Why can Dad's be soVerbal Abusive??

Question

its about my friend....i worry about her alot...
I am not understanding why men are so stupid???? I have seen men just treat there kids anyway.....It makes me SICK. I know someone who lives this life n i really get tried of seeing it...I have decided to help her get help. But, I really doont know why dads have to be so ABUSIVE. towards there kids. I know men that would make great dads and it makes me sick to see them not able to have kids with there wives.....but, then again ppl like this act this way...always cusing and raising hell....callin her names...and making fun of her.....ppl like this shouldnt ever be a family man....i think he is a DRUCK....Or alteast thats what i hear....But, why do ppl think they can get away with this kind of stuff>????? its alot of depression that goes on....But my boyfreind thinks i should stay out of it.....but, i feel like i should help her.......what should i really do???

Answer 1

Should? Thats a matter of perception. Whats the right perception about this to have? Well thats the true kicker. Thats a hard one to explain, but man would it help you know what you should do..... Lets put it like this, the fix requires YOU to see alot more into this world then just help. For starters that feeling you feel isn't exactly "nothing". Its actually a deep seeded need to help were you see help needed. It's natural, but ill placed if your not going to take this all the way. And all the way means being their for the abused, for the rest of their lives. Think about it! You married your husban, tell you get a divorce, then your done with them, IF you don't make it tell "death does you part". This persons going to need to be their (not in presences but you most be willing to give them that felling!) for ATLEAST that long, with no divorce. In other words serious stuff. If your not going to take it that far, learn from this, find ways that DO help. But trust that this stuff runs deeper then what your simply seeing here, and for you not to treat it that way, is only going to make it worse....... its power to help people hunnie, and with power, comes responsibility