For the men out there, why would you cheat on your spouse?

Answer 1

I wouldn't but my friends who have, have done so for just a couple of reasons

1) the sex
2) home life was lousy

Answer 2

You know what? Men arn't the only ones who cheat on a spouse. Women, especially women in the Western cultures are cheating on a level equal to men these days. Sad, but true. With the advent of equality, sexual freedoms, men and women now cheat on each other.

This is not to say that all, or even, most people cheat.

With that said, there are numerous reasons why people cheat. Some due so because they married for other than love, or to a person who had different things to offer but physical attraction was not one, and the person who cheats is so loose of moral and integrity s/he just chooses to cheat.

Other reasons are low self esteem, and this is the number one reason. There are those who have such low self esteem that each person they have sex wtih boosts their belief they are desirable, wanted, needed, in some way. If they are attractive enough to get laid, then they must not be all bad, right? Sad, but true.

The number one misunderstanding of cheating is that the spouse who was cheated on was not man enough or woman enough to please h/her mate and that it is because of this the spouse cheated. That is blaming the victim, and that is just plain wrong. It is not the cheated on spouses fault that the person they married has such low levels of morality, integrity, or ability to keep vows. It may be their fault for picking a person of such low moral fiber, but it is not their fault for the actions another chooses.

Cheating is a conscience choice too. It doesn't just accidently occur. Nobody accidently pulls down their drawers, or lifts up their dress, or whatever clothes somebody is wearing. Drinking or bieng intoxicated is also not an excuse. The person who drinks knows whether or not they can handle a certain level of alcohol, or if they are in a vulnerable place when they begin drinking. No, if a person who is experiancing marital problems, or even self esteem problems, and knows they get lose morals while drinking, yet still chooses to do so, it totally responsible for whatever actions are performed while intoxicated.

There are simply no good explanations why somebody cheats. Unless the truth is told, which is that s/he choose to do so and didn't really care how the spouse would feel is s/he found out about it.

So, whatever reason you posted this question, don't think for a moment that there are any good reasons or excuses for choosing to cheat on a spouse or mate. It is simply choice, plain and simple. Selfish choice at that, and extremely hurtful to those betrayed by the one they should be able to trust the most.

Answer 3

There are a number of reasons why ( maybe not great ones, but still...). I've heard of women who just switch to "-itch" mode once married; before, all syrup and sweetness, afterwards, all whiny and complaining and letting themselves go. If all they cared about was the catch, and not the whole relationship, I can see why some men might feel cheated.
Some women aren't willing to experiment physically , and the men might want to do more than just simple Missionary position for sex. This can be a problem with overly religious / zealous people who are too uptight to be a great lover. Again, if you wait until marriage to "test drive the car", you may get cheated.
And , of course, there's always the horn-dog guy who just can't get enough, or is a total jerk. It's not on the woman exclusively, or all the time, or even most of the time. But some of it is, and they must share the blame. Men tend to be the jerks more often, though. And are probably more to blame for it.

I've also read about women and pregnancy as well, and after birth, sometimes the woman has a length of time she's not feeling sexual needs, as she's nursing and caring for a baby. This is strictly a hormonal thing, and it can last as long as a year. So the poor guy has to wait until she gets off her "hormone trip" ? Well, I can see where that's a problem for the guy. May not be the best reason, but if he doesn't know the reason why it's happening, he'll just feel it's her fault, and may look for some short-term relief. I told one former co-worker about this, he had split up with a girlfriend who had his baby, he was definitely a high-drive guy, and it took her almost a year to want sex again. By then he'd moved on, he was getting back together with her after 6 years, though. He was very interested in this bit of information! It's not the woman's fault, but then again, it's hardly fair to make the guy wait. That's why, in nature, there are animals with harems, and some with sole mates, it varies. As do humans. So don't always take cheating personally, maybe the partner just needs it more than the other.
- The Gremlin Guy -

Answer 4

I think under no circumstances is it okay to cheat. If you do than you didnt truly love her or are not in love with her, and if you arent you should leave before breaking her heart and ruining any trust she has for men. I see alot of comments about her giving you what you want and her being boring and wanting something new, I think thats pretty selfish did you think long and hard about what you are lacking in giving her? A relationship is a two was street you have to work at it, nothing is perfect, Go buy your woman some flowers and show her that you appriciate her and Im sure you will get more attention. Just please dont cheat if your that desperate for something your not recieving than just leave. And remember the grass seems greener on the other side but when you get there it's just as sh*tty as the grass you had if not shi*tier.

Answer 5

I would never commit adultery, there is never any good reasons to. YES, I have been tempted, sometimes very much so, Like when you do not get any from your wife because you are far apart for work or whatever...Sure, there are always beautiful women that are available(and all too willing) But the hour of sinful pleasure is NEVER worth it!!
What ever fun you may have, the price is not worth it! And you WILL be found out eventually !! If you love your wife enough to
marry her, you should honor that commitment and keep it in your pants ! Spank your monkey if you want, but DO NOT give your honor to another woman.......

Answer 6

I may be a girl but you know, I think that all men are disgusting pig's when it come's to cheating! I mean you married your wife because you love her right? WELL WHY GO AND F***IN CHEAT ON HER????? I have had it done to me. I am a wonderful mom, I cook, I clean and I still get no respect from my husband, all he does is look at websites for single people and have all these, "hold on I just ate so I got to puke" nasty *** bitches email him telling him how freaking tight her virgina is and it is wrong. If you are going to cheat, make sure that you don't go hurting the woman who gave you kid's, the one your coming home to that night and the one who put that ring on your finger and said, "I DO" to you in the house of GOD! Got a problem {men} you can email me at [e-mail] because I really don't care!

Answer 7

Interesting in that, in the 30 - 45 year old age group, as many women cheat as do men - so why is this question just for men?
PEOPLE cheat usually because they feel as though their partners' have taken them for granted and someone starts paying a lot of attention to them.

Answer 8

Men cheat because of many reasons some better than others and in the end it causes pain to everyone including himself Men are not alone in cheating women are just as guilty of it

Answer 9

There is NEVER a good reason to cheat but men do it for the whole chase and conquer thing. men are hunters by nature. If I were to cheat it would likely be because I just had an appetite for a lil variety.

Answer 10

five years ago" " " because I got sick of the same thing everynight, and wanted something new

wierd u ask that question

pastor said this mornin the reason a marriage will not survive is the two people are not BOTH truly commited to God and True Christian marriagas survive and thrive

Without God things get old, But He is the One who makes everything New.......Like love for eachother and a spiritual bond that makes ME at least, never without a doubt even have the desire to..... sorry i wrote so much... just got gabbin if u aint christian then disregaurd ig uess

Answer 11

I'm not a man but I've had lots of guys as friends and I've been the other woman a few times (though to only one married guy) and it has always been the same thing: sex. THAT is the reason why I give my man what he wants, when he wants it. Period, end of story. If I'm tired, sick, mad... I still give it to him. Because what you won't do, another woman will and she might do it so good you don't see him anymore. I'm not losing my man over some dumb sh!t. It seems to have worked; I've always had that philosophy and as far as I know, I've not ever been cheated on. They have no reason to go elsewhere. Want to watch porn? Let's make a movie. Want to look at nude or porn pics? I'll make you a calender of myself doing every nasty thing you want. I grant my man "wishes" from his wishlist, I fulfill his fantasies and I don't... say... no. Ever. (Unless he asks me to fight back a little.)