Me and my BF have been together for 4 years.We had a truly amazing relationship until last year.In a period of 8 months we went thru total hell. There was dishonesty and infidelty. He hurt me beyond words, never physically but his actions were utterly heartbreaking for a periodof 8 months. When I found out he cheated I left him. After alot of begging from his part I decided to give our love another chance. He has completely turned around, he treats me like a queen, gives me love, attention and anything a woman could ever ask for BUT I cant help but to be mistrusting and pessimistic. I cant let go of the past and I keep reminding myself of all the ways he hurt me. I cant stop replaying the lies and all the broken promises. I dont trust him although he has given me the total freedom to look thru ALL his stuff whenever I want to insure me he has nothing to hide. I love him and want things to work out but I need help on how to move on from the past cause Im driving myself crazy.
2007-11-04 14:41:37 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I catch myself acting as a detective trying to find evidence that he is cheating again and although I dont find anything I cant stop looking cause I fear that as soon as I stop looking, he will do something and I will be made a fool again. I love him sooooo much and I know our relationship has potential to be wonderful but this situation is driving me crazy. I want to let go of the past but dont know how to. He is being very understanding but I want this to change. I wanna stop dwelling on the past and move forward. He has been mentioning marriage and although marrying him is what I want Im scared of taking that step with this burden n my shoulders
2007-11-04 14:46:29 · update #1
Let him go . It will never work cause you will never trust him .
2007-11-04 14:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by catherine b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See its example's like this that demistrate how NOT IN LOVE YOU ARE!!!!!!! Really, but its not that you don't love him, its that your not doing it the way you "need" to. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND HIM!!!!!! So unless you want to live hell everytime your around this guy you BETTER do what it takes for you to UNDERSTAND him enough so that you ether leave him, or your comfortable with him. The cool thing about this is it doesn't matter how well you painted the relaitonship, it doesn't matter what crap he pulls out of behind, its about you taking control ENOUGH to understand the man you love, anything short of that, is well this!!!!!!! And the only way to test weather your successful or fail at this, is your own peace of mind, such is love, such is life......
2007-11-06 12:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋