I'm 13, and pregnant. How do I tell my parents??? And the guy???

Question

I have known that I've been pregnant for 2 1/2 months. How do I tell them???I'm so scared.what do I do?

Answer 1

first of all, dont listen to any of this people here the tell you abortion, second dont feel wrong about your self, and most importanly a LIFE IS NOT A MISTAKE! look when i was 8 years old i started getting molested by my stepfather, and i try to tell my mother but she loved him so much to the point she became a woman and not a mother. anyways then it got worst at the age of 10 i got raped 100% by him, i got pregnant from the rape. i turned 11 in june and had a baby boy in september. i felt so scared,sad,lonely,nasty,ugly,worthless... so i know this feelings so please do me a favor and try not to feel this way, i know is easy to say and hard to do but believe me, dont abort your baby, it would just cause 2 victims your precious baby who is not done nothing wrong and you a beautiful young girl who maybe got carried away by the moment and didnt had the right tools (condoms, awareness of the consequences, someone to talk to) i think you need to sit your parents down and tell them how much you love them and know they love you, but mama, papa this is going on in my life and i need your support, im sorry for at such a young age, but dont be sorry for life, thats a miracle you have in your beautiful belly. now regarding your partner explain to him whats goin on. and listen if he dont believe you or think is not his dont fall ok, dont fall but rise with your head up and say ok you'll get a paternity test. and life goes on. now if you are not ready to be a mom, please dont abort just work out an adoption. i know why im telling you this. i gave birth at 11 and it felt so wrong the situation but my son is now 9 years old and i am 21 and thats my little man of the house his a great kid, and his my worl, my bestfriend. you know how beautiful the word momma is? you would soon find out. please be a great mother, dont drop out of school, keep your head up, and dont let no one look down on you. show and demand respect. god bless you and hope to hear from you soon...

Answer 2

well i dont like the fact that are these people are telling you to get an abortion. If you do that, you will regret it the rest of your life. You need to sit down with your parents in a quiet place, no tv, no distractions and tell your parents you are pregnant. Its not gonna be easy. I was 17 and had to have my moms best friend tell her cuz i was too scared. But you need to tell her soon so you can take care of the baby inside you. You should probly tell the guy first so maybe then you guys can tell your families together so you can decide what you are going to do together. I think you are too young to even be having sex but im sure you will hear that a million times, the fact is you have to do whats best for your child. Talk to your parents about adoption. There are great families out there unable to have children that will happily accept yours. You need to tell them now, time is ticking girl. Just get it over with and youll feel much better. Just please dont listen to these ignorant people about abortion. Its not right. The baby didnt ask to come into this world. well take care of yourself and that baby, and good luck with your parents, trust me...they will not love you any less.

Answer 3

I hate to hold you up to the whole class,but THIS is why kids need access to birth control!! I don't know if you two would have used protection if you had it,but the odds of you using it if you don't are ZERO! You can argue that 13 is too young for sex,but it's going to continue to happen regardless!Statistically,btw,this child is every bit as likely to come from a religious household as not,so can the prostelizing!By the time my kids are 12 or so,they're going to know EVERY BIT AS MUCH AS I DO about birth control,stds and the miriad of disadvantages of early parenthood!
Sorry,Hon,let me get down off this soap box,and try to help you out a little.The right thing to do is to tell Babydaddy-to-be first.If you tell your' folks first,and they lose their' head and call his parents or something,that would be the wrong way for him to find out.Next,you(with him by your' side,if he's got the guts)have to tell your' parents,and his.YOU are the best person to decide how to do that,because you know them,we don't.If they have quick-burn type tempers,that idea about the letter might not be a bad one.Bejond that,Kiddo,you have some BIG decisions to make.Abortion?Adoption?Keeping the baby?If keeping,how to balance Motherhood with school?And what about HIM,Babydaddy-to-be?Is he gonna be there for you and the baby?I'll bet these arent the things you were thinking about when you 2 hooked up!
The most important thing here is to learn from this.Your' child should be about 6 or 7,at least,before getting any brothers or sisters.In my experience,once the genie of sex is out of the bottle,there's no getting the lid all of the way back on.Learn how to protect yourself.If your' parents have their' head on strait,they'll help you out with that.Good luck,Kiddo,I wish you the best.

Answer 4

I think you should sit down with your parents Even if its just your mum, she can help you tell your dad. But it would be a good idea to tell her and hopefully she will be there to support you. Also tell the guy, it may just give you a bit of relief once you tell him. Once he know and your parents know, you's can go through your options, if you's feel you's are up to it to have a baby now then good luck, but if you decide to not keep the baby, either by terminating the pregnancy or adopting don't let anyone make you feel bad whatever choice you make it is yours to make. Having a baby is a big thing, it is scary, exciting and a whole lot of things. Everyones reacts differently.
Just try to tell someone so you have the support!

Good Luck

Answer 5

It is a very good decision for you to be asking for help on how to talk about this matter.

Some other options that would assist you in becoming more comfortable talking about your pregnancy is in seeing your school guidance counselor or talking to another relative such as an Aunt or Grandmother you are close to...

You need to tell your parents. Even though you may feel like you want to blurt it out & then run far away - you can't. You need to find a time when you are most comfortable &, if need be, choose the parent you are closer to tell first. This parent can soften the blow for the other parent (that is what their relationship is all about - helping each other cope and together taking care of their children)

Don't be afraid - unless you have reason to be physically afraid of your parents (if there have been signs of physical abuse in the past then you may want to have a friend or other family member or adult with you when you tell them) - and if it makes you more comfortable to have a friend or family member or other adult there then by all means take someone with you.

You also need to let the guy know after you talk with your parents. Once you have the talk with your parents you will find it much easier to talk about this with others.

These conversations in your life are going to be about a lot of happiness, apologies, regrets, sadness, understanding, love, and above all - respect. Respect your parents & the father of the baby's points of views and ask them to respect yours.

You will do fine with this - it is only natural to be scared. Breathe easy - the sooner you have this talk the better. If you are having morning sickness someone will notice and in a few more weeks you will start to gain weight or "show". The sooner the talk the less stress and nervousness on you, your body, and unborn child.

After telling your parents they can support you in making decisions that are in your best interest.

Answer 6

hmmm thirteen huh. well it does not surprise me anymore that younger and younger kids get pregnant. I am not going to sit and lecture and put you down and tell you all about abortion. Atleast give it a chance for a life to live. You will not screw up and throw away your future. Night classes, online schooling and there is a CHIP program for insurance.

First your parents may be freaking out and screaming alot and probably will put your self esteme down only out of anger though and majority parents will get over it and will eventually learn there is nothing to be done now. your parents or mostly your dad will hate strongly "the guy".



The decision you need to make first is the Cons and Pro's of a baby at a very young age. Then think the pros and cons of an abortion. Click this site i have pasted and see a list of pros and cons: http://bluwiki.com/go/Should_We_Become_Parents


I discovered this webpage and it perfectly descibes how young aged pregnant women tell their parents. I read this 2 page and took like 5 minutes to read.http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/81869/young_and_pregnant_how_to_tell_your.html

good luck to telling your parents and god bless your child and the descision you chose. Think out your thoughts very carefully. Life is not a game, not a unhappy thing, but pleasant and something not to be destroyed so easily or without thinking through. O go buy a baby blanket or something so simple and put it in your moms area that she frequently uses every day

Try possibly going to a locol clinic like a women and childrens clinic. Usually they are confidential and will give you free support and exams without telling anyone. When you find one near you, tell them you want it confidential and to tell nobody. They will help you on not telling people. Hospitals sometimes call your parents under some circumstances. But talk to the guy. You should both tell your parents since your guy and you are the parents of this child and need to take responsibility. If you dont soon when will u? hopefully not too late. Your belly is going to grow and moms are great at seeing them details. Mothers know best

Answer 7

Your plan sounds very mature and well thought-out. Talk with your aunt and plan out what you are going to say. It is best to lead them in to it gently instead of just screaming "I'm pregnant". When its time to tell them take a deep breath and act as calm as possible, even if you are freaking out inside. I think you should have your boyfriend present. He can tell your family what he told you-that he will be there for you.

Answer 8

Ok, first of all, your here for answers and advice, NOT A LECTURE! Right? I can't stand when you come on here and ask for advice and all you get in return is a bunch of bull*@*& lectures. I suggest if you haven't done so already to speak with the parent that you are most emotionally linked to. Let them know from the get go that there is something you want to discuss with them and you are coming to them for help with something you are very scared to deal with.....I as a young parent did it this way, and it really ended up being alot easier than what I had thought. There is no "easy" way to do it at your age, but if you have a loving family, you'll be able to conquer anything!Let us know how you make out.

Answer 9

You need to sit down with your parents FIRST and tell them everything you wrote here. You need to understand that you have to tell them so you can get the proper healthcare immediately. At your age, carrying a baby will be difficult and there will be a lot of risks, you're still growing. You need to sit down with your parents first, and they can help you find out a way to talk to the guy. If it makes it easier, write it all down first, then read it out to them.

Answer 10

your best bet is to call the guy tell him then have him and his parents come to you parents house to them sit them down and the both of you tell your parents that you both have made a mistake and that your now pregnant.

I hope your willing to keep this baby and learn from your mistakes. the both of you have know got a responsibility growing in you and in 71/2 months or less or more your little one will arrive and need your attention . so you will either need to be home schooled or have your mom or his mom baby sit for you so you can get that education you both need one to get a job to raise the baby or babys.

if you plan on adoption it may be better for all of you and you can choose the family but make this a decision between you and the baby's father.

please do not abort it will be the worse choice to make for not just yourself but the family, the father and the baby. abortion kills and at this time that little one has a heart beat and all his orgins are developing

remember this is not just a decision you should make because your still a child yourself and the both of you should have waited or used protection.

get in touch with planned parenthood because they can help and at this time your going to need all the help you can get.

I am 25 and had my first and there are still times I wish I would have waited and there are times I turn to my mom. I am out of work and home all day with my 8 month old I love every minute of it but I have no me time now.

Answer 11

the hardest thing you can tell to anyone. just work yourself up if the bedroom to have enough courage, walk out into the living room where your parents and blurt it out...otherwise you will just keep chickening out. and the guy should be the first to know. let them both know the same day, so word doesn't get out and your parents hear about it from someone else, that will make them mad.

DON'T LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE THAT SAY HAVE AN ABORTION. if you and your parents agree on keeping the baby, then keep the baby. if you guys don't think you can take care of it, then give the baby up for adoption. he/she deserves a life not death...please do the right thing.