My son girlfriend say she might be pregnant and had 2 urine test sayting negative and waiting for results she is having tantrum and being mad at me and says she wont let me be part of baby life i'm his mom by the way, Shes has mental issues and demand 24 hr. attention they both are 17yrs. old.
2007-11-04 12:34:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
As a grandparent you dont have any rights to the baby. Thats just how it is. Emotionally you may feel like you should have rights but you dont. If this girl is mentally unstable then you should try to petition for custody on behalf of your son. So that he can have his child and not worry about a completely unfit mother being in the mix. And this way you also still get to be a part of the childs life.
2007-11-06 06:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by bella_babe_86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really not an issue because the two tests came back negative. so why bring up issues that don't exist? fighting over a baby that is not yet conceived? something wrong with that.
the girl demands 24 hr. attention? i'm assuming you mean from your son. they are both 17 year old children. you have no right to say that she has mental issues. she is a teenager who thinks she is in love. something all of us women have probably been through but quickly forget when we are adults. (we were a little mental too...i don't know, something to do with all those hormones and an irregular period)
to answer your question that in reality does not exist....you would not have any rights to an imaginary baby....(or a real one)
2007-11-04 12:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a grandparent, you will have extremely limited "rights" -- generally, you can request visitation rights, but that's about it. The Supreme Court's decision in 2000 (Troxel vs. Granville) made it difficult for grandparent's rights to come before parental rights, even to the need of a grandparent proving "harm" to a child by the parents.
IF she is pregnant, do all you can to help your son gain sole custody of the child. If she truly has a mental incapacity or some other problem (drug?), then make sure that it is noted and start documenting EVERYTHING -- if you pay for medical costs, etc., if she uses drugs, etc. Keep a daily diary, if you have to.
She's being a brat now, because she's scared and angry. Try your hardest to be a friend to her, no matter how many times you have to swallow your pride. She's young and stupid -- but if she's pregnant, she's got control of the baby.
2007-11-04 14:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Do grandparents have visitation rights?
The simple answer is "yes, but". The "but" is due to the limitations under which grandparent visitation can be ordered by a court. Grandparents typically may join an action between the parents, or even start an independent action, for the purpose of obtaining a court order for visitation with grandchildren.
The problem is that the grandparent may have to prove to the court that harm will occur to the grandchild in the absence of visitation. Since it is typically viewed that parents have a fundamental right to the care, custody and management of their child, only a compelling interest would be sufficient to allow a state (via its courts) to interfere with the parent's right to raise his/her child without such interference. This may be difficult to prove, since the grandparent has the obligation to prove that harm will result to the child's health and welfare should the court not order the parents to allow visitation with the grandparent. This is a difficult burden of proof to sustain."
Your best bet is to try and be supportive rather then pointing out things she is doing wrong, and bucking against her tantrum, ask her what you can do to help her out doing this time. If she turns out to pregnant, then she'll remember how supportive you were, however if she's not pregnant, I would really discuss with your son about taking a break from her, and better forms of birth control.
2007-11-04 13:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have GOT to be supportive and not judgemental right now. You and I both know that you know what is right for these kids, but it is their time to make the decisions. The more you push, the more they will pull. You can love that baby all you want to when it is here, but while she is pregnant, let her have some space and do not interfere unless she is doing something detrimental of course. Believe me, it will be worth it when that baby is born, because the wedge you drive right now can affect you and the grandchild's relationship forever. Believe me, this girl can keep the baby away from you more than you will know. Be civil and if you have to bite a hole in your tongue, do so.
2007-11-04 12:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by laura d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are 17, soon to be 18 probably by the time she has the baby she will be 18. You definitely will have no rights to that baby at all. I feel scared for your son's girlfriend cause you seem like you would be one of those controlling over protective, no girl is good enough for my son kinda Mothers. I bet she probably doesn't have mental issues, your probably just driving her mental cause your so controlling. Just back off and be there for them instead of driving them nuts with your opinions. She is probably mad at you for a good reason and you should do some self reflecting instead of immediately pointing the finger to her. If your so worried about the baby's well being and health then don't stress the mother out when she is pregnant!
2007-11-04 13:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by loseit 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well...if your son's girlfriend has mental problems...and is only 17..it sounds like it would be in the best interest of the baby if you help care for it..Im pretty sure once she has the baby she is going to regret not wanting help..and will be begging you for assistance..raising a baby takes a lot of work..and because they are both minors..i would say that you have the right to intervene when you want.good luck.
2007-11-04 12:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Macy 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have no rights, really, unless your son decides to sue for custody, and then it will be up to him. In the meantime, just try to be supportive. Your son's girlfriend is probably going through one of the most frightening situations in her life.
Good luck.
2007-11-04 12:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Darko 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents don't have any if little rights in the USA when it comes to their grandchildren. If this girl is even pregnant and has a mental disease sue her or rather make your son sue her for full custody.
2007-11-05 02:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, grandparents don't have any rights. Your son & his girlfriend would have to both be ruled as unfit parents, then the child MIGHT go to a grandparent or CYS.
2007-11-04 12:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋