How was it? either way..
2007-11-04 14:56:41 · 22 answers · asked by Bo B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Waited.
Good thing.
2007-11-04 16:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waited [both times].
First time, dated 3 years, lived on same campus with him at college (different dorms), visited each other overnight in parent's homes (separate bedrooms), took a couple of family vacations together--really thought I knew him, but he wasn't the man I thought I married, and endured 18 years of verbal/emotional abuse and infidelity before he finally left me with 2 young kids.
I don't know if living together would have made a difference or not--he was a very deceptive, charming jerk as long as it suited his purposes, so he woulda/coulda fooled me either way I suppose. I do know that living together would have been against my religious convictions so at least my conscience is clear in that regard.
Second time, had kids at home, & again would not go against my beliefs especially as an example to them. My fiance's dad was my pastor; my parents were deceased by then. My fiance's roommate sold his house a couple of months prior to the wedding and he had nowhere to live. Some people actually suggested what would it hurt to let him move in with me since we were already engaged, but we felt very strongly that it would send the wrong message to the kids, and he figured out something else for that last few weeks. We had the normal adjustment, but no big surprises, and are still happily married 6 1/2 years later. [Except right now we are living apart as he is military :( ]
2007-11-04 23:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my husband before we got married. From about a week after meeting him, i knew we would be together forever.
It was great, there were a few differences in the way we did things, but working them out together was the fun part!
we've been living together for 4 years now, and married for 3 of them! and i am the same as paganmom: i cant wait for him to come home!
2007-11-04 23:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by sgreenslade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm not sure I would do it again, though. It was a good way to see if I could live with his quirks and he with mine. We were compatible, but there is a difference in living with someone when you are not married and living with them with the commitment of marriage. If you are not married, technically the relationship could be ended at any time and both may not take the relationship as seriously as if they were married. If you are married you have made the commitment to work through problems and not just give up. In my situation, we lived together and got married only to get divorced seven years later. I think the relationship was not taken seriously to start with and that trend continued through the relationship even after marriage. I took the marriage seriously, were as I feel my ex did not. I think anyone who is willing to live with someone before marriage may not take marriage itself as seriously as it should be taken. I suggest treading lightly with this one and putting some serious thought and communication in with your partner.
2007-11-04 23:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hows this for being totally backwards? My husband and I met while we were both camping, a few beers led to a one night stand, well lo and behold, I ended up pregnant. He did remain in our childs life, although we were not together. When our son was just a little over a year old, we ended up having sex again what was supposed to be another 1 night thing. Well, yep pregnant again. We decided to try and start a relationship then, and well a year later we got married. Since then we have had a third child ( this one was actually planned on ). It worked for us, talk about fate though!!! We are truly meant for eachother, and with as screwed up as everything was, it was all worth it.
2007-11-04 23:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did not live together before marriage. Sometimes I wish we had, though, because I had no idea just how messy and lazy he could be with household chores. Then again, had we lived together before marriage, we might have given up rather than worked through our differences in cleaning habits.
2007-11-05 00:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by LuvBug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We did not live together or have sex prior to our wedding night. So far so good, we've been married 26 years. Just make sure you discuss all the major issues prior to marriage and that you really know each other well before marriage.
2007-11-04 23:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my husband, it was a great experience although I don't recommend it for everyone. I knew I was going to marry my husband when I met him...we've been together for 10 years and I still can't wait until he gets home=)
2007-11-04 22:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by paganmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
live togather for 3 yrs before married, its like getting to feel what marriage life is about, and we enjoyed each other company alot, by the way we've been married for 20 yrs now!
2007-11-05 00:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by bec 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband and I lived together before we were married and it was wonderful and still is.
2007-11-04 23:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by lovely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i lived together for 5 years before we got married. i have been married before but they never lasted longer than 4 years.-- i wanted to make sure we could last longer than 5 years.
we have.
2007-11-04 23:00:48 · answer #11 · answered by jacks_insanity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋