don't do that! I did it and it worked! My husband and I was together six years and he wasn't ready either and I evaluated my life and took the focus off him and put it on me and started making moves without him for both my son and I! He got the point that he was getting ready to loose his family and got it together and we got married this past July of last year! You'll be fine just ask christ to step in and help! You know he can give you a better answer anyday better then I or anyone for that matter, it worked for me when him and I had the long talk and he's still with us today!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL You'll be fine figure what's your real desire for your life, and set the pattern, needless again with or without him...................
2016-05-27 10:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A ring? If your just starting out, don't make a commitment to a big bill. Thats a big mistake. If you really need them; pawn shops always have good deals. If you need to use credit to get the rings, then try and buy some of the cheapest until a bigger income starts coming in. Its not the ring that makes your commitment, its YOU.
2007-11-04 15:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a biased opinion, I work for a large family law firm in arizona.... and I see too many young women with young kids and lousy husbands, Honestly sweetie... leave him. MAKE him grow up. MAKE him pay child support, find a man that will HELP you not **** your credit up and make you pay for your diamonds, Or mothers and grandmothers never would have tolerated taking care of their man financially.... neither should you. So I say dont get married, make him pay child support, and find your real prince charming
2007-11-04 15:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanna be with him,ask him to find a job.find an anpartment first then wait for him to have enough money to buy you a ring.it won't feel the same if you buy the ring yourself.just wait a ring from him.even if it's really cheap,you know that he work hard to get it.i think you should just wait.
2007-11-04 15:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by i^am^me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford a ring, save the ring for later and let him buy it it will mean more, and are you sure while he is unemployed is the best time for marriage, you are together don't rush the I do.
2007-11-04 15:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not equal ring, though it is nice to have - a ring is one of the most irrelevant things in a marriage. Love, trust, honesty, undying devition if you have that then eff a ring!
2007-11-04 15:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a ring is just a piece of metal, how about you make a promise to each other just to love each other.
Life is not always about material things.
2007-11-04 15:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by jonnynomates1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋