I know it may be partially my fault, but I can not be the only one to blame.
I have the WORST luck with friends! I know that I am choosing these people, but they don't start out that way. My life has been this way since I was 12. It is now over 20 years later, and it seems as if history is just repeating itself time and time again.
Are there really people out there who can be a true friend. People who are not just out to get you, and see what they can get out of you?
I'm giving up hope. :(
2007-11-04 15:04:57 · 17 answers · asked by jabegall 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have had friends that I have had for years. Some 10 or more. In the end, they use me for money, or do me wrong in some other way. Then they say how much they love and care about me. I am sick of it!
2007-11-04 15:28:57 · update #1
It's so hard to find a true friend because man is imperfect. Therefore, he will always eventually fail to meet our expectations. Once we face the imperfection in our friends and in ourselves, it is easier to keep friendship - and our expectations of it - realistic. It might be that you are expecting too much of friendship. Perhaps you are too trusting, divulge too much information, become too dependent, etc. I have come to realize that a person is truly blessed, if they have one true friend in their lifetime. In my case, that friend is my wife. As for my other friends, I realized long ago that I can't control how they will behave, but I can control my own actions. That helps me gauge the extent of my vulnerability with them, in direct response to their demonstrated trustworthiness. Also, knowing that I must depend on God and myself, to get through each day's challenges, frees me from overdependence on my friends. Learning to like myself, based on what I know is right - rather than on the approval of others - has been critical to developing my own independence. True friends value such independence, rather than seeking insecure companions that are easily manipulated.
2007-11-04 16:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by legendofslipperyhollow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've already given up hope! It doesn't seem to matter what I do, no one is truelly honest with me. I try to be a friend, invite people out, offer advice, all that jazz. But it all seems to backfire on me. I guess it's just because I don't "gossip" about everyone else I work with. That's all the men AND women do where I work. I just wish more people were like my dad. He's my hero and he's taught me to give what I can and not expect the world in return...it's just hard when your "friends" end up "better off" and turn and spit in your face.
2007-11-04 15:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Skyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to look for a friend...as time goes by you will know if the person is a friend or not...it will happen natually...they will not judge you or try to mess you over... always go with your first instinct...you may not find a large number of people to call friends but you will know...I only have 2 and one of them is my wife...good luck and don't try to find a friend they will come when you least expect it or you have one and have not realized who it is yet...if their is someone that has always been there for you through good and bad you might call that a true friend...
2007-11-04 15:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by razorsharp_38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that :[... I have to be honest, iam only 20 years old and i've already learned theres only few people you can trust out there. Family is #1, and then if you're lucky, the one or two friends. You can choose your friends, you have to choose wisely. Anyone too selfish, too worried about themselves or money obviously is a no no haha. Its sad to say that 80% of ppl are really selfish...
2007-11-04 15:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey there well first think positive! other people have harder problems than you. just pray that you'll find the right friend in God's time. and well, i used to have the same problem and what i did was to see the wrong and negative attitudes i have and lil by lil change them. then i try to just be friends with everyone but only tell deep secrets or problems with tthose friends i know who i can trust. before trusting a friend, evaluate him/her and get to know well his/her background traits and personality. and hey though i dont know you, you can consider me a ture friend ok? ir you have problems i'll try to help you just send me a message. i hope this helps. i'll pray for you. God bless!
2007-11-04 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Thug Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has the same issue and I think it's because she demands nothing less than loyalty from her friends. She puts too much faith in them and that's why I think she gets disappointed. I'm a complete opposite. I don't expect a lot from people, so I don't get hurt.
I also believe that everyone is out for himself. It really depends on how much you are willing to invest in the friendship and how much you are getting in return.
2007-11-04 15:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Andre 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know, I'm still trying to find a real/true friend. I only have fake friends for now.
2007-11-04 15:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by tisha w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO!! dont ever give up hope. if you need a friend then lets be friends i love making new friends an i dont want anything from anyone other than simple respect i will return the same look me upon yahoo messenger under panthor001
2007-11-04 15:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by panthor001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is precious,but sometimes it can be taken for granted.There are many in-depth aspects that makes friends compatible.Friendships are not simple_they have a beginning and sometimes an end.They can open us up to full range of emotion from laughter to tears...
2007-11-04 15:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha!!
I believe that there is a TRUE FRIEND but there is no PERFECT PERSON.
I'm a friend of everyone, not a foe, not a toe but a cereal in a bowl...
2007-11-04 15:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Roar... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋