My close friend has asked to baby-sit my little one for a night. I guess just to give me a break and because she wants to spend time with him for a day. She will not smoke while the baby is with her but I still am concerned. Any feedback? Has anyone had a situation like this? I hate to tell her no, but I may have to if it endangers my child's health.
2007-11-04 13:15:15 · 16 answers · asked by Matava 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Why does she need to watch your child overnight? How old is your child? I would not leave an infant overnight with anyone, no matter how trustworthy, unless it was necessary. Your baby needs you. If you need a break, take the evening off and let her babysit, but make sure it's for a period of time that your baby will be comfortable with. Better yet, let her watch your baby in your home while you catch up on rest or household chores. That way if your baby gets upset, you're still there to comfort them. Also, most smokers can't go that long without smoking, so I'm not sure leaving your baby with your friend for a prolonged period is that great an idea. Smoke exposure increases the risk of SIDS, ear infections, etc, so it's not a good idea to expose your baby unnecessarily
2007-11-04 13:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would not leave my baby with anybody else but me "just for fun", while I'm home sleeping. When I need to take a break my husband, my mom or my brother take care of her for a couple of hours. You hate to tell her no? I thought we were talking about your baby, not hers? Wow, I never had someone asking me to give them my baby for the night so they could be with her (sounds like borrowing a doll when we were in school).
I wouldn't do it. In the case I needed to drop my baby for the night, it wouldn't be in a smokers house (even if she smokes outside during that time). Your friend could come over to your place and take care of the baby while you get some sleep?
You know what you have to do, really a personal decision.
2007-11-04 13:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pitusi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you trust her not to smoke while she's watching the baby then there really is no issue. While it's true that if she normally smokes in the house, the toxins can build up on porous surfaces like the couch, bedding, curtains there is really very little to no risk of this doing any damage to the baby, especially if she's only there occasionally. Just make it clear that there is no smoking while the baby is there (or she can only smoke outside, preferably with a coat on) and Enjoy your break.
2007-11-04 15:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she regularly smokes inside the house then I'd take a pass, even if she wouldn't be smoking inside the house while the baby is there. If she never smokes inside the house and will not be smoking while watching the baby then it wouldn't stop me. If you do have to decline just do it politely like "I'm not making a judgment on you, I'm just not comfortable and if I'm not comfortable with it I wouldn't be able to enjoy my break away from the baby."
2007-11-04 13:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was VERY strict when my daughter was born, she spent 9 days on a drip with an infection so I was paranoid. My sister smoked and I told her she wasn't allowed to hold or even go near the baby until she showered and changed her clothes. Washing the hands wasn't enough for me. She is now 21 months ans sis still smokes but all I say to do is wash your hands before playing with her.
2007-11-04 13:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well that's totally up to you. Go with your instincts though, this is your child and if you don't feel comfortable with it then don't let it happen. Personaly I wouldn't let my baby stay with a smoker. While I was pregnant I saw a specialist who told me never to let a smoker hold my baby unless they've changed their clothes and washed their hands. She said it has been linked to SIDS. So, I really won't take that chance. I've already told family members they can't hold my son because they smoke. They all respect my wishes.
2007-11-04 13:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one. There is a link to cigarette smoke and SIDS. Wait until your child is older to stay with this friend. A smoker's home is smoky, even if they're not smoking right then.
2007-11-04 13:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by stephcarson 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well do you need a break? If so as long as she smokes outside and no where near ou baby it should be okay. Also if possible maybe she should smoke outside the day before to let the house air out. I don't like smoking around kids but I know it is unavoidable. My mom smokes and I let my baby around her house. Under those circumstances though.
2007-11-04 13:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by arwensilverwind 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
as long as she smokes nowhere near the baby and washes hands it will be fine. my mom had 8 babies and smoked all through pregnancy {very bad, i know} and then smoked in the house with all the kids as well as my father doing the same . but all 8 of us are healthy and the oldest is now 49 and no breathing problems or health issues . although i never let anyone smoke in the house with mine.
2007-11-05 02:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by tiredmomof3 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
2nd hand smoke would nicely be only as volatile to an infant as any smoke. it may convey approximately allergies, allergies, Reactive Airway ailment, or surprising infant dying. your loved ones would desire to placed some thing over their clothing (substitute shirts, or use a conceal-up) and WASH their palms in the previous retaining the child after smoking. that's what I make my mum and dad do in the previous retaining their infant contained in the wellbeing center, in the event that they scent like smoke.
2016-09-28 08:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by hone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋