recently my cuzin has died, he shot himself cuz he was under deppresion and he had brain cancer but anyway my mom is very upset about it, as am i but my mom grew up with him so she is really really sad but my question is how do i cheer her up i mean i kno that sounds impossible after sum1 has died but there has 2 b sum way to i hav tryed 2 but could sum1 giv me sum advice on this............thank u
2007-11-04 15:08:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are support groups for the survivors of suicide. Look in the community pages of your local newspaper for times and meeting places, or check it out in the phone book. Everyone grieves differently. I am sad for you and your family, but there is help out there for those who are having difficulty with this tragedy, but you must search for it.
2007-11-04 15:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by correrafan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My deep condolences
she is going through bereavement
( grieving )
This is normal.
She needs time to grieve.
I don't know how close you are to your mom
but she can have a shoulder to cry on
as well as comforting this is where you and her can get together.
You too, will feel the loss
People grieve in different ways
which means some people will take it harder than others.
Just be there for you mom I am sure she will be there for you too.
2007-11-05 15:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Really the best thing you can do to "cheer" mom up is don't try to cheer her up...really. Allow her to grieve and be sad. When someone feels they have to "cheer up" around us when they are really sad, they'll soon avoid us. Better to be sad with her. Let her cry in your presence. It's really hard, I know, but allowing her to just be how ever she is --well, it's the best thing. really. There are no short cuts around grief; you have to go through it. And being around people who are okay with us just being sad, or angry, or "numb" -- it's really wonderful. The folks who think they have all the right words to say are really just dumping their own discomfort on us. Just keep reminding mom how much you love her and how special she is to you!
2007-11-04 23:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her grieve. It's normal and healthy to feel sad after the loss of a loved one.
2007-11-04 23:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by twincrier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try to told your mom that your cuzin still living in your mom heart and in your mom mind of those good and happy memories. Your cuzin will appreciate your mom, thank your mom and bless your mom.
2007-11-05 10:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Danson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had so many people die in my life. its hard.
you should tell her that you are all sad but that he left because he made the decision to. He loved you all but he didn't love himself. Tell her that if she needs to talk to someone that you are there, because you understand the pain that she is going through.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
2007-11-04 23:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only healer in this situation,just wait ,things will calm down
2007-11-04 23:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by jammal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try reminding her of pleasant memories she has of your cousin, and let her grieve. It's the only thing you can do.
2007-11-04 23:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Super Jules 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
jus give her some time try to do things to keep her mind off of that
2007-11-04 23:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there's much you can do...you just have to let her be for awhile, let her grieve...it may take awhile, but there's nothing you can do to magically cheer her up instantly.
2007-11-04 23:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Hall + Oates 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋