I'm probly about 4 months pergnant, i have no insurence, the father of the bady took advantage of me thats way i'm pergnant, and my parents arn't supporting me, just making me feel worse and worse. My mom's boyfriend is kicking me out of the house. I know life is going to be really hard.
How can i get my mom, and familys support back? i feel like they are ashamed of me and want to hide me, mom my mom was going to make me drop out half way through my senior year, but i wont i refuse to. I need some support, maybe someone who has been through this before, or going through it... i work alot trying to get money... i just don't know what ealse to do...
2007-11-04 12:11:16 · 19 answers · asked by audie10 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your mother isn't ashamed of you; maybe disappointed, a bit angry, and not really sure what to do. Dropping out of school would have been the worst thing to do, so good for you that you know you will need your education forever.
Take care of your health, go to a counseling center for pg girls, and get all of the support you can find. It will take awhile for your mom to come around again, especially since she is in a relationship with someone who doesn't honor women. He is kicking you out, and yet he isn't married to your mom. Sad story. Forget him and find your own support system. He definitely will try to use this to shame you, so set your boundries.
While you are pg, it will be high hormone time, so a lot of this looks insurmontable. If you decide to keep the baby,it will be a long hard road, but you can do it, and thankfully, there are many programs to help you. Some suggestions have already been made here by others. If you decide to give the baby up for adoption, do it wisely. Think long and hard, and you make the final decision, as you are the one who will live with that decision for the rest of your life.
As to your boyfriend, be sure you get him for child support. There are no free FXXXX anymore; it is time men are made to be accountable and responsible for where they put the unprotected penis. And if you have a boy, teach him what he needs to know the your beau didn't....never think that as a boy, he is blameless. It takes two to get pregnant, but right now, only the woman suffers.
Again, there ARE places to help you. Don't despair; love that baby inside of you, and think happy thoughts as you put healthier people in your life. Good Luck...and don't, please don't allow the scoundral back in to pregnate you again. So many of them come back,say they are sorry, give another child and away they go. Don't fall for that line..just know YOU CAN DO IT!
2007-11-04 12:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 18 and 4 months pregnant...you have an advantage right there with insurance already. Go to your county's FIA office and apply for Medicaid and get a doc appointment, you shouldn't be missing those, period. Start doing a work at home business now, like being an Avon rep and get a clientèle growing now while you still have time to do so before the baby comes. Unfortunately, if your family's mind is made up about this, there isn't much you can do...right now they're seeing you as a teenager that's made a mistake, but it tends to be a whole different story once they realize that you are about to bring them a grandchild, and maybe even the only one they'll have. The tune tends to change quickly once they see the baby in person. Just hang in there for now, and use every available resource you can get your hands on.
2007-11-04 20:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered placing the baby for adoption? If you do, the adoptive parents/agency will pay for your prenatal care and the medical expenses for the hospital. Your mom and her boyfriend probably don't want to end up raising your child, so if you were placing it for adoption, then maybe they would be more suportive.
A lot of times if you have an adoption plan for your baby then the agency can even help you out with housing, food, etc. You are still young and raising a baby is TONS of work, even when you are married and there are two of you involved. Diapers, formula, wipes, clothes, etc. are expensive!
For more info visit www.itsaboutlove.org. THere is also a free 800# you can call confidentially to talk to a professional counselor about all your options. If you choose to keep your baby, they will help you find assistance and help you with parenting skills. If you decide to place the baby for adoption, they will help you through the process and let you select the family you want your child to be placed in. Good luck to you! They can help you and where there is help, there is hope!
2007-11-04 21:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 17 and about 1/4 of the way through my senior year. I had the support of my parents and it was still tough. I didn't want to get up and go to school and then go to work from there. But I did what I had to do and graduated 2 months before I gave birth. It is going to be hard for you, but hang in there and graduate school. Good luck.
2007-11-04 21:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and raise your baby. I got pregnant at 15 and am 18 now with a 2 year old son. I'm in 11th grade and working 12 hours a day plus going to school half a day to take care of myself and my son. I've been on my own since my parents threw me out at 15. It's hard work taking care of a kid but I accepted responsibility for my actions and am glad I didn't abort my son or give him up for adoption.
2007-11-05 10:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by wolfkarew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard. I feel your pain. What you should do is call your mom and ask to see her for lunch or something. Talk to her over lunch. Tell her about how you feel that the father of the baby used you, and you are having trouble, really just let it out. Don't drop out of college please though, that would be so sad. If you want your baby to have a nice life, you are going to need a education. Try to talk everything out, because words are louder then actions.
Best wishes,
Lola
2007-11-04 20:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by wut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly, well done for keeping the baby and still going to school alot of people will give you credit for that but some people wont. i think if your family isnt going to give you support you should show them that you can have a baby and get good grades. my mum wass 19 and had two children she wasnt with my dad for a while and she still went to uni and had another two. at the end of her university she had four children a degree in tectnolgy a good job and family and she even worked on being close to my dad and finally fell in love with him again
my mum just showed all of her family friends and more importantly her children that she can have a job have four children under the age of 22 and still be happy with life
goood luck and i hope everything will turn out alrite for you remember this is a baby it needs love and care and it will be happy
2007-11-04 20:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Show your Mom that you are trying: get your GED and maybe go to community college (you can probably get a Pell grant for this; you won't have to pay it back.) At the very least, sign up with Job Core before you turn 24. And GET AN ORDER FOR CHILD SUPPORT!!!
2007-11-04 20:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by wiccanhpp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call planned parenthood and stay in school then get some college loans..to support yourself and your baby until you have a job..and are working on a getting a steady career!!!
Good Luck i hope everything goes well...and you and the baby are healthy!
2007-11-04 20:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by ipod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay in school this always happens at my old school they call it the mommy daddy school. lol its kind of embarassing but i learn alot. just stay in school talk to your mom alot of girls can do it at my old school just try to stick it through. you are going to need an education to get a good job and money for the baby. don't worry it will all work out.
2007-11-05 13:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♫JOSH_BE_GOOD♪ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋