I have seen a guy about 3 or 4 times in the past 3 weeks or so. I actually met him last summer, we had ONS type deal. I got his # but never called him because he didnt seem interested. Our mutual friend would tell me he'd been asking for me tho. So i added him to myspace, he wrote back immediately and said we should meet up. Shortly after we did. I ended up having sex with him...since then we've met 3 times, had sex on 2 of those times. I saw him last night and i've finally realized that we just have nothing in common and he is cold and i think a player! I feel like crap! I have been the one to do drive to his place, i even mentioned that today and he goes, yeah it's been pretty sweet. Then i left today, no hug, no kiss, no plans to go out again. I'm just done. I always fall for the bad boys...but now we have mutual friends so i'm sure ill be hearing about him...he also has a 4 month old baby...is not with the mother. He's 29, hangs out with 21 year olds. I feel dumb!!!
2007-11-04 12:02:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we;ll unfortunatley i had sex with him right away...i was drunk, had no intentions of anything else happening...but i guess i had to try it out again.
2007-11-04 12:08:59 · update #1
snotero what the hell did u respond for then
yeah it is nothing, it was nothing...end of story. I just cant have casual sex i gues.
2007-11-04 12:09:46 · update #2
Personally, I think it was doomed from the beginning. It sounds like you made it seem that you only wanted a casual relationship on the outside, but inside you really wanted something more. Next time, be up front and honest about what you expect.
2007-11-04 12:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have something in common...SEX. As long as you allow yourself to be intimate and leave the "scene of the crime" he is going to think that you are OK with this type of arrangement. Him having a child doesn't mean anything lots of children are born out of wedlock unfortunately but if he is taking your kindness for a weakness you need to move on. How about the next time you have to be around him and he pursues you have fun, smile and IGNORE him you can be civil but allow him to see that he doesn't have you tied around his little finger...and most important let some one FIND YOU not the other way around...don't be the next mother of his children just because feelings are one way...Good Luck!
2007-11-04 20:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Or just hey you! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen we all have thing we wish we hadn't done but we can,t let them totaly consume our lives. Men are there to take advantage of those women who are the most vunerable. Kind of like lions cutting the wounded from the herd. If by chance we fall victim to one such mal of the species then we as strong women must suck it up and procede with our lives as if nothing has harmed us. This is the only true way to get through all the b-------t that comes our way in life. That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? It sucks doesn,t it?
2007-11-04 20:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by seretazandrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turned a 1ns into a 4ns, it's over, you had no emotional investment so nothing lost. Take a deep breath, maybe treat yourself to dinner, and move on.
If friends talk about him, just smile and, if needed, say "yeah, we just didn't click." That's all there is to it, it's true, and that's all anyone needs to know.
2007-11-04 20:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chalk it up to experience and move on. don't have sex so early in the relationship. it helps weed out the jerks
2007-11-04 20:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just treating you like a booty call. Don't get to involved with him.
2007-11-04 20:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by BZCranium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but what's your question? What you wrote seems more like a statement.
2007-11-04 20:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got what you paid for, so-to-speak.
2007-11-04 20:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋