do I have an Overprotective Mom?

Question

My mom doesnt let me go anywhere alone even tho all my friends go 2 other "cities" alone since 4th GRADE!!! I tryed talking 2 her but all she does is say "I dont wanna talk with you"
She says ill get kidnapped but i dont even talk 2 ppl in skool i dont no. I tell her 1 out of 1000 kids get kidnapped and she says i might be 1 of thats 1000. is she over protective and wat should i do?

im 13 for those of u who ask

I dont want to go to other cities!!

I just want to go around town!!

and those of u dat say shes protecting

me she hasnt changed at all since i

was 5. even if she got 1% less over-

protective id be happy.

Answer 1

my mom was just like dat but wen i really made her dit down and talk yo me she understood ya moms is just worried for her child

Answer 2

Question: How old are you? I wish MY parents had been stricter with me; I probably would have done better in school, etc. If your friends' parents let them "go 2 other 'cities' alone", then I wonder about the quality of parenting these kids are getting. Also, you didn't mention if these "4th graders" go alone, or with an adult supervisor.
In this day and age, one can't be too careful. If - God forbid - you should be that 1 in 1,000, your mom would NEVER forgive herself for letting you go. Don't you think that the kids who got kidnapped also believed that they weren't that 1 in 1,000? It's human nature to think that "it will never happen to me", but in reality, it CAN happen to you.
When you get older, or grown up, you will look back and thank God that you had such a caring mom. She must love you an awful lot to protect you so. Don't complain, it won't help. Just be thankful she loves you that much. (and by the way, I'm sure I'm not the first person to tell you this)

Answer 3

In my experience all the best moms are the same... there is nothing that you can say to convince her that she is wrong, which your opinion, she may not be... you may be that 1 child that get's kidnapped, bashed, raped etc. My parents were every protective but over time they saw the I was growing up, maturing and could handle the responsiblity of looking after myself. If your friends are nice, have them over and let her get to know them, that way if you ask to go out she will be more inclined to agree if she knows you are with other responsible young people. Be patience and eventually you will have the freedom you want. If you sneak out you'll do more damage than good...
Ask yourself if I was a parent would I let my kids do that... if the answer is no, don't even try!

Answer 4

If you are 13 and your mother is telling you she does NOT want you wandering around in other cities by YOURSELF, then by all means LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER.... It is NOT safe any more out there and a child---and you ARE still a CHILD is very vulnerable if alone in a city where she doesn't know anyone. Kidnappings even happen in one's OWN HOME---if you do not believe that, ask Elizabeth Smart or the parents of that poor murdered Jessica Lunsford in Florida...who were BOTH taken right out of their own HOMES..... Your mother is NOT being overprotective---your mother is being a GOOD MOTHER and you should be THANKFUL that she cares enough about you to WANT to know where you are and who you are with.... A lot of parents out there could give a crap....until it's too late.... You are SO young and you will have PLENTY of time to go out and explore the world once you are OLD ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH IT... so stop trying to be an adult while you are still a kid and ENJOY being a kid---it's only for a few more years.

Answer 5

how old are you? if you are still in middle or highschool, its normal because this is the time that people are most naive and just do things at whim without taking precautions. technically speaking...people that age tend to still be somewhat immature and not have the best decision making skills or judgement, which will come with age and experience. its good that she's watching out for you- obviously she doesn't want you getting kidnapped, but maybe you have given her reason in the past that you aren't capable of making adult decisions? if you're in college though- you obviously are on your own and can make ways around your mom. lol i have dont it plenty of times and have gotten away with it- plus I am an only child.

Answer 6

You are too young to be by yourself. You may be ignorant to what is going on in this world, but let me tell u it is not the safest place. There are a lot of psychos out there, she loves you and is trying to protect you. Thank God someone loves you that much to care.

Answer 7

Your age would have a lot to do with the answer. If you are under 12 I would say no. There are too many prederator in this country. I don't have to talk for someone to harm you. If you are older I would ask mom to allow you to go in pairs and maybe she would drop you off.

Answer 8

i kno where your coming from. that sounds a lot like my mom. but she means well. there are a lot of things going on in this world and she thinks she is do ing whats best for you. just do like i do. explain to her that your geting older and you need to experciance things as well as she did when she was your age. let her know that she's not gonna be there forever to protect you. so give you some space and let you do you...

Answer 9

It really depends how old you are. What do you mean by 4th graders going to other cities alone?

Answer 10

yes she is overprotective you should keep trying to talk to her but keep in mind that maybe thats the way they treated her and she has no other knowledge of how to raise a child just try to understand her