The situation that brings me here is Extremely Complicated, but I am truly reaching out for some genuine help to the situation I am faced with.
Several months ago my husband had a sexual encounter with another woman, who is also married. Their relationship did not come to a happy ending, and after the fact she had hinted that she may be pregnant. She had supposably had her tubes tied, but she was calling this a 'miracle baby'. Then for months there was no word of pregnancy. We heard nothing.
A few weeks ago my husband received an email from someone claiming to be her friend w/ pictures of a pregnant woman's tummy. The pictures were fuzzy and only showed the mid-half of the body, no face. This person claims to have contacted him unknown to her friend, because she thought he had the right to know.
I have tried calling---phones are disconnected. I just want the truth, but I don't have faith in her to be honest either. I don't want to wait & wonder any longer.
2007-11-04 14:47:20 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
See if there is a putative father registry in your state and have him listed there. Try to make contact with the woman through a third party (aka, a lawyer) and inquire about the pregnancy.
Stop letting rumors tell you whats going on and try to get to the facts.
2007-11-07 16:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your husband mission to seek this woman and find out about this child. If it is his he has the ultimate responsibility to care for the child. I since that your concern .. If he is your husband and your marriage is whole, even after he finds out there is a pregnancy. It will survive. There is paternity testing everywhere, have him do the research on it. I have personally heard of women who have become pregnant when their tubes were supposed to be tied especially if they were not severed and burned. Good luck.
2007-11-04 15:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by VON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he possibly fathered this child, why is HE not the one trying to find her and find out, why are you calling her? Does he want to know, or does he want to assume no news is good news and assume she is either not pregnant or that it isn't his? If he does find out she's pregnant and it's his, is he going to then step up?
Honestly though, it sounds to me like she's manipulating him. Anonymous emails from a "friend"? She probably sent them and is just messing with his head. Ignore her, unless she shows up with a baby in her arms and a demand for a paternity test. Steer clear of the drama.
2007-11-04 15:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit suspect to me.If I wee your husband I would email the "friend" back saying he would like to meet the pregnant woman in person to discuss things further.If she is not interested in that then let it be.Ask the Friend for a contact number or ask her to arrange a meeting (after all...if she is trying to help "because he has a right to know" then she should be interested in being a tad more helpful!)Otherwise wait for her to contact you herself>Otherwise try "run into her" if you know where she lives.Good luck.
2007-11-04 15:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games. Stop feeding into it. In most states her husband is considered the legal father, so your husband would have no claim on this alleged baby. If you and your husband have moved past his infidelity, then ignore this chick. If you can't get pass it until u know for sure, stake out her house or job and see if she's pregnant.
2007-11-04 14:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the email is from someone claiming that this woman doesn't know about the contact, then i wouldn't even worry about it. If this woman was pregnant and wanted your husband to be bothered with it, then SHE would contact him and that would be something for you, her, and your husband to deal with. Until she comes to him, or you, then I wouldn't worry about it.
It's possible that this woman is p that regnant, but it is possible that she doesn't want your husband to know, and her husband to know about the paternity issue.
I wish you the best of luck to you and your marriage!
2007-11-04 15:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one you or your husband needs to be concerned about is the "other woman."
If she comes to you herself and provides proof that he fathered a child, only then should you be concerned and decide what your next step is.
Otherwise, ignore these absurd emails from "the friend." The fact that the affair ended unhappily should give you cause to doubt unless verifiable proof is brought forth.
2007-11-05 07:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is heavily incorrect right here. we are speaking a month and a nil.5 distinction. i could detect a clean healthcare expert and prepare. the two the healthcare expert or the sonographer is poorly knowledgeable and that i does no longer believe employing the two ever lower back. you will get crap for medical care. Ultrasounds are tremendously precise in relationship till now 12 weeks.
2016-10-03 09:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by kerby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and knock on her door
2007-11-04 14:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by knocked up again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋