I have a tendency to give everyone 100 points to start with. The problem with that is when someone makes a mistake and hurts me, points get deleted. Sometimes so much so that I get to a point where I delete the friend.
I'm working hard at changing that and giving everyone 50 points to begin with, then they can earn more or loose faster.
If you had a point system for new people in your life, how would it work for you?
2007-11-04 14:42:13 · 15 answers · asked by Granny 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Heck, Granny, if I used a point system in my life, I would have NO friends!
2007-11-04 14:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I suppose I do use some kind of a point system. If we can have a good conversation and be okay that we have different opinions..... + points. If you are willing to have a glass of wine or whatever in my home and offer me one when I visit your home ... + points. If you only visit when you want a favor ..... - points. If you can't pet my dog once and say "good dog"...... - points. You might not like dogs, but I'm not too into cats, but I will at least show them respect. So far my system has worked well. No set points, but I do remember kindness. I don't think it's about keeping track, but remembering kindness.
2007-11-04 17:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The point system seems to be "returning evil for evil"...you smote me and I'll take your points. I'd soon be friendless on this system
It's better to forgive a guilty person 100 times than to condemn one innocent man. It's too hard to judge someone's motives so I just don't. If my friends will put up with me no matter how many times I goof up. I'll do the same for them. This system is easier in every way.
love, Juju
2007-11-04 15:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ju ju 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have no points system. If I befriend anybody it is going to be an abiding one. May be the friend may not come to some of my expectations but then I think that perhaps I also may also be falling short of his.He has,however never said anything about it.Who am I to sit in judgement? Judge not lest ye shall be judged. Jesus has told us
2007-11-04 19:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The point system? I would give them AND take them away? It sounds like I would be passing judgement, so I am not getting that started.Everybody can earn their own points!
2007-11-05 03:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 08:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not use a point system either.........too much work......not everyone is gonna make me happy all the time.......there are times friends or people frustrate me or have hurt me.....but I learn how to forgive........Heck, I'd be giving and taking points away all the time.......then I may have no friends......
sorry to say a point system wouldn't work for me......
2007-11-04 15:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Never thought of meeting, accepting people by a point system before...too much math on carry around. I tend to take people on face value until they prove me wrong..naive, perhaps, comfortable...yes. In the total scope of things, I have had a mixed bag of results, more good than not. It's life, nothing more, nothing less...so I am not going to make more of it than necessary. People either treat me as I do them, or they don't . People with agenda are easy to spot. People without agenda are true, easy to be around, and grow on you with time. I am sure you don't do as you suggest, but it would be an interesting social study, wouldn't it be? Peace, Goldwing
2007-11-04 15:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be good for my friends to have to worry about gaining/losing points all the time. I'd be so confused if I tried this I'd probably delete my own self from my life. lol
2007-11-04 14:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't give out points. They have to earn all of them!!!
2007-11-04 14:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Old Woman 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋